To not really understand the need for people to drink alcohol all the time?

[BusWankers]

I really don't understand why people socialise and drink alcohol all the time, or go out specifically to get drunk and have fun, or all the "LOL Prosecco time!" At 11am in a Sunday. And people buying boxes if beers and 4 bottles of wine as part of the weekly shop.

I do drink, very rarely, sometimes for weddings or whatever.bit I really don't understand the normality of everyday drinking.

I know I'm in the minority, bit
..what gives?????

Probably because it’s fun and I say this even as an emergency services worker who knows very well the harm it can do. If you don’t like it then you don’t have to have one.

I don't really drink at home but I love a few glasses of fizz with friends or cocktails on a night out, a beer or two with dinner. I'm a social drinker and when you don't seriously over do it - it's fun! I don't really understand the drinking alone to unwind but I don't condemn it. My husband enjoys a few drinks at home at the weekend whereas I prefer tea and chocolate. Each to their own.

lol it’s their life ignore what you don’t like

my brother dad died alcohol addiction by 54/53
my ex husband is an alcoholic
my hairdresser was she died aged 44 of alcoholic addiction
but people are allowed to live how they like

Used to work at a supermarket. A guy bought the case of 18 Carling cans daily. A colleague lived opposite him in the flats and he lived a kind and had hardly anyone enter the flat.

Another lady bought a litre of vodka a day

At an estimated cost to the tax payer of twenty seven billion pounds per year (according to British Liver Trust) it’s something people can, and should, raise concerns over.

You don't need to understand why other people do what they do. If their actions don't adversely affect you, why are you so worried about other people's business

I’ve just discovered alcohol free Tanquerey (probably not the correct spelling), it’s almost as good as the real thing.

It’s a personal choice. I can’t drink every day or every week, but I like the occasional bottomless brunch.

Maybe you need a hobby or something.

I love a Friday and Saturday night glass or three of wine! It makes me actually sit down and not get on with chores. I very much dislike getting drunk now but when I was young I used to really like it as part of a night out. Now I’m only drunk I’d say once or twice a year at something like a long day at a wedding or lunch we sometimes do with friends and that’s just because we are sitting down and chatting for 8 hours. I think I’m much more aware and worry about the harm of alcohol so have my clear days in the week, I’m sure I never thought about that when I was young but I think people are much more aware now.

Each to their own. I don’t ‘get’ why people go running. Makes you hot and sweaty. In the longer run you can end up with knee and ankle problems (or drop dead at 46 like my DF) but hey ho, some people actually enjoy it.

Same with fake bright nails (make it harder to type) puffed lips etc. I just don’t get it. But that doesn’t matter. It makes them happy so who gives a damn what I think.

I like the nicely mellow feeling it gives me and I suspect that’s why people drink, to answer your question.
I don’t like to drink to get drunk anymore, I’m rarely more than slightly tipsy these days and even that isn’t a regular occurrence.
So for me that means maybe a half bottle of wine on a Friday night or a few glasses of spirits with a lot of mixer.

Another poster who can't fathom that other people have wants/needs/likes/dislikes that don't align with their own and think that everybody else is the problem.

I'm with you OP but have been on the other side too. I couldn't see the point in a night out without alcohol but that slipped into daily drinking to cover up the grief of nursing my mum who had terminal cancer. I worked full time but as soon as I was home the gin was opened and this continued for a year. I realised that I needed to go through the grief process and that meant I had to stop. It was so hard at first but I soon enjoyed the waking up fresh feeling rather than feeling absolutely hanging. Now I probably drink twice a year and feel the effects really quickly. I've saved so much money and would rather have a day out in the mountains enjoying the freedom than sat nursing yet another hangover. Each to their own I say x

I can’t seem to drink anymore. Anything more than one small glass of wine and I just feel dreadful the next day, fatigued and moody. If I get drunk then it’s a two-day full blown hangover. So I very rarely touch it, go months and months without a drink. I’m only 32 but I used to be able to go clubbing, drink loads and turn up to work a few hours later when I was 18 so it must be age!

I actually ponder the reverse. What the fuck do people do at the weekend if they don’t drink? Have a cup of tea and go to bed at 9pm? I’ve been around cultures and communities that don’t drink and they rely on infantile (and usually patriarchal) preoccupations and are dull as fuck.

Honestly, why does it bother you so much what other people do?
I like a glass of wine or a gin & tonic. I generally only have one or two and it’s certainly not “all the time” but it’s nice to socialise and have a couple of drinks.
if you don’t like to do that then fine but don’t judge other people for what they enjoy.
You sound very preachy…

People can do whatever they like, but the comments to ignore something that doesn't affect you are annoying because alcohol is something that affects everyone one way or another.

I voted YABU as for some of us our lives are so shit and unlikely to improve we drink to numb the pain.

Sometimes I wish I was dead

Drink herbal teas. I don't care about alcohol. And yes, usually in bed at weekend and weeknights 9pm.

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Nailed it.

From an addicts point of view I find moderate drinkers so fascinating! Drinking for any reason other than to get drunk baffles me. Id love to know what it feels like to have one and just.... Not want another??

It's so interesting, so people seem to be way more sensitive to dopamine than others. My partner can genuinely drink one and stop, he's not fussed. Whereas I couldn't ever have enough.

You probably aren't being serious with this one so I won't bother to enumerate all the possibilities of what you can do.
You probably also know that some people like having a tea and going to bed early, especially older folks, who don't feel such a strong need for socializing on the weekend.

Do the exact same thing that drinkers do just without drinking alcohol.

I bought a box of ciders today but I expect they will last me a while as I only have one or two at the weekend.

We had a couple of G&T’s in the garden last Sunday whilst doing a BBQ.

Some people like a glass of wine or a beer with dinner. I doubt most people are getting drunk every night but may have one drink a day. For a couple that could add up to 3-4 bottles a week (14 x 250 ml glasses a week) or a box of beers.