What would you think if a BF said this?

[LuckyAquaExpert]

"I'll sort myself out" when I didn't want sex. He said he was excited and wouldn't be able to sleep unless he could get pleasure.

It made my stomach turn but he's saying that it's more considerate of him.

Wouldn’t bother me at all.

I'd think, crack on.

Night then

wouldn’t care

Cool beans

Stomach turn? Are you phobic of masturbation?

Yeah it's fine, especially if he's going to be sleeping next to you. Isn't it normal to do that, if you are feeling frisky?

I don’t see the problem?

I wouldn't think anything. He's taken your no and dealt with it himself, would you rather he pestered you??

No, I just think it's odd as he never mentioned that before. He might just wait until it might suit us both

It somehow made me feel pressured. That's how I read it, wrongly or not

Nothing odd about it. It suits him now, so he wants to act upon it. I’m quite sure it’ll still suit him when it next suits you.

Wouldn’t/Doesn’t bother me.

Why would this bother you?

Eh?

So being in a relationship with you means he's never allowed a wank? 😳

Just meant he's never responded that if I wasn't in the mood

Haven't you ever said that to him.. when you want it and he doesn't? Seems strange it's bothering you.. guess you're only young. Do you live together? Surely this has happened before.. I'd just say.. crack on.. don't wake me up and clean up afterwards.. it's 100% normal... nothing odd about it.. l mean l didn't expect my husband to go without after I'd given birth/ had an operation/ an hysterectomy.. he just got on with it.. and yes some people who are feeling randy or whatever do need sexual relief for sleep/ mental health etc.. orgasms are very healthy.

Surely it can be both? He can have a wank now, and want to have sex with you when you’re in the mood.

You need to work through the feeling pressured with yourself, and why you’d automatically feel that. Poor experiences with sexual partners in the past who did try to manipulate you into sex? Unless he’s tried to pressure you, he isn’t them. Think of it like wanting to do anything else but your partner wanting the mood - you’d probably go out and do it on your own, or find a friend.

I’d find this odd tbh. Lying in bed trying to sleep while he’s getting himself off- it’s a bit cringe. While it’s perfectly natural I consider it a private thing to do!!

I'm going through peri menopause at the moment. Sex drive has taken a nose dive but I've tried my best to be as interested as I can

I can see many people on here think I'm being unreasonable!

You’re being controlling. A man posting about being disgusted by his female partner wanting to masturbate would be ripped apart.

He's not pressuring you to have sex after you've said no, so I wouldn't have a problem with it. Though I might ask him not to keep me awake.

I could see that viewpoint to be fair, it's his body

I'm quite prudish in many ways, I'd probably rather not know if he did masturbate to be honest. I felt awkward waiting for him to come back to bed 😅

I’d say it’s a win-win for both? I’m guessing you wanted to get what you want but you’re not happy he’s in control of his own body and allowing himself to get what he wants without bothering you? You wanted him to wait until you were ready on another day? That’s not allowing him to touch his own body, very controlling.

I can see that point now. I really didn't feel I was being controlling as I didn't show any reaction or try stop him. I just felt a bit awkward