DH unable to cope with my MH menopausal struggles

[Hamiltonfan]

Just that really. I have just started HRT and my emotions are all over the place. I apparently have been snapping at the family a lot for which I have apologised. But DH who is usually my best friend in the world seems unable to cope. It's as if he thinks I'm putting it on. We had a huge row on Friday night and haven't really spoken since. He has apologised for upsetting me but not for what he said. That's not really the same thing is it? Not sure where we go from here tbh. My son overheard (16) and is very upset.

I’m a woman….and I agree with this poster.

I am in the throws of peri ATM (only 43!) on a high dose of combined hrt as that was the only thing that would control my symptoms. On top of physical symptoms I became suicidal, randomly angry, crying as though the world was ending and irrational. The physical symptoms I could deal with, but the mental ones were really bad. I truly sympathise OP. Give yourself a chance with the hrt and if in 3 months there is no change, go back and ask for a review. Try and remind yourself this is a phase, and it will be worked out eventually. Unfortunately our other halves can't always understand what we are going through and that does make it harder. Hopefully your DH will learn. Sending love and hugs 💖

You will feel better op. The hrt will work.

when you are all calm go for a walk and talk it through. Both of you are changing (yep men get hormone fluctuations too) and your communication is going to have to get advanced and kind in both directions

Agreed. A very old friend of mine used to blame her many outbursts on being "hormonal" which drove me mad (not least because I was often on the receiving end). We used to joke that she'd be post-menopausal and it would turn out to be her real personality.

It drives me crazy. It's neverending. Before menopause it's PMS and all sorts of misogynistic jokes and put downs from men about us being hormonal or pre menstrual. Women buy into this nonsense too. Using periods as an excuse for emotional outbursts or anger. Then they wonder why we aren't taken seriously.

Thanks for the support. I hope you're never in a similar position, but if you are maybe you'll remember these comments.

I'm not supporting a grown woman who says she cannot control her behaviour.

Same, especially when people are saying others have to be educated into accepting behaviour that is rude, aggressive, bullying because that being OK be the rules for women ...

For what it's worth i haven't been rude, aggressive or bullying. Thank god I didn't post when I was really down as some of these comments could have pushed me over the edge.
Thanks to everyone who has offered support, reassurance, ideas of things to try. Too many of you to mention but I have read all your posts and am grateful.
Signing off now.

I’m sorry there are some awful people replying to you. They either had an easy menopause or they’re younger and they are in for a big shock! I feel for you. I hope you are ok.