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To refuse to provide bank statement to my work to prove I was in the office

977 replies

HanExplorer · 26/06/2025 09:07

I’ve found myself in a very unusual situation and am standing firm so far despite pressure.

I work in a hybrid role with a requirement to attend our office twice a week, this is measured monthly based on card swipe data. On one of the days in May, I forgot my pass so was issued a temporary one to use that day.

Earlier this month my manager flagged I was showing a day short for office attendance in May and said I’d need to make up a further day in June. I looked at the dates they had on record and quickly realised the missing one was when I had the temporary pass so that obviously hadn’t registered on the system.

I explained this to my manager and she still maintained I’d need to attend an extra day to balance the totals on the system as there ‘wasn’t any record of me attending’.

I realised I’d spent money in the on site restaurant that day and there’d be a record on my bank showing the company name. I screenshotted this on my phone, cropped it so you could see the date and sent it to my manager.

She has checked with her manager and told me that I need to provide a copy of a bank statement which shows my name and the transaction - that would of course also show all my other activity!!

This has been dragging on and I’m standing firm so far, but I’ve had a call booked in with my manager and her manager for tomorrow and I’m wary of what they are going to say.

My office is over an hours train journey each way so not a case of driving 5 minutes down the road to work a further day - regardless, I don’t feel I should do out of principle.

OP posts:
MellersSmellers · 28/06/2025 09:14

Yes, their application of this policy is shite and good that you've revealed the hole in relation to temp passes, but I think you've been unecessarily combative too. Even if your statements are electronic you can print them off and redact using a marker pen, not software - doh!. As for your comments that MNers are anti wfh.....what???

LemonLeaves · 28/06/2025 09:31

If they are issuing temp passes without keeping records, that's a huge security risk. How are they ensuring these are all returned at the end of the day, if they don't know how many they've given out?

If badge data is unreliable they can easily verify attendance through IT data. This would confirm the date and duration of your laptop was connection to the office network.

thepariscrimefiles · 28/06/2025 09:32

Itallcomesdowntothis · 27/06/2025 21:26

The policy confirms the adherence to the required office days is to be measured via pass swipe data. The company have a blind spot here with temporary passes which the Union will demand is addressed urgently.

Yeah you broke the policy. You didn’t bring your pass.

You attitude and approach stinks. I would expect your manager not to go out of their way to promote you or look favourably towards you at year end. You may say they aren’t allowed but there can always be a reason if there needs to be.

Celebrate your smugness on this win with an own goal on your career at that company going forward.

If her manager goes out of her way not to promote OP or look favourably at her performance when performance-based pay rises/bonuses are being considered, she would discriminating against OP and breaking the law. Given that the Union is pretty influential in OP's company, OP's manager would be on very dodgy ground if they deliberately did this out of spite because their conduct in demanding a copy of OP's bank statement was against company policy.

Orangeandpurpletulips · 28/06/2025 10:01

If they are issuing temp passes without keeping records, that's a huge security risk. How are they ensuring these are all returned at the end of the day, if they don't know how many they've given out?

I think that's possibly the most important point here! They really need a good, reliable system to monitor who's in the building. For fire safety too.

Iwishicouldflyhigh · 28/06/2025 10:08

Is this the very first time that you have forgotten your pass or not done your allocated days?

Hmm1234 · 28/06/2025 10:19

HanExplorer · 26/06/2025 09:07

I’ve found myself in a very unusual situation and am standing firm so far despite pressure.

I work in a hybrid role with a requirement to attend our office twice a week, this is measured monthly based on card swipe data. On one of the days in May, I forgot my pass so was issued a temporary one to use that day.

Earlier this month my manager flagged I was showing a day short for office attendance in May and said I’d need to make up a further day in June. I looked at the dates they had on record and quickly realised the missing one was when I had the temporary pass so that obviously hadn’t registered on the system.

I explained this to my manager and she still maintained I’d need to attend an extra day to balance the totals on the system as there ‘wasn’t any record of me attending’.

I realised I’d spent money in the on site restaurant that day and there’d be a record on my bank showing the company name. I screenshotted this on my phone, cropped it so you could see the date and sent it to my manager.

She has checked with her manager and told me that I need to provide a copy of a bank statement which shows my name and the transaction - that would of course also show all my other activity!!

This has been dragging on and I’m standing firm so far, but I’ve had a call booked in with my manager and her manager for tomorrow and I’m wary of what they are going to say.

My office is over an hours train journey each way so not a case of driving 5 minutes down the road to work a further day - regardless, I don’t feel I should do out of principle.

Civil service by any chance? I think it’s strange your manager isn’t accepting the first copy of your transaction. Can they check the sign in and out sheet from when you were given a temporary pass. Maybe speak to HR

BoldGreenDreamer · 28/06/2025 11:07

Rosscameasdoody · 28/06/2025 06:22

Cause they haven’t bothered to read the update.

Yes I have, and it is really vague on what exactly was resolved.

As best I can tell (but it is vague), the meeting today was to do with OP's refusal to produce her bank statement and is closed (presumably in the OP's favor).

She explains that the policy only says attendance is to be monitored by logging security passes, so they can't demanding ID. Everything else seems to be stuff the union rep said to her (including what demands they intend to make).

It's really weird that the post doesn't say anything about what the company actually said/agreed.

And I will say...In less than 24 hours....OP speaks to union about it for first time, union reviews the policy and sends a written argument to her employer, employer (with several levels of management) makes prompt decision....

...I feel a little like demanding some bank statements.

rockstarshoes · 28/06/2025 11:42

Cynicalaboutall · 26/06/2025 09:22

My mind is literally blown at the concept of a company that wastes this amount of time on this crap. So bloody unproductive. If the environment is really this toxic and untrusting, I’d be making plans to leave.

This!

T1Dmama · 28/06/2025 12:01

On my phone banking app I can search by transaction. So just bring up the app, search company name and only print off / screen shot those transactions.

T1Dmama · 28/06/2025 12:15

Sorry just caught up on all op’s responses.
Glad it was resolved. Not sure why a AIBU post was required for this mind. The union rep route seemed more appropriate.

Itallcomesdowntothis · 28/06/2025 14:09

Walkaround · 27/06/2025 22:00

What a weird attitude. No self-respecting person would want a promotion in a company so anal that it refused to apply common sense to a situation. In any event, it sounds like the temporary pass was swiped to get about once issued, so should have been counted, so the fault is with the company for its pathetic security, enabling anyone who steals a temporary pass to use it incognito. Who wants to work for a company with such lax security systems and jobsworths for managers?

Please don’t act like you know me. My attitude isn’t weird and is shared by many others on here. I am very self respecting and don’t appreciate the personal attack. What a weird attitude if it doesn’t agree with you? How narrow your world must be that if it isn’t your view then it must be weird. Argue the point not the person.

Itallcomesdowntothis · 28/06/2025 14:10

thepariscrimefiles · 28/06/2025 09:32

If her manager goes out of her way not to promote OP or look favourably at her performance when performance-based pay rises/bonuses are being considered, she would discriminating against OP and breaking the law. Given that the Union is pretty influential in OP's company, OP's manager would be on very dodgy ground if they deliberately did this out of spite because their conduct in demanding a copy of OP's bank statement was against company policy.

Edited

Yeah they would be but let’s be really honest you can always find something against someone if you want to as people aren’t perfect: especially if it comes to attitude which is unquantifiable despite competency frameworks.

Reliablesource · 28/06/2025 14:45

It was your fault you forgot your pass so it was for you to prove you were there. You could have resolved this quickly without making a fuss and involving a union rep! 🙄 It’s very simple to screenshot a bank statement on your phone and use the mark-up edit thing in Photos to cross out everything else with a thick black marker. Problem solved without a drama.

You have now flagged yourself up to management as a troublemaker and your over-reaction looks shifty so it’s not the big win you think.

Fargo79 · 28/06/2025 14:47

Itallcomesdowntothis · 28/06/2025 14:09

Please don’t act like you know me. My attitude isn’t weird and is shared by many others on here. I am very self respecting and don’t appreciate the personal attack. What a weird attitude if it doesn’t agree with you? How narrow your world must be that if it isn’t your view then it must be weird. Argue the point not the person.

Pot, kettle. You are both two cheeks of the same arse. You were equally as personal about OP, calling her smug and being very unpleasant.

It's extremely difficult to remember that people on here are adults. What a ridiculous thread to start making personal attacks on. It's literally a discussion about a security pass FGS.

Codlingmoths · 28/06/2025 14:52

Reliablesource · 28/06/2025 14:45

It was your fault you forgot your pass so it was for you to prove you were there. You could have resolved this quickly without making a fuss and involving a union rep! 🙄 It’s very simple to screenshot a bank statement on your phone and use the mark-up edit thing in Photos to cross out everything else with a thick black marker. Problem solved without a drama.

You have now flagged yourself up to management as a troublemaker and your over-reaction looks shifty so it’s not the big win you think.

Edited

nope. They have a system for employees who’ve forgotten a pass, to give them access to the office, a secure building, where they can access the network, a secure network. It’s their fault it’s a crap system also that they are being crap managers, and it’s on them to be slightly less crap managers and to follow their own processes, not exceed them, and put in the tiny bit of extra work to check their own system, rather than treat a good employee with a good record like a criminal. This is all really clear and that’s why they collapsed like a house of cards when the union got involved. If you support management here you’re crap at management too. I am all for adhering to policy and meeting reasonable requests at work, with consequences for eg not doing mandatory training, but this was not adhering to policy nor a reasonable request.

Codlingmoths · 28/06/2025 14:56

Itallcomesdowntothis · 27/06/2025 21:26

The policy confirms the adherence to the required office days is to be measured via pass swipe data. The company have a blind spot here with temporary passes which the Union will demand is addressed urgently.

Yeah you broke the policy. You didn’t bring your pass.

You attitude and approach stinks. I would expect your manager not to go out of their way to promote you or look favourably towards you at year end. You may say they aren’t allowed but there can always be a reason if there needs to be.

Celebrate your smugness on this win with an own goal on your career at that company going forward.

You have completely failed to understand. They breached the policy, not the op breached. They had a policy that failed to measure attendance for all of the ways they formally permit staff to enter the office, that’s on the policy owner to rectify. Have you never written a policy?

thepariscrimefiles · 28/06/2025 16:22

Itallcomesdowntothis · 28/06/2025 14:09

Please don’t act like you know me. My attitude isn’t weird and is shared by many others on here. I am very self respecting and don’t appreciate the personal attack. What a weird attitude if it doesn’t agree with you? How narrow your world must be that if it isn’t your view then it must be weird. Argue the point not the person.

You were really rude to and about the OP. You hoped that her manager, who failed to follow company procedures, would break employment law by deliberately bearing a grudge and refusing to act in accordance with complany policy and the law when deciding whether OP is eligible for a pay increase or a bonus.

You think that a personal attack on OP is OK but anyone criticising you is attacking you. Phrases like 'your attitude and approach stinks' and 'celebrate your smugness on this win with an own goal on your career' are spiteful and juvenile.

Itallcomesdowntothis · 28/06/2025 16:25

thepariscrimefiles · 28/06/2025 16:22

You were really rude to and about the OP. You hoped that her manager, who failed to follow company procedures, would break employment law by deliberately bearing a grudge and refusing to act in accordance with complany policy and the law when deciding whether OP is eligible for a pay increase or a bonus.

You think that a personal attack on OP is OK but anyone criticising you is attacking you. Phrases like 'your attitude and approach stinks' and 'celebrate your smugness on this win with an own goal on your career' are spiteful and juvenile.

Wrong. I said it was bound to happen. Sorry I didn’t realise you were the OP’s protector.

Itallcomesdowntothis · 28/06/2025 16:26

Codlingmoths · 28/06/2025 14:56

You have completely failed to understand. They breached the policy, not the op breached. They had a policy that failed to measure attendance for all of the ways they formally permit staff to enter the office, that’s on the policy owner to rectify. Have you never written a policy?

Many many many in my time? Have you never had an opinion that disagreed with you and you accepted that people think differently?

FairyCakesAndSprinklez · 28/06/2025 16:27

Totally crazy 😮 😮 This is one of the most bonkers things I’ve ever heard!! I can’t believe they’d be so obsessed with 40% office attendance that they’d have you ‘make up’ the day anyway, let alone for a mistake as you’ve described. Your managers clearly haven’t got enough work to do if they’ve got time for ridiculous meetings about this. I think it’s time to get a new job if this is the culture at your place.

Havetheweekendoffreports · 28/06/2025 17:13

I would bet my house this OP is very close to retiring!

dynamiccactus · 28/06/2025 17:17

rockstarshoes · 28/06/2025 11:42

This!

Indeed. No wonder we have a productivity problem in the UK.

But when you look at schools and the time they waste on policing uniform, you can see where it starts.

rockstarshoes · 28/06/2025 17:28

And then reading some of these comments it is clear that the sort of manager that would enforce such a stupid, time wasting policy exist in real life & are here attacking the OP for having the audacity to stand up for herself 🙄

MyQuirkyTraybake · 28/06/2025 17:54

Have you forgotten your pass before? They're being petty if not. What happened to the temporary pass?

I'd send an email saying what you have, make sure it's all in writing and leave them to chase.

They can have all the meetings they want. You're not refusing to go in.

Consider looking for a new job, you're been treated like a child here.

BrickBiscuit · 28/06/2025 19:33

Codlingmoths · 28/06/2025 14:56

You have completely failed to understand. They breached the policy, not the op breached. They had a policy that failed to measure attendance for all of the ways they formally permit staff to enter the office, that’s on the policy owner to rectify. Have you never written a policy?

The OP breached the policy that says bring your pass to gain entry.