To ask, in your honest opinion

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Which age did you feel the most beautiful?

feeling very depressed after my relationship broke down (I’m 35 and feel past my prime)

Relationships are not built on looks. Looks are lovely to have, and do make like easier and more pleasant in many ways, but ultimately they are not what matter.

You will never be as beautiful as you are now.

Don’t look to the past, look to the future.

I'm in my early 40s and honestly some of my peers look better than ever

Probably about 40 although I didn’t appreciate it at the time.

Caveat - I’ve never felt “beautiful” but at 49, I was happy with my body, fit and able and was quite confident generally in life.

Im now quite overweight, much less fit, have a dodgy knees so can’t be as active as I’d like and my eyesight makes it hard to apply make up. I feel a bit like an old hag but I’m working on it lol

posted too soon - 💐for you. A relationship breakdown is hard but you are still young. Love yourself like you want to be loved as a kind, happy, confident person is the most “beautiful” of all.

Honestly, I never did. However I now look back on photos and crack up, knowing how I felt fat, ugly, maybe old in those photos, from where I am sitting now. I wasn't. I was (comparatively speaking) bloody gorgeous!

Honey, you are NOWHERE NEAR past the prime of your life. I know it's hard, but try and enjoy the body and the looks you have now. Your looks, your worth, your value - they're not defined by your relationship.

Try to get your voice inside your head telling you the stuff you would tell your best friend if she were saying such things to you. That's the you that you need to be talking to you right now.

Are you the same poster who posted a couple of days ago about losing your looks at 35 under a different name?
If so, repeated threads aren’t going to make you feel any better. You need to work on your own self esteem.

Early 40's. My features had 'settled down'. I stopped using most makeup and my weight stabilised. I looked and felt great.

20 years later I'm a bit heavy but (reasonably!) OK with that. (Like everyone a 3kg loss would be nice!).

I felt most beautiful when I was at my happiest.

I would say I was more beautiful in my late teens and 20's physically but felt most beautiful when I was in my mid 30's to early 40's (before perimenopause grasped hold of me) It was when I felt most happy and content with my life.

I’m 39 and I’ve felt my best for the past five or six years or so. I started taking much better care of myself - I lift weights, I run, I cycle, I have great muscle definition and a washboard stomach. I look after my skin. I dress for how I want to look, not for a fashion which doesn’t suit me. I’m far less self-conscious than I was in my twenties, which conversely has been an improvement: if you constantly stare at yourself in the mirror finding faults and trying to correct them, all that correction shows in how you present yourself.

Heed the wise words of Mary Schmich:

“Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they’ve faded. But trust me, in 20 years, you’ll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.”

Print out the lyrics.

I think I was at my best around 40.

First post nails it, as usual. I've been where you are, at the same age.
It's natural to feel the way you do after a break up, be kind to yourself.
At 35 you are young. Do things to make yourself happy.

The sunscreen advice is true, every word.
I had a mole removed this year, it's unpleasant.

Never

This.

So you had a breakup at 35 too?

I did. If took me a while to get over, I thought after 5 years he was the one. He wasn't. And afterwards i realised we really weren't that compatible.
People come and go all through your life. Friends, partners. It hurts when they leave, you have to readjust your mindset on what you thought your life was going to be like.
Your beauty question is sad, to me. Don't equate it with worth, or success. Take time to build up your self esteem. You'll be OK.💐

Clive James, quite a wise person I think, once said he didn’t believe anyone was truly beautiful until they were at least 30. I agree.

I’m the same age OP. I only now realise I was actually really hot. I spent the whole time I was young and hot feeling insecure. Now I’m recognising my looks fading it’s depressing.

BUT as I’ve grown older I’ve started to recognise my worth, care less, be more secure. All attractive qualities. If a relationship is built on looks alone it was never going to last.

I'm 37 and feel like I'm only now starting to come into my prime. I'm looking after myself more, I feel more confident and secure in who I am and what I want and I'm looking forward to my 40s and the next chapter. Most of my similar aged friends (late 30s, early 40s look fantastic.)

Hands down 40. By far the best I ever looked, finally nailed hair and fashion!

54, my age now. Lost weight, skin and hair healthy, through protein additives, work outs, benefitting from physical and mental health. Eyebrows and nail upkeep have been the cherry on the top. I feel the sexiest I've ever felt- for me. I was slim and attractive in my 30s, but didn't have that self-confidence to flourish, back then.

Probably in my 40’s and after divorce when I’d developed my own style and confidence. I learned what suited me and didn’t feel a need to follow trends unless I liked them

Probably about 40-45. I was a little more groomed and confident by then.

What is it with the 'I'm 35' and past it threads recently.

35 is young.
You'll never be younger than you are today.
When you're 60 and look at photos of you aged 35 you'll think wow---I was gorgeous. When you're 80 you'll look at photos of you when you were 60 and think you were gorgeous.
If you've any soul and brain, whatever your age you will think you're lucky to be alive, that you're perfect the way you are and then you'll get on with your life and concentrate on something more interesting.

Between 38-55 when I met and married my husband who thought I was beautiful all the time and loved me inside and out which made me feel gorgeous- my sister kept saying “you won’t meet anyone in your wellies”
and I met the most amazing man!

sadly widowed