Am I pearl clutching?

[MumBlingAgain]

Neighbours teenage child had a party on Saturday. On the day, I was told there would be a birthday party in the garden and I said no problem, enjoy it, a bit of noise is fine.
Our gardens are tiny London gardens (think 5x5 meters, just enough space for a garden table and chairs) and back on to an old people's home so in my head, their party would be relatively civilised, or at least, end at 11pm.
To be fair, it wasn't horrible, but it was loud music playing and about twenty teens singing along until midnight. At midnight the music and singing continued but was turned down a little. At that
point 30 minutes of relentlessly banging the front door as teenagers made their way into the street shrieking loudly and talking as if they were on Oxford St, not some sleepy family suburb full of families sleeping.
So now I'm a bit torn.
AIBU to think that considerate people would not throw a party like that in a garden of a tiny terrace with so many neighbours, not even as a one off?
Or is it ok for one Saturday night in summer to keep all the neighbours up?
What bothers me is that they could have had the same fun party but perhaps ended it 30 minutes earlier, or at least, asked guest not to bang the door and to keep it quiet in the streets.
I also suspect another neighbour or the old people's home may have complained and that's the reason why the music volume went down at midnight, rather than out of an effort they made to be considerate (otherwise why the loud banging and shrieking on the other side of the property)

Again, as a one-off, I don’t think this is a big deal. There are nights with young children where no one sleeps well, whether it’s because of heat, illness, nightmares, noise etc.

You could have a quiet word and say hope X had a nice birthday, next time would it be possible to wind up at midnight as you were all awake till 1. I’ve had house parties and you just can’t tell how much you’re disturbing the neighbours or not.

But no annoying as this must have been they weren’t unreasonable, kids celebrating at home with parents on standby is much safer and I suspect you’ll change your tune when yours are older.

Our NDNs recently went away for a long weekend and arranged to have their extension roof replaced while they were gone.
They said nothing about it before or after but we had to listen to relentless banging and shouting for three days.
It was a bigger job than they’d expected and so they started early at half seven am and finished at quarter to ten at night.
It was very irritating but generally they are ok. It’s annoying but you either have to go complain at the time or just let it go.
Why didn’t one of you go in and tell them they were being too loud? Them letting you know in advance doesn’t mean you have agreed not to complain if it gets too much.

As long as it’s a one-off I’d let it go. It was a Saturday night not a weekday. I hate neighbour noise with a passion but I can take a deep breath and suffer one night if they are otherwise good neighbours.

Sometimes when my dog wants to go for a wee in the garden at 1am I can hear one of the neighbours playing music and having a loud natter/laugh in their garden and an elderly neighbour who sometimes has his tv full blast in the middle of the night, but my double glazing is very good and once my windows are shut I can’t hear a thing outside.

Once in a while is fine. If you generally have a good relationship with the neighbours then id leave it.

Thank you all for the responses.
As mentioned previously, I will not be making a complaint...
but, after 2 years of noisy houseworks and now this party, I think my mind is made up about what kind of twats neighbours these people are.
It's also the almost daily packages we take in for them and the yapping of their dog at all hours of the night.
from now on I plan to stop texting if we take in one of their packages and also stop answering when the postman knocks. Our delivery settings are such that packages can be delivered to the shed so I don't plan to interrupt my day for these people anymore. They should also get their bloody packages delivered to the shed instead of having our doorbell rung since they know they work in office and nobody is home.
And if we didn't have other neighbours (and a light sleeping 5 year old) I would play loud music in our garden tonight too 😂.
any mumsnet stories of "neighbourly" revenge welcome 😊😊

But they don’t, so…..?

Oh. So they have been inconsiderate over a long period of time then? You made it sound like it was a one off. If you'd have included all of that in your first post you'd have had completely different responses...

Yes you are pearl clutching.
it was a one off party. Get over yourself.

I think once in a while is not worth making a fuss about. We've been kept awake by neighbours parties occasionally, it's annoying but it's only now and again. I wouldn't worry about the Old People's home, their hearing probably isn't the best! Our elderly neighbours used to say our boys are so quiet (they definitely weren't!) we never hear them! Sometimes being a bit deaf is a blessing! 🤣

I stayed with family in Brixton the neighbours party finished at 5am 😭😭😭😭😭😭

I’d expect music to be off by 11.30; that’s the norm with my teeagers peer group parties. Kids are collected at 11.30 and music is off although I wouldn’t let my teen host a party if we lived in a terrace house

They're probably all deaf in the care home and didn't hear a thing.

Let it go op let it go.

Are you saying that because most people don't misbehave, some people can get away with doing it from time to time?
like if my husband hits me just once in a blue moon, it's ok?
or if I let my pet poop on the neighbour's doorstep and don't pick up just once, it's ok?
I'm not following.
at any rate, the issue has been resolved.
i will be withdrawing privileges from these people who have never once done us a favour but seem to rely a lot on our neighbourly grace.

Yes, this is sensible. But no more packages or other favours 😂😂

I have a strict rule that says, ANYONE can throw one ridiculous rager that keeps the entire neighbourhood awake OCCASSIONALLY. Once per year, max.

This wouldn't even ping my "potential asshole" radar.

Bit of a dripfeed there that you already find these neighbours inconsiderate....

I’m saying a one off occasion of being inconsiderate is more forgivable than constant lack of respect. And if it was yet another broken nights sleep I would have more sympathy. But it’s once for a special occasion and not so bad all in all so I couldn’t get too worked up about it.

It’s annoying and I get it and if you want to withdraw privileges then that’s your right, but I would just think long and hard about creating conflict with people you have to live next door to and not to encourage worse behaviour in the future!

Yeah I just feel like all of these if taken as one offs one may say are ok. But in truth I felt this party even as a one off just denotes an attitude of not caring much about neighbours.
A bit of a "we can get away with it, it's not TOTALLY unreasonable, so why not"
Whereas nice people would think: there are at least 30 human beings in the close vicinity of this party (with pillows within 10 meters of the speakers!!)

these kids were younger than 18 so it was a party with mum & dad at home

Was it? How do you know that?

I think you're being a bit unreasonable - sounds like it was a one-off and at least they had the courtesy to let you know beforehand.

The odd teen party here and there doesn't bother me - I'm more bothered by middle-aged brayers getting out of Ubers in the early hours bellowing into their mobiles or yelling good night to each other. Or the bastard who walks his yappy dog just before midnight.

Ah sounds like the straw that broke the camels back OP.

Hmmmm no mention in your OP of them being previously inconsiderate and your question asks AIBU to think that considerate people...... which leads us to believe they were previously considerate. But now that people are telling you it's a one off etc, you're now mentioning the noise of the work and the parcels.

Technically the law states loud noise should not be after 11pm or before 7am. If it's a once in a blue moon thing I'd let it slide.

My teen stepsons have their friends over regularly where they play music and have pool party BBQs, but making noise outside doesn't go after 11pm as we are mindful of the neighbours and they are good bunch of lads.

If it's a one off I let it slide, it it's a regular occurrence I'd soon get pissed off.