To not really understand the need for people to drink alcohol all the time?

[BusWankers]

I really don't understand why people socialise and drink alcohol all the time, or go out specifically to get drunk and have fun, or all the "LOL Prosecco time!" At 11am in a Sunday. And people buying boxes if beers and 4 bottles of wine as part of the weekly shop.

I do drink, very rarely, sometimes for weddings or whatever.bit I really don't understand the normality of everyday drinking.

I know I'm in the minority, bit
..what gives?????

I'd get straight onto them and complain. A pub advertising <gasp> alcohol? Whatever next!

😂at your gruel comment! Spot on.

@TheWorminLabyrinth I was not debating the point that a pub was advertising alcohol - I used to work in the pub trade for many years. It was the implication that it is not possible to have fun without alcohol.

I find this sort of hyperbole just as irritating tbh.

And it only ever seems to be non drinkers or very occasional who are harassed in this way.

I don't drink hugely. I'm on holiday at the moment, so I've had a pint or two every day. Mostly, just one. My partner has usually had two or three. He never asks me why I'm not having another. If I fancy a day of no alcohol and have a soda water, he never comments on it.

My friends are similar. Some drink more. Some drink less. I tend to go through phases. Sometimes I'll go out more often and drink more. Other times I go out less and drink less. Sometimes I still go out frequently and don't drink at all for weeks.

And not once has anyone ever questioned why I'm not drinking or only having one.

Yet people who drink rarely/never seem to be questioned on it all the time...

The Mummy = wine/prosecco thing is cringe, I agree with you there OP.

Hmmm I kinda get you @BusWankers I mean, some posters are saying 'but people are different, and people can do what they want' but I do find it odd when anyone over 25 keeps getting pissed/consuming alcohol in huge amounts, sometimes 3-4 days or nights of the week. Too much of it is bad for you, and yes - addicitve. Yet some people act like it's just such great fun to be pissed up for half their waking hours.

The worst thing about it is the booze obsessives who get all sniffy and arsey and salty, when someone has the audacity to not drink alcohol. Like they're some kind of freak. Just because YOU want to destroy your liver, look 10 years older than you are by the time you're 50, and have dried out pitted skin, and a permanent hangover, that doesn't mean everyone else should follow suit. 🙄

(I am not teetotal btw, but I only drink alcohol on maybe 20-25 days of any given year. Maybe a couple of days a month on average. Moreso on special occasions ... Weddings, nights out, meals out, Christmas, New Year's Eve, my birthday etc.)

I have.

I recall a thread where a op said they didn’t trust people who didn’t drink because the poster thought such people didn’t know how to have “fun.”

I don’t see threads like OP started often. The typical threads are often started by people who do drink alcohol questioning how much people drink here, if they should be concerned about their own habits or that of a spouses, and the latest ones were about pregnant women asking opinions on excuses to make for why they’re not.

I do kind of get what you are saying. My brother is an alcoholic, my partner has a drinking problem, some of our friends spend their whole weekends drinking.
It’s really unhealthy. These are late 30s to early 50s people. It’s not doing them any favours and drinking is too normalised in English culture.

There is a fine balance. I know what a unit is and although probably I drink more than I should I try to have no more than 20 units in a week.

It’s a dying trend too.
DD is 7 and already says she’ll doesn’t like drinking 🙈
I work with undergrad students and they don’t go out drinking because it’s a) too expensive b) they don’t want to be filmed drunk and it gets on social media.

You sound like a lot of fun

I drank like a fish from 16 - 26 ish and can still binge drink a huge amount if I want to but I cut down drinking a couple of years ago. I’m not strict about it (although I’ve never drunk at home) but probably only drink once a year if that. My partner is in AA so I don’t have alcohol at home or cook with it

Grew up in pubs so I’ve seen what alcohol does and I dumped a previous boyfriend over it. He was drinking 2 bottles of wine a night and when I asked him to cut down, swapped to 8 cans of lager instead
Saw a photo of him recently and he’s bloated, shiny and unwell looking

I rarely drink. It’s just not a big part of my life. So maybe 4/5 times a year I’ll have a night out. I think drinking all the time is highly dangerous and people don’t realise what they are doing to their bodies.

I rarely drink apart from special occasions and holidays, during which I love a few cocktails. Each to their own

It’s not, it’s because generally you’re a buzzkill.

Different people do like different things

but also alcohol has different effects on different people - sone get much worse hangover symptoms, others have genes that make them very tolerant to the worst symptoms of drunk and hangover and so get a bigger ratio of the feel good hormones

they have in fact identified sone of the genes involved - people with 2 alcohol tolerant genes ( one from each parent ) are much more likely to be alcoholic

surely it’s not hard to understand why people do something that gives them lots of feel good hormones ?

add to that sone inhibition relaxation - sone people are very uptight

so even if you don’t feel the same way you should be able to - at a logic level- understand this

Of course, you understand.You just wanted a judgy thread. It's classic MN faux naiveté.

I don’t get men (it’s always men) who are drinking beer at 8am when the ‘Spoons on my way to the gym.

Im more of a drinks person with food. Majority of people drink alcohol on an empty stomach- not good.

DD is 7 and already says she’ll doesn’t like drinking 🙈

Surely, that's normal? Especially if she sees the partner and uncle with drinking issues.

And yes, if I were an undergrad now, I probably wouldn't drink either. Thank fuck we didn't have social media when I was at uni.

I don't know anyone who drinks alcohol all the time
Just because you very rarely drink, doesn't mean anyone who drinks more than you is drinking a lot.

People buy boxes of beer in shops because that's the way it's packaged, you can't really buy one can of fosters or whatever, and it's the most economical way to do it. Or they're buying for the whole household (with more and more young adults living at home there could be three or four people sharing a bottle of wine of an evening, i.e. barely a glass each), or a party. It doesn't mean they are going to drink it all themselves that very day or even that week/month.

If you buy a 1kg bag of pasta are you going to go home and eat it all that day? Or is it to just have ready in the house if you want it?

The last time I bought wine I bought 6 bottles, because there was a deal to get 25% off if you bought 6. You probably would have judged me, but that was nearly 3 months ago and I still have 4 bottles.

Some people might drink quite a lot (still not all the time), but it's not the majority.

Of people were less judgemental and more accepting of others , the world would be a better place.

if you want to have a drink, then have one, if you don’t want to drink then don’t!

life is pretty simple.

In moderation it’s not harmful and it tastes great. Particularly in sunny weather. Chill out

I think every slice of cake I’ve ever eaten in my life has been under duress.

Oh there’s been quite a few!!

“Friend/ spouse stopped drinking and that annoys me”

”Friend wants soft drinks on a night out, AIBU not to buy them”

Etc.

I agree completely. I just don't see the point of alcohol

Poor you. I like cake so it's even harder because I can't eat them and not put on weight.

No point for YOU, but I bet you can see the point for other people.