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Everyone being so over the top / pushy doctor?

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Manchildd · 25/06/2025 06:54

Hi everyone.
currently on holiday in Cyprus. I have 2 heart conditions, prolonged QT and SVT. Just to paint a picture a few years ago I discovered the two. I started having seizures and it wasn't a good time. I had to stop driving and spent a long time in hospital. Fast forward 3 years I'm driving again, living a normal life on medication etc.

i do get heart spikes, most days in fact. Due to these two conditions my heart sits at about 110 and eating is a trigger. All I need to do is chill out, take my medication and it'll pass.
last night at dinner with everyone around me my heart spiked to about 124 (this is nothing, it can go to 200s)

the protocol from my cardio team is that if I have a seizure / if my heart spikes to 160+ for 10 minutes or more then I go to hospital.

when I'd finished my food we left to go back to the room. I went up to a staff member and kindly asked if someone could collect us as I don't feel very well. There were a couple of nurses in earshot that then started ordering chairs, asking to give me space and asked what's the matter. I said to them my heart is a little quick but this happens ALL THE TIME and I just need to get back to the room. They wouldn't let me and quite literally blocked me from going. They were taking my pulse and it was 124. They then instructed staff for an ambulance. This was working me up by this point as nobody was listening. I didn't need an ambulance I just needed to go back and chill out. Ambulance was called.

my brother at this point told everyone to calm down and cancel the ambulance. They did.

instead they had asked the staff to call a doctor.
doctor game and immediately said I need to go to hospital (without doing a single check.) I know my body. Nobody was listening to me. When everyone realised that I'm not going, I had to sign a waiver saying I was refusing treatment. The doctor was very pushy for me to go, he demanded my passport details, address, GP details etc.

eventually my heart rate settled (as it always does) and the doctor saw that I was fine. But I felt so pressured he even got a cardiologist on the phone to me on his phone saying you have to come in and have bloods and be admitted. Saying that I could die. All of this hyperbole over something that happens to me most days. Nobody was listening.

the doctor then said I need to pay him €150 for the visit. I questioned this as I never called a doctor. A lot of people at dinner were drunk (I don't drink) and it was so dramatic. Realising I wasn't getting out of the €150 I paid it. Realising he has charged be twice x2 €150!!!! He then started being super nice saying everyone was being dramatic and that he will call me tomorrow (today) to refund the €150.

do I ask for the full €300 back? AIBU to think this is ridiculous? I felt so cornered and claustrophobic. These nurses were telling me to breathe into paper bags, to clear space, shouting 'SHES GOING TO HAVE A SEIZURE' - I haven't had a seizure in 3 years. I have my license back and cleared for driving. At no point was I worried. I have a device in my chest that alerts me if I'm in arrhythmia and it didn't go off. I tried to explain this. It happens nearly every time I eat an evening meal. I wasn't in SVT and medication corrects my prolonged QT.

just feel so shit about it all today. I just feel like there was lots of hyperbole and people wanting to be the hero / medical professional out of work times. Perhaps im being harsh but the 2 nurses weren't even listening to me. They kept telling me I need to do this I need to do that. I know what I need to do, I have protocol from my team and I wasn't panicking. I was just getting pissed off no one was listening to me and now I've ended up being charged $300 for the experience!

thanks for reading so sorry it's long.

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Manchildd · 25/06/2025 08:43

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I am only here with my brother and DD.

not everyone has big families.

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Manchildd · 25/06/2025 08:44

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Erm..I don't drink. I've stated that.
if I drink it sends my heart into arrhythmia. I also cannot have caffeine.

sober as a judge here, thanks.

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Manchildd · 25/06/2025 08:44

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You've asked now 5 times.

I have responded below.

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Manchildd · 25/06/2025 08:45

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What is wrong with you? Are you a medical professional reject desperate to performance save someone or something?

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Manchildd · 25/06/2025 08:46

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I think you need to lay off the drinks, you sound like you have a problem.

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Manchildd · 25/06/2025 08:46

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er, yes? Again, I've written already have insurance.

with your inability to read I'd suggest you lay off the drinks.

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You love spectating on someone who doesn't feel very well and taking the piss out of them?

says more about you than me. You sound sad, like you don't have a lot going on in your life and I can't imagine you have many friends.

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titchy · 25/06/2025 08:49

I’m with you OP. I’d be making formal complaints to the management, and if you see the nurses ask for their names and let them know you’ll be submitting a formal complaint to thebNMC for attempting to treat you while drunk and without your consent. But I’m an arse Grin

theleafandnotthetree · 25/06/2025 08:49

All else aside, you sound an absolute trooper OP and manage to retain a sense of humour and perspective which many could learn from. Your descriptive powers are also excellent- do you write?

HoppingPavlova · 25/06/2025 08:49

To be fair, you basically asked a staff member for assistance to your room because you were having heart problems. Then you wonder why what happened, happened.

If you didn’t want the drama, you should have asked for a buggy back to your room because you were tired or even ‘just don’t feel up to the walk tonight’. But you were the one who said you were unwell and had heart problems. Now you are arguing there was nothing wrong with you, they were not listening and all was okay. Do you not perhaps see that this went according to the way you managed it?

IhaveanewTVnow · 25/06/2025 08:50

Why didn’t you just ask for a taxi to be called. I think you were attention seeking to be honest. Sorry. I hope you feel better today.

HarrietBond · 25/06/2025 08:52

HoppingPavlova · 25/06/2025 08:49

To be fair, you basically asked a staff member for assistance to your room because you were having heart problems. Then you wonder why what happened, happened.

If you didn’t want the drama, you should have asked for a buggy back to your room because you were tired or even ‘just don’t feel up to the walk tonight’. But you were the one who said you were unwell and had heart problems. Now you are arguing there was nothing wrong with you, they were not listening and all was okay. Do you not perhaps see that this went according to the way you managed it?

I imagine the OP had no thought at all that answering the question in a straightforward way would lead to this situation, and won’t be giving that answer ever again.

SewingBees · 25/06/2025 08:52

OP I'm sorry to hear about your experience. Not being listened to by medical professionals is a huge problem - you only have to look on the life limiting illness board to see what some of us go through.

Personally I don't think the nurses should have been trying to help you when they were drunk, surely that goes against their professional code? I get they wanted to help but their judgement was impaired and in a real emergency they could have done more harm than good.

Those posters saying you're being ungrateful/they were doing their job, are missing the point. The patient should always be listened to, and unfortunately there are many many times when that doesn't happen. You have my sympathy.

SewingBees · 25/06/2025 08:53

titchy · 25/06/2025 08:49

I’m with you OP. I’d be making formal complaints to the management, and if you see the nurses ask for their names and let them know you’ll be submitting a formal complaint to thebNMC for attempting to treat you while drunk and without your consent. But I’m an arse Grin

I think I'd be doing the same.

Manchildd · 25/06/2025 08:55

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I'm 8 and a half stone..

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Manchildd · 25/06/2025 08:56

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You're really making a fool out of yourself.
I don't need to be saved. You evidently do.

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Manchildd · 25/06/2025 08:57

IhaveanewTVnow · 25/06/2025 08:50

Why didn’t you just ask for a taxi to be called. I think you were attention seeking to be honest. Sorry. I hope you feel better today.

A taxi? I'm on the report where buggies are used to take people to their rooms. Why would I need a taxi?

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MoominUnderWater · 25/06/2025 08:58

titchy · 25/06/2025 08:49

I’m with you OP. I’d be making formal complaints to the management, and if you see the nurses ask for their names and let them know you’ll be submitting a formal complaint to thebNMC for attempting to treat you while drunk and without your consent. But I’m an arse Grin

Well there is no evidence that the nurses were drunk or even that they "treated" the OP without her consent so that would get nowhere.

Manchildd · 25/06/2025 08:58

theleafandnotthetree · 25/06/2025 08:49

All else aside, you sound an absolute trooper OP and manage to retain a sense of humour and perspective which many could learn from. Your descriptive powers are also excellent- do you write?

Ah thank you! That made me smile.
I do write, in the middle of writing a book about how to deal with 'The C Word' in your twenties 🤣

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