To ask those estranged/NC with their dad: did you have him at your wedding? And if you did, did he give you away?

[MyHeartyBlueShaker]

I’ve been thinking a lot about the tradition of having your dad give you away at your wedding and I wanted to hear from others who are estranged or NC with their fathers. Did you still have him at your wedding? And if so, did he give you away? I imagine it’s a very different experience from the ‘traditional’ setup.

No way! I'd had no contact with him for 20+ years at the time of my wedding (his choice, he walked out when we were children). We had a very small, registry office wedding, so I had no need of anyone to walk me down the aisle.

Absolutely not. He wasn't up to par in day to day life, why should he get the honour of being at a special event?

My stepfather gave me away. My own father did not deserve the honour and he certainly didn't get invited to the wedding.

My dad was at my wedding - we're not estranged - but I walked myself down the aisle.

No one is giving me away!

I know a few people who are/ were estranged from their dads. They did invite them to the wedding, but they weren’t sat at top table and didn’t give them away.

Nope, I extended an olive branch and invited mine to our reception (our wedding was in Las Vegas with 2 witnesses) and got a barrage of abuse about how he should be walking me down the aisle. Just reminded me why I went no contact in the first place and I didn't have him there at all. Got married nearly 10 years ago, haven't seen him in 13 years and my life is better without him.

I had mine at my wedding, he didn't give me away. He now tells anyone who'll listen that we're no contact because I didnt let him give me away. But we hadn't spoken or seen each other properly for years before I got married.

I did invite him. He lied that he would be travelling to the city of the wedding the night before and bringing my brother. He was actually flying in the morning of the wedding and missed the flight. When I said ‘you won’t be able to walk me down the aisle’ he said ‘what are you on about, it’s at a registry office!’