Partnees ex wants to take child to America to live.

[Jamaisy82]

My partner in which we have a two year old child together has another daughter from a previous relationship who is 8. He plays an active role in her life and have a great relationship and has been there since day one and ever since. He used to have her one week on one week off and now it's every weekend as the ex changed this. She now has a new partner who lives in America and wants to take his daughter there to live, obviously my partner has said no as this means he would never see her. She is now seeking full custody of his daughter and now he has to go to court. Has anyone been though similar. My partner is so depressed through this he's a really good guy and it's sad she would do this to him for her own selfish needs.

OP, his solicitor should be advising him she is incredibly unlikely to be allowed to do this but also that she isn't making child focused thinking to even suggest it as a possibility.
If you and he would be happy to request a 'live with' Court Order then he should be pursuing that.

(a) That is not what you said in the OP and I am always rather dubious of drip feeds
(b) I wasn't addressing you anyway - I was responding to a poster who made all sorts of assumptions about a woman without anything to back them up.

I understand as I didnt put everything in feed. There's so much.

My DH did take his ex to court recently to stop her doing exactly this, only it was 200 miles away to the North of england not USA. It was pretty straightforward as the onus is on her to show there is advantage to the child to move away and like your situation, DH exW wanted to move to be near a boyfriend. The more evidence you can gather to show it will negatively affect his daughter the better eg impacting her education, loosing contact with wider family. Obviously things like being nearer family great job offer etc would go in her favour, however if its just she wants to be near her boyfriend I think he has no worries. DH case was over in about 10 minutes and she was unsuccessful to move.

This.
@Jamaisy82 This the route I’d go down
mum keeps cutting contact now what’s it take daughter to America that’s why she is alot img for full residency .
You counter apply for full residency as mum doesn’t have child’s best interests at heart here .

I hope your DP gets full custody and that lovely little girl can have a happy settled family life with her dad, you and her little half sister.
I doubt, given your partner's involvement in her life, that a court will allow her to take the kid to America. He needs to forget about the mother's feelings and file for full custody now.

Good.

How will the mum get a visa? It’s hard to immigrate into the US. Does she have a job offer?

Does the mum even have a realistic chance of moving to the US? They don’t allow people to just swan over because they want to and have an American boyfriend.

I could not disagree more. She is talking about moving to a new continent and separating her daughter from her father, this is not in the best interests of the child. My daughter would be devastated if I tried to pull this, especially to follow a man that I & she barely knew. It's outrageously unreasonable and the most selfish thing I've heard of on here. If a man was suggesting this everyone would be down on him like a ton of bricks.

No job offer, she says she wants to work as a nurse there though. We have no idea. It's all so weird. Her reasons aren't valid.

This.

He needs to find an experienced solicitor and start fighting this.

She can get a fiancé visa, get married there, and she would be able to get a green card.

Your DP needs to start fighting this asap.

Exactly, she has been happy for him to be part of her life since she was born and has always played an active role taking her to all the kids parties from school, parents evening etc. It's only now. His daughter absolutely loves her father and her little sister and this would devastate them. It's only happened now because he says he doenst agree to the move. She is now saying he is a controlling individual, just because he is saying no to the move so is seeking custody. So nasty.

UK nursing qualifications don’t convert to US nursing qualifications (the training pathway over there is significantly tougher). She’ll have to go back to nursing school to take a four year US BSN degree, so that doesn’t sound like realistic option.

If you want to stop this, you have to go to court and just suck up the stress.

He is at court he has a solicitor he is seeking custody he is doing everything he should obviously. 50 50 changed because her mother said it was too much swapping houses all the time which is affecting her behaviour. He has her Fri sat and sun every week so sees her often.

Yeah he is. Currently going through courts.

Yes he doing this.

Yes he's going to court. We awaiting date. He's been through solicitor etc.

Any evidence the relationship was good before and switched when he did not give consent for the move? Save this if so.

How did he lose joint custody?

Yes solicitor has said this. She is spinning loads of stories though. Saying he goes out every weekend and he has been out once in the whole time to a football award ceremony for 2 hours that's it. It's horrible when it's lies.

He didn’t. RTFT

Yes he prepared to have her full time if she wants to go to America.