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Everyone being so over the top / pushy doctor?

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Manchildd · 25/06/2025 06:54

Hi everyone.
currently on holiday in Cyprus. I have 2 heart conditions, prolonged QT and SVT. Just to paint a picture a few years ago I discovered the two. I started having seizures and it wasn't a good time. I had to stop driving and spent a long time in hospital. Fast forward 3 years I'm driving again, living a normal life on medication etc.

i do get heart spikes, most days in fact. Due to these two conditions my heart sits at about 110 and eating is a trigger. All I need to do is chill out, take my medication and it'll pass.
last night at dinner with everyone around me my heart spiked to about 124 (this is nothing, it can go to 200s)

the protocol from my cardio team is that if I have a seizure / if my heart spikes to 160+ for 10 minutes or more then I go to hospital.

when I'd finished my food we left to go back to the room. I went up to a staff member and kindly asked if someone could collect us as I don't feel very well. There were a couple of nurses in earshot that then started ordering chairs, asking to give me space and asked what's the matter. I said to them my heart is a little quick but this happens ALL THE TIME and I just need to get back to the room. They wouldn't let me and quite literally blocked me from going. They were taking my pulse and it was 124. They then instructed staff for an ambulance. This was working me up by this point as nobody was listening. I didn't need an ambulance I just needed to go back and chill out. Ambulance was called.

my brother at this point told everyone to calm down and cancel the ambulance. They did.

instead they had asked the staff to call a doctor.
doctor game and immediately said I need to go to hospital (without doing a single check.) I know my body. Nobody was listening to me. When everyone realised that I'm not going, I had to sign a waiver saying I was refusing treatment. The doctor was very pushy for me to go, he demanded my passport details, address, GP details etc.

eventually my heart rate settled (as it always does) and the doctor saw that I was fine. But I felt so pressured he even got a cardiologist on the phone to me on his phone saying you have to come in and have bloods and be admitted. Saying that I could die. All of this hyperbole over something that happens to me most days. Nobody was listening.

the doctor then said I need to pay him €150 for the visit. I questioned this as I never called a doctor. A lot of people at dinner were drunk (I don't drink) and it was so dramatic. Realising I wasn't getting out of the €150 I paid it. Realising he has charged be twice x2 €150!!!! He then started being super nice saying everyone was being dramatic and that he will call me tomorrow (today) to refund the €150.

do I ask for the full €300 back? AIBU to think this is ridiculous? I felt so cornered and claustrophobic. These nurses were telling me to breathe into paper bags, to clear space, shouting 'SHES GOING TO HAVE A SEIZURE' - I haven't had a seizure in 3 years. I have my license back and cleared for driving. At no point was I worried. I have a device in my chest that alerts me if I'm in arrhythmia and it didn't go off. I tried to explain this. It happens nearly every time I eat an evening meal. I wasn't in SVT and medication corrects my prolonged QT.

just feel so shit about it all today. I just feel like there was lots of hyperbole and people wanting to be the hero / medical professional out of work times. Perhaps im being harsh but the 2 nurses weren't even listening to me. They kept telling me I need to do this I need to do that. I know what I need to do, I have protocol from my team and I wasn't panicking. I was just getting pissed off no one was listening to me and now I've ended up being charged $300 for the experience!

thanks for reading so sorry it's long.

OP posts:
BoundaryGirl3939 · 25/06/2025 19:50

I don't think you can ask the doctor for the 150 euro back as he was called, and was doing his job.

I think you're within your rights to tell the drunk nurses to pay the 150. They didn't listen to you, physically blocked you, and called ambulance and doctor without your consent.

That would really irritate me.

The same thing happens with my mother. She gets vertigo attacks yet one would think something os seriously wrong. She reiterates never to call an ambulance. We put her into recovery position and she eventually snaps out of it after 20 mins. She knows he own body.

MixedFeelingsNoFeelings · 25/06/2025 19:53

MixedFeelingsNoFeelings · 25/06/2025 17:39

...while mysteriously NOT being cynical about a doctor in a holiday resort rummaging in a tourist's handbag for their passport, and insisting on payment for a medical service they didn't ask for or need!

For the avoidance of doubt, I support OP!

donthaveaname · 25/06/2025 19:56

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Wow what a nasty nasty thing to say!

Manchildd · 25/06/2025 20:01

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Fly1ngG1raffe · 25/06/2025 20:02

I don’t understand why the nurses were shouting “she’s going to have a seizure”, seems an odd thing to shout. A heart rate of 124 doesn’t usually result in a seizure so why was that brought up? Assume you told them you have seizures when your heart rate goes up and that’s what’s sent them in a spin!

Manchildd · 25/06/2025 20:05

Fly1ngG1raffe · 25/06/2025 20:02

I don’t understand why the nurses were shouting “she’s going to have a seizure”, seems an odd thing to shout. A heart rate of 124 doesn’t usually result in a seizure so why was that brought up? Assume you told them you have seizures when your heart rate goes up and that’s what’s sent them in a spin!

I've explained why this came up. They asked what conditions I have with regards to my heart. One of them is prolonged QT and seizures is a common, well known symptom.

i used to have them, but thankfully I don't anymore!

OP posts:
tripleginandtonic · 25/06/2025 20:05

You caused the situation by calling attention to yourself. He should refund the excess charge.

Manchildd · 25/06/2025 20:06

tripleginandtonic · 25/06/2025 20:05

You caused the situation by calling attention to yourself. He should refund the excess charge.

I didn't call attention.
please read my posts. I simply asked for a buggy back to the room.

OP posts:
4thcoffee · 26/06/2025 06:09

Op you have terminal cancer. You are on holiday with your young child and brother.
I’d hide the thread to avoid spending yet another day of a precious holiday glued to your phone bashing out angry posts on mumsnet and actually just relish this time and holiday.

Hotmoodle · 26/06/2025 07:25

Honestly the cheek. The medical team can’t really do anything right can they? You have two heart conditions and they tried to help you, you aren’t a trained medic so you couldn’t possible know what was going from a medical point of view. Next time you’re ill or having a moment would you rather their just leave you alone?

Manchildd · 26/06/2025 07:44

Hotmoodle · 26/06/2025 07:25

Honestly the cheek. The medical team can’t really do anything right can they? You have two heart conditions and they tried to help you, you aren’t a trained medic so you couldn’t possible know what was going from a medical point of view. Next time you’re ill or having a moment would you rather their just leave you alone?

The cheek 😂😂😂😂

I know my body and my conditions much more than strangers who invaded my space without any consent or need. They don't know my medical history. I did not ask for medical help. I did not need medical help. I am incredibly grateful for my medical team and I'm very well informed on my condition. 2 drunk nurses invading my space when it wasn't warranted or needed leaving me with a hefty bill is 'the cheek.'

you sound like you need a lie down

OP posts:
Hotmoodle · 26/06/2025 07:57

Manchildd · 26/06/2025 07:44

The cheek 😂😂😂😂

I know my body and my conditions much more than strangers who invaded my space without any consent or need. They don't know my medical history. I did not ask for medical help. I did not need medical help. I am incredibly grateful for my medical team and I'm very well informed on my condition. 2 drunk nurses invading my space when it wasn't warranted or needed leaving me with a hefty bill is 'the cheek.'

you sound like you need a lie down

I think it’s you that needs to lie down especially if you have two heart conditions. From what I gathered from this quite ridiculous thread you love to argue a lot with people and are coming off very angry. Why on earth on you posting on here and arguing with strangers instead of enjoying your holiday? Sad.

Plumnora · 26/06/2025 08:02

They were doing their job. If you'd collapsed they'd have been pulled up for not doing their job. You have 2 heart conditions and regardless of whether "this happens all the time" or not, it could have been the one time it escalated. I'd be grateful people cared enough to help you.

Bonkersworknonsense · 26/06/2025 08:03

It sounds to me like the nurses (& some people on this thread) weren’t listening to you. It’s frustrating when that happens, we all want to be heard.

4thcoffee · 26/06/2025 08:04

Manchildd · 26/06/2025 07:44

The cheek 😂😂😂😂

I know my body and my conditions much more than strangers who invaded my space without any consent or need. They don't know my medical history. I did not ask for medical help. I did not need medical help. I am incredibly grateful for my medical team and I'm very well informed on my condition. 2 drunk nurses invading my space when it wasn't warranted or needed leaving me with a hefty bill is 'the cheek.'

you sound like you need a lie down

Oh, so I’m guessing my post went over your head

Manchildd · 26/06/2025 08:05

Hotmoodle · 26/06/2025 07:57

I think it’s you that needs to lie down especially if you have two heart conditions. From what I gathered from this quite ridiculous thread you love to argue a lot with people and are coming off very angry. Why on earth on you posting on here and arguing with strangers instead of enjoying your holiday? Sad.

I'm currently laid up in bed with a stomach bug.

thanks for your very pointless input. You're the one who decided to open the thread, post an argumentative reply and now you're whinging that u love arguing?

😂

OP posts:
Manchildd · 26/06/2025 08:06

Plumnora · 26/06/2025 08:02

They were doing their job. If you'd collapsed they'd have been pulled up for not doing their job. You have 2 heart conditions and regardless of whether "this happens all the time" or not, it could have been the one time it escalated. I'd be grateful people cared enough to help you.

Caring to help is asking if I'm okay, and asking if I need assistance.

not making a massive scene.
and it's a bit of a reach to say if I'd collapsed. I didn't collapse. There was no indication that I was going to collapse. Do you presume every time someone has a headache, that they're having a stroke?

OP posts:
4thcoffee · 26/06/2025 08:07

4thcoffee · 26/06/2025 06:09

Op you have terminal cancer. You are on holiday with your young child and brother.
I’d hide the thread to avoid spending yet another day of a precious holiday glued to your phone bashing out angry posts on mumsnet and actually just relish this time and holiday.

OP?

Manchildd · 26/06/2025 08:07

4thcoffee · 26/06/2025 08:04

Oh, so I’m guessing my post went over your head

I'm currently in bed as I have been vomitting and shitting water since 2am this morning. The telly doesn't work so I'm scrolling on here because I'm bored.

OP posts:
Manchildd · 26/06/2025 08:09

Bonkersworknonsense · 26/06/2025 08:03

It sounds to me like the nurses (& some people on this thread) weren’t listening to you. It’s frustrating when that happens, we all want to be heard.

Completely agree! None of this needed to happen if they just listened to me. But lesson completely learned, don't mention anything in the future for sure.

anyway - I'm logging off now as I'm going to drag myself from the bed to the sun lounger so I can get some fresh air. Have a good day all!

OP posts:
Hotmoodle · 26/06/2025 08:11

Manchildd · 26/06/2025 08:05

I'm currently laid up in bed with a stomach bug.

thanks for your very pointless input. You're the one who decided to open the thread, post an argumentative reply and now you're whinging that u love arguing?

😂

Again with the aggressiveness. Op that is really sad. Put your phone down and enjoy your family and holiday.

notnorman · 27/06/2025 12:47

God this sounds awful. I’ve got a heart condition too (heart attacky as opposed to to heart beat related) and all this would have really made me upset xxx

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