Am I pearl clutching?

[MumBlingAgain]

Neighbours teenage child had a party on Saturday. On the day, I was told there would be a birthday party in the garden and I said no problem, enjoy it, a bit of noise is fine.
Our gardens are tiny London gardens (think 5x5 meters, just enough space for a garden table and chairs) and back on to an old people's home so in my head, their party would be relatively civilised, or at least, end at 11pm.
To be fair, it wasn't horrible, but it was loud music playing and about twenty teens singing along until midnight. At midnight the music and singing continued but was turned down a little. At that
point 30 minutes of relentlessly banging the front door as teenagers made their way into the street shrieking loudly and talking as if they were on Oxford St, not some sleepy family suburb full of families sleeping.
So now I'm a bit torn.
AIBU to think that considerate people would not throw a party like that in a garden of a tiny terrace with so many neighbours, not even as a one off?
Or is it ok for one Saturday night in summer to keep all the neighbours up?
What bothers me is that they could have had the same fun party but perhaps ended it 30 minutes earlier, or at least, asked guest not to bang the door and to keep it quiet in the streets.
I also suspect another neighbour or the old people's home may have complained and that's the reason why the music volume went down at midnight, rather than out of an effort they made to be considerate (otherwise why the loud banging and shrieking on the other side of the property)

They didnt keep you up all night.....

Honestly even with the drip feed I think you are being uptight. Building works…well yes, that happens, especially in areas that people are moving into with children, annoying, crap to live next door to, but normal, parcels - we have NEVER said it is ok for delivery companies to deliver to our neighbours and try to arrange deliveries when we are in, but parcels are regularly left with neighbours and turn up when they weren’t supposed to - if they say thank you then that’s again, annoying but normal and a one off party you were warned about that finished at 1am, got quieter at midnight l, but where teenagers with undeveloped frontal cortex’s slammed doors as they left - annoying but not twatish and in fact normal. You are cross because you are hot and tired - fair enough - but your neighbours don’t sound that awful.

oh dog - yeah ok, that’s twatish

A couple of years back some teenagers threw an end of school party at a place a few doors down. They were loud, the music was loud, it went on way past midnight. Then they decided to go on the trampoline. It got louder, screaming etc. At that point I went and knocked and suggested to the lad who opened the door that drunk teenagers on a trampoline was a really bad idea and someone was going to get hurt which would shut down the party.

He came down the next day with a box of chocolates to say thank you.

Nothing wrong with the odd party.

Ok, for all those saying I was not kept up "all night" that's correct. I was kept up only for part of the night 😊.

Your children will grow into teens that want evening parties. And are unlikely to want to invite the neighbours 😂

You sound like a great neighbour!

They should have hired a halll. Used to drive me insane. I had to get up at 5 and I had a number of neighbours who sometimes had massive parties.

I’m sorry but the fact that you happen to have children who go to bed at 7pm and you go to bed yourself at 10pm on a Saturday doesn’t mean everyone else has to keep to your hours. They let you know in advance (which they don’t have to do) and the party finished at 1am which is a little late, but really not that late as a one-off.

You and your kids missed a bit of sleep on one Saturday night. Mildly annoying by no harm done and I think you’re being really uptight.

oh get over yourself honestly you live in a city noise from neighbours is just something you have to deal with.

its not constant if it was that's a different issue

the world does not revolve around the sleeping patterns of your family

As it was a one-off, I’d let it go. . They did warn you about the party, and perhaps because of the good weather, they stayed outside longer than you would normally.

Meh it's a one off and a Saturday night, I'd just let it go tbh

Small children of course are infamous for never making any ear piercing noise that might disturb neighbours.

posters saying I am uptight... you're not wrong!
i am generally more relaxed about stuff but definitely running low on patience these days.

That's why I'm checking in with mumsnet, trying to keep my behaviour relatively sane 😊.

In general, the consensus on the thread makes me realise that people in London tend to do what suits them without thinking too hard, and maybe that's liberating in the sense that I too can stop doing favours for neighbours when it doesn't suit me.

Regarding taking packages, this post made me realise that this is one of those boiling frog situations where I've just realised it's too much! I'm going to stop answering the door to postmen unless neighbours explicitly ask me for a favour.
i think delivery men have identified our house as one of the only ones on the block where someone sometimes works from home, I'm through with being their receptionist.

Sleep deprivation?
It was Saturday night.
It's now Monday!

YABU

I really like peace and quiet (live in a detached thick stone walled property thank goodness), but surely it’s acceptable for someone to have a party and let go once in a while.

1pm is not that late.

We were all young once.

Count yourself lucky you don’t have to put up with it week in week out, like some poor people do.

Your pearls would have snapped if you lived where I used to. In a victorian terrace on a massive street. The arseholes opposite used to celebrate each decade of her birthday, with a proper DJ in her back garden. She prepared everyone how loud it would be and how it wouldn't end until 4 am. The sound carried around like it does, in a park with big speakers. We were all extremely reasonable, given those circumstances.

This

It's done.
Next time just go out and ask them to be quiet.

I would probably find this mildly irritating at a personal level, but I think compared with what could have happened this is actually fine.

I remember many decades ago going to a party as a teenager which involved someone's house being utterly trashed (not just at a surface level but actual structural damage: a staircase banister being pulled down). The parents had gone away and left a 15 year old and a 13 year old in charge and the house was invaded by pretty much everyone in the neighbourhood, including much older people. It was mayhem, there must have been over a hundred people in a small terraced house. It went on all night, the police were called. Furniture was thrown out of the window. Hard drug paraphernalia was found in the house and garden the following day.

This sounds like normal, healthy high sprits by a bunch of good-natured teenagers. If it was happening every month you might have a point but in the interest of good relations I'd suck this up and let it go.

Ouch. 4 am is too much.
I'm guessing this person was not a very valued member of the community.

It didn’t go on too late and teens would not even consider the door banging thing. It’s fine.

If they are good neighbours & it's a one off then let it go. It's late but not terribly late in the grand scheme of things & it doesn't sound like they were causing any trouble? Teenagers need to let off steam too, & there are not many places they can do that anymore

It was one night, get over it.

You'd be the first to defend your babies keeping everyone up or making annoying garden noise because some mums seem to think any kiddie noise all day everyday is ine but heaven forbid teenagers have one party one time.

Not particularly. I just don’t mind people having a good time from time to time.

Yes, presumably somewhere there are neighbours who work nights but noone would bat an eyelid at a daytime party which may well keep them awake!

Wish I could be asleep by 1am. Especially in this pigging heat.