Ex and suicide threats…

[Iykwim]

I’m fed up. Broke up with my ex about 2.5 years ago. We were on and off for a few years during which they were sometimes abusive - verbally, physically etc. Family and friends tried to make me see this was not a healthy relationship but each time i breakup with them, they just force their way back somehow. Yes i know, I'm a pushover.

Ive helped them a few times when they got into trouble with the police. This relationship really stressed me, made me panic a lot, second guess myself and knocked my confidence.

Over the years since we broke up they have bombarded me with calls - ai blocked them, turned up at my property unannounced and at ungodly hours causing a scene, keep reaching out via emails. Ive ignored them all this while.

Now the issue is they threaten suicide when i dont respond. I’m happier now as im seeing someone new. I don’t want to lose this new person. Whenever i receive suicidal threats it bothers me as i would feel bad if they went go ahead with it and i could have prevented it.
Will i be unreasonable if I just ignored all these threats? I was told this could be classified as harassment. I just want them to leave me alone.

People who do this are real scum. You should treat them as if they succeeded, ie, they are dead. They are abusive attention seekers at best, at worst, they may be out to physically harm you.

Not read all comments but I would send him links to mental health support and the Samaritans just in case and block his number. If he does harm himself it is entirely on him.

It’s just another control tactic that abusers use. My ex rang me from the train station once and made it sound like he’d jumped as the train was coming, he’s still alive now 9 years later.

Also please report him to the police, I know you said you don’t want him getting into trouble because of you but it’s his actions that are going to get him into trouble, not you. You shouldn’t have to live like this.

Not your circus, not your monkeys.

Call the police when they send the threats, or the ambulance service, but don't personally engage. even better- change your number and email address.

Bugger, I clicked the wrong voting choice - sorry! I suppose you should read my vote as you are being unreasonable even to consider taking any responsibility for this manipulative piece of work's actions. Suicide threats are a classic control tactic, and you should block, ignore and give yourself complete permission not to allow them to make you feel guilty as you build a life with someone who treats you well.

Your post frightened me. So I'm posting this to warn, not I hope frighten you.

I was watching one of those crime things on Sky and the doctor on there said that this is a way to try to control you. If it failed, they said, then the abuser may harm themselves, but more often will hurt you.

After 2.5 years this is abuse and harassment in my view. Please contact the police.

Again, sorry if this frightens you but I couldn't live with myself if anything happened to you and if kept quiet.

Yes do this and text his mother and or father too, pass.the blame and then they will hopefully feel embarrassed and stop.