I'm not goofy, would that put people off?

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Just trying to be more ok with who I am. I have a friend who will just jump into random voices, accents, make funny noises (not in a strange way) and stuff like this.
Will pull crazy faces in pictures and stuff like that.
I'm more reserved, i don't think either is right or wrong, I like having fun, joking etc. But I don't feel comfortable doing the above. She's sort of hinted that I'm a bit stiff and need to be funner, I'm not good at accents and I just feel a bit daft with stuff like that.
Does it sound like I need to change or we just aren't compatible?

Just be your authentic self

Manic Pixie Dream Girls are hell on wheels.

Comgraulations youre not one

She's said something like I'm not being myself. But this is me, I don't know how to explain. I might occasionally do an accent or something but I generally don't do singsong voices or anything like that.

She sounds annoying tbh

I didn't know how to vote but do not try to be like your friend. She sounds really annoying.

Normal People don't put on accents or talk in a sing song voice.

People seem to love that, though, whereas people seem to generally like me but aren't as drawn to me as her.

Maybe she's hotter...

But she sounds very annoying. I wouldn't enjoy that behaviour.

I can't believe that's true. I imagine she would attract a lot of attention that way but that doesn't mean people love it.

Some people will like how she is. Some people will like how you are. Your friends will love you for who you are, and good relationships, of any sort, feel good, they don't make you doubt who you really are.

Oh there is absolutely no need to act like that Op. People that pull faces when you take pictures of them are totally annoying. You sound the more genuine one to be honest.

It's just in relationships I've often found they prefer that. They see it as more exciting and thrilling.

There's a big difference between being naturally outgoing/gregarious and trying to force yourself to do those things. People can spot a fake! Just be who you are.

Be yourself, not her.

When I did teacher training there were the jokey teachers and the calm ones. The jokey teachers would tell me I needed to be like them to connect with the class but I also watched the calm teachers so I knew that wasn't true. Nothing so awkward as trying to be someone you are not. Be yourself. In the words of the song # it takes every kind of people to make what lifes about.

Showing off and grabbing attention with expansive gestures and funny voices etc is very extroverted. But not everyone is or should be an extrovert.

just tell her you are more introverted and that’s that.

I value both my extroverted and silly friends and my more serious and reserved friends!

As I believe the genie says in Aladdin, Just Be Yourself.

Her behaviour is fine.

Her criticism towards you is not fine and she needs to be told.

If it’s not you, then it’s not you. You can’t fake that kind of personality. People will be able to tell if you do. To be more authentic you need to accept yourself for who you are.

Yeah, some people like that kind of chaotic attitude. Personally I prefer more calm or deadpan people.

Your friend sounds annoying.

You be you, she can be her. Neither of you are the right way to be or the wrong way to be. You can't imagine being like her, she can't imagine being like you - it's just that, because she's extroverted, she feels comfortable telling you that whereas you perhaps don't.

There's nothing wrong with either of you. This thread will be flooded with people saying "sounds insufferable", "you are the right way to be" - that's rubbish, you're just different people. Be how you feel comfortable.

She does sound annoying, and very wearing. But maybe it comes across better in person?

But she shouldn't be being rude to you about your personality, ever. I don't think I've ever pulled a face in a photo, nor do I do accents, silly voices or 'funny' noises. And I do ok. I strongly think I'd find it hard to be round someone who behaved like that, I'd be far more drawn to someone quieter and less thirsty for attention, with whom you could have a conversation without them suddenly doing 'a bit'. You may never have as many Facebook friends, but you'll likely end up with far more real, genuine, supportive friends if you're just yourself.

Id rather have you as a friend than her

There’s nothing wrong with being loud and silly and entertaining people…and there’s equally nothing wrong with being more quiet and reserved.

Just be yourself, maybe people do like her personality but when two people with big personalities hang round together then it’s not fun, especially if one is faking it.

we can’t all be the same, and it would be boring if we were all mad 😂