I'm not goofy, would that put people off?

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Just trying to be more ok with who I am. I have a friend who will just jump into random voices, accents, make funny noises (not in a strange way) and stuff like this.
Will pull crazy faces in pictures and stuff like that.
I'm more reserved, i don't think either is right or wrong, I like having fun, joking etc. But I don't feel comfortable doing the above. She's sort of hinted that I'm a bit stiff and need to be funner, I'm not good at accents and I just feel a bit daft with stuff like that.
Does it sound like I need to change or we just aren't compatible?

Some (like your friend) people love the limelight and attention and behave accordingly. Some people (like you and me) are quieter and prefer not to be the centre of attention. There nothing wrong with either way, the world needs both.

My SIL is one of my best friends. She is definitely the first type. As soon as she walks into a room, she knows everyone, has made everyone laugh, told a funny story, done a couple of accents, probably danced a bit. I love her. She has great energy and life is never dull when she is around. If I were the same way it I think it would all get a bit much.

in another friendship group there are three goofy/zany types. They quite often end up shouting over one another to be the focus of attention and it can be embarrassing to watch. I cringe for them.

We can't all be queen bees. Us more reserved types are important in a group too.

I like having friends like this because when you don't want to be the centre of attention or just want to be a bit quiet, it's useful for someone else to take the spotlight.

I wouldn't like having friends like this if they kept telling me I needed to be more like them, especially in a dating context.

Not sure it's even possible to be that kind of silly, face-pulling kind of goofy if it doesn't come naturally to you.

I just can't shake the feeling that this is what most men prefer, I don't know why. I just want to be loved for who I am and not told I need to change.

I think she’s trying to justify the ‘so scatty, I’m mad I am, oh get me!’ persona she’s using as her USP. Only it’s not that unique.
At the right time, in the right place, in the right company, all that behaviour is appropriate. And the next day you say “oh it was so funny, we were all falling about, it’s great to be silly sometimes” and then you get on with adult life.
Most men I know, both those my age and younger ones at work, would be laughing AT her not WITH her, very different thjngs.
Keep doing you (with a funny half hour thrown in regularly).

You've just described me!

For a long time I struggled with it and felt I was "boring", but in middle age I've found my tribe. We're a really mixed bunch and indeed some are "goofy", butntheres a place for everyone and I'm appreciated for being thoughtful and organised and "interesting" rather than funny. I am actually funnier than I appreciated too, but it will be a small observation or response rather than "mad".

Respectfully, the only thing you need to change is this weird, untrue, entrenched belief thst ‘men’ want crazy jazzhands women as some kind of blanket thing.

Sure, some people will think you’re dull as ditchwater as you are, but literally no one is appealing to everyone in the world. I wouldn’t contemplate shagging anyone who used textspeak, misused semi-colons or didn’t have an opinion on which is the greatest 19thc novel, for instance. None of those are a consideration for some people.

You should be loved for who you are. Do not settle for something other then that or become someone different because you think you should.

Im probably a bit like your friend (it masks uncomfortableness for me but I’d never force someone to do it!) and my fabulous best mate is more like you…and of the two of us, the one who is far more successful with men is not me!

Well, you do need to change your thinking that this is what most men prefer because it's patently not true and the truth is all around you on every bus, in every cafe, all over the world. Perhaps you need to expand your social groups or what you watch/read/study so you don't get stuck in this unhelpful, unfounded thought pattern. The right person will love you for yourself and not want to change you. If men prefer women who don't act like you, they're not right for you and that's fine.

Your friend sounds really annoying and you sound cool to me, and I think most people will agree with me. These wacky, zany, goofy types are just annoying. Be yourself.

WTF!