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To think men are lonelier now because they created emotional distance and don’t know how to fix it?

78 replies

WiseBrickSwan · 25/06/2025 09:51

They mocked emotional vulnerability for decades, now they’re shocked no one opens up to them.

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TheLostStargazer · 26/06/2025 15:03

I feel like men have chosen women to be their enemy. I’m not sure why but many men always seem to be against their partners and women in general.
They can’t see that they’d be stronger by being in a partnership with their partner but instead they make their partner someone to fight against or control. This doesn’t bring companionship or connection.

Holdmeclosertinydancer2018 · 26/06/2025 15:08

asrl78 · 26/06/2025 12:57

"Men are for all intents and purposes obsolete when it comes to relationships and the home."

This implies to me that women have switched off the desire for sex and romantic connection with a man, something I cannot comprehend. If men are really obsolete, why are so many women in romantic relationships and may more seeking such relationships? I cannot believe every single one of them is trapped in a loveless marriage or completely dependent on their husband/boyfriend/whatever.

I would be genuinely like to know how a woman can shut off the instinct to bond romantically with a man. It is, after all, partly how we ultimately reproduce. Given my own lack of romantic experience, I am trying to learn about common factors/issues which can or may apply to the majority of women so if I am privileged enough to find romance, I have at least a starting point for enhancing her life.

My recent chats with female friends have led me to believe a lot of men out there are turds, so I can see why some women who have been badly hurt in previous relationships have decided they don't want to go there again.

We shit off the instinct to bond as a protective measure. When you've been continuously shit on in one way or another by men your entire life, your brain begins to see them all as something not to be trusted, something that is going to hurt you in sone way. It's of course only natural that you avoid what hurts you, in this case, men.

Meadowfinch · 26/06/2025 15:23

Brefugee · 26/06/2025 11:41

I think it's getting harder for them because making a pass at someone now is so often taken as offensive, rather than the person on the receiving end saying 'That's flattering but no thanks'.

well i got told i was a fat ugly slag lezzer for saying exactly that, so i make no apologies if i just walk away now.

Christ !

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