To ask, in your honest opinion

[Riooo]

Which age did you feel the most beautiful?

feeling very depressed after my relationship broke down (I’m 35 and feel past my prime)

Around 24, i had a lot of looks and comments. 45 now peri and on mounjaro 🤣I am so so much happier now though than at that age where my head was a mess and had a serious drinking problem. 35 IS still young, i promise. Good luck x

29

i was lovely

now old and fat and grey

Now. I'm coming up to 40.

I'm in the best shape of my life.
My hairstyle isn't super fashionable but it suits me and it has an 'edge'.
Now I've settled into a good skincare regime, my skin's glowing.
I know how to dress to suit my body.
I walk tall and exude confience.
I have laser eye surgery so I don't need glasses.
I have my teeth regularly whitened.
I keep on top of my eyebrows.
I drink lots of water.
I eat well.
I don't smoke.
I don't really drink alcohol.
I minimise sugar.

I met a colleague the other day that I've not seen in-person for five years. He said "Honestly, Comvit, I can't believe how you look. You look about 26"

When I was talking about a big birthday at the gym the other day, one of women I do weight training with assumed I meant my 30th.

I don't think its coincidental that I'm also the happiest I've ever been in my life - this is with myself, family, work, finances etc. I think beauty and happiness co-produce each other.

Urgh, there is nothing as ugly as caring about whether you are beautiful. Try being kind, compassionate, helpful and thinking of others instead of worrying about what your face looks like. Then you will always be beautiful.

Yes you’re right, it’s just a difficult thing to accept

At 35 I looked GOOD. Better than I had the previous ten years. However now, 50 in a couple of weeks, I feel more attractive. SInce 35 there have been two children, depression, weight gain and loss, various illnesses and accidents and injuries. Objectively I'm not in as good a shape now as then - things have sagged, stomach is no longer flat, grey hair is attacking me, wrinkles encroaching, I have more scars, dry skin etc. The confidence that comes with going through those things, with learning to say 'fuck off' when necessary, with having a very loving and supportive husband, with being in a good place in my life and most of all with learning that my value doesn't lie in my looks all mean I'm more attractive if not more conventionally beautiful. Men seem to agree.

You have plenty of time, @Riooo.

Now at 57. I’m more confident that I’ve ever been. There is more to beauty than looks.

Well i am me i have never felt or wanted to feel beautiful as what does ot actually mean, anyway? I have never felt ugly i am just happy with who I am

I’m in my early forties and in the last couple of years I’ve started to realise how little it matters.
I was diagnosed with Body Dysmorphia when I was in my twenties, but it started when I was just six or seven years old, so this is a big deal for me to realise this.
Funny enough I still can’t let go of some of the rituals/ behaviours but something happened in my brain (hormones, age, anti depressants, becoming a mother? I really don’t know) and it’s like a veil got lifted from my eyes and suddenly I just know, it really doesn’t matter.

28/29 probably, but 20 years later all round I am much more confident, calm and sure of myself, and still look pretty good, so I'd rather be me now overall.

I've just turned 28 and never actually felt more beautiful. I have my piercings exactly how I want, I have my makeup routine perfected, my hair is always exactly how I like it. I look 100x better than I did 'in my prime' (early 20s). I've found my style in clothes, I'm happy with the tattoos covering my arms and I just feel great. I know I'm still young but I've never felt more confident in myself than now🙂

I personally feel that I've never looked better than when I was late 30s. Now early 50s and still feel/look ok.
I didn't really have the time/desire when I was younger to look after me. The older I am the more care I have taken of myself, gym (euch) eating better and good skincare routines.
Think of this chapter, closing and a beautiful new chapter where you are no1.
Enjoy yourself xx

23! I remember that being such a good year. I had been through a shit break up at 22 and really focussed on myself, lost the weight etc. At 23 I felt fabulous, was enjoying my single life, everything was coming together with my early career.

I’m 30 now and still feel good but I’ve spent the last 3 years either pregnant or breastfeeding. Currently nursing a 5 week old and constantly covered in sick from my baby and sticky hand prints from my toddler. I have big plans to hop on Mounjaro (when I stop feeding in a year or so!) and return to my former glory 😂

OP I had a break up a bit younger than you (32) but was then single for three years. I felt like you - past my prime and would end up a old spinster cat lady 🤣.

Met now DH at 35 (very nearly 36), married 11 months later. I'm now nearly 41. My H has his faults (as do I!) but he tells me he loves me, I'm beautiful and funny and clever etc every single day (I don't see any of those things in myself but he absolutely does - I've never felt so cherished and secure (sorry for the cheesiness!).

35 is absolutely not past your prime! And as others have said it's not all about looks anyway. Objectively speaking both H and I are not exactly classically good looking but we fancy the arse off each other, we make each other laugh till it hurts and can stay up all night talking shit and debating politics etc.

You'll find the right person for you!

I looked great at 28

I was at my physical prime around 28.

Didn't meet the man of my dreams until 46!

Oh I didn't answer your question! Honestly, 36 to my age now (nearing 41). I was probably more objectively attractive through my 20s/early 30s but I spent those constantly trying to please my abusive ex (who I left at 32) - always wearing makeup, wearing the clothes he liked, exercising constantly because he liked me slim.

My H loves me just as much slobbing in leggings and a band t-shirt with no makeup as he does if I get a bit more dressed up and that alone makes me feel beautiful.

Also those words are in the song sunscreen, along with alot of others that all ring true when you're nearly 60 😆

im just me, i try to dress reasonable, wash hair , brush teeth etc then its take me as i am so to speak

Now, late 50s. Fit, happy, single. Content with who I am.

Aww that’s lovely. Where did you meet?

Feeling pretty good in my mid 60s, have had several people tell me they had no idea I wasn't 10 years younger, I went to the bar of a beer festival and immediately several men rushed to serve me (in mitigation I was wearing motorbike leathers), and the lady who does my hair from time to time said she thought I had lost weight and it suited me (I haven't lately, but will take that as a win)

I think there is a lot in this. I’m with a 43 year old woman now and when she looks genuinely happy her smile just lights up the room and does all kinds of things to me. No woman has ever turned me in as much, not even when I was a teenager

I was at my most conventionally beautiful age about 27/28.

It really isn’t that big a deal though is it? To caveat, I have always been considered very attractive so maybe that’s why I don’t think about it much? It doesn’t hold much weight or value to me.

When did I feel most confident or most happy? That’s a much better question. Mid fifties onwards. Post menopausal and don’t give a fuck.

I'd say in a strange way it's probably now. (Late 40s) Even though I'm objectively a lot uglier than I was in my teens/20s. But I lacked confidence in myself and didn't feel comfortable in my own skin.
Life experience changes that a lot.

I have my faults but also have lots of good things about my looks. The most important thing is that I feel loved and feel like I know myself well.