…to wonder how we fall in love when bodies are kind of grim?

[BarilynBordeaux]

Idle brain wandering - Seen a few posts advising to get over heartbreak or a crush on some bloke by imagining him the loo or whatever to prove he ain’t great - but, erm, everyone does that! Even people who are great 😂 Sometimes I wonder how we fall in love at all up against with the weird undignified reality of just having a body with all its functions. Sometimes just having a body feels so gross myself I wonder why I’m looking to share space with another one!

But at least you’re not meant to fancy your brother!

I have yet to see an attractive set of bollocks!

I've always thought it a bad design that sex organs also double up as waste disposal.

Last week one of my cats brought in the front half of a mouse, then threw up the other half. It then started eating the throw up

They're not always beautiful

I agree re The Chippendales . Many years ago was talked into going to a show by workmates .
They queued up at the end to have a photo with them ( you paid to do it ) so I had to wait and close up they were covered in thick , thick make-up and oil . It looked disgusting .

We fall in love because bodies are grim and sex is ridiculous. It's nature's way of getting us past our sense of disgust and general weirdness so we manage to reproduce.

Eh, but cats show you their arseholes all day - at least Mr/Ms gym sweaty crotch doesn’t do that.

I think of the large intestine and how it’s usually full of shit
we are all walking around .. full of shit, fat, get sweaty and grim

yes we can polish ourselves.. but still

When I watch a period drama I always think about how they would’ve stunk if BO and their clothes would’ve smelled of dried in sweat, especially the poor ones who wouldn’t have had a bath or washed their clothes as often, and they didn’t have toothpaste!

It kind of make sense, biologically and all, but I have issues with babies insisting on coming out the way they came in. Ruins the mood!

That's admirable. How do you stop your hair from ruffling?

OMFG THIS X 1000

Never, ever.

true.

I've never met a man who try to seduce me with his bollocks, thankfully.

I totally agree! I love the scent and look of an attractive naked man. And a beautiful aerodynamic cock is very arousing to me.

I don't suffer with all this disgust. I guess I'm what you might call earthy.

Agree one hundred purrrrrrcent!🐱

😆 ok I confess I've never actually seen myself during sex but I like to think I look amazing. My hair isn't out of place or stuck to my forehead. And I look very slim!

Blimey. Thanks for posting (I think).

Spot on.

The mind is the sexiest part of the whole package... and can be the biggest turn off.

Yes. I'm a huge fan of Mary Ingalls Wilder's 'Little House on the Prairie' series of books. Hugely informative and educational WRT to daily life in frontier America in the C19. But she carefully omits what the toilet arrangements were.

There’s a difference between love and lust. The former is generally based on more than just appearances.

I remember dd saying . Why do we all sit round watching each other put things INTO our bodies(eating) But stuff coming out is done on your own !!

God I wonder this all the time. I often think about my body and how I have to constantly work to keep it even vaguely acceptable. Bodies aren’t great are they if you have to spend several minutes a day washing them to avoid stinking, then chemically enhance your armpits just to make sure.
The same with teeth. Twice a day at least to keep them clean. Fingernails, ears, hair all need cleaning regularly.

And then societal norms means that I have to take a razor blade to my legs, armpits and pubes several times a week. I wish I could find myself acceptable with really hairy genitals and with hair in other places but I’ve been conditioned not to so I trim and shave because orherwise I think it’s disgusting.

I poo every day. Actual human shit comes out of my bum.

I wee several times a day. I fart. My breath smells sometimes. Five days in every 28 I bleed from my vagina.

And sex? What the hell is that about? I absolutely fucking adore sex but when I think about it? Yuk. That dangly bit gets bigger and sticks out and you put it in me? And my bits get all wet? What?? And then we might open our mouths and lick tongues whilst we’re doing it?! And sometimes I might want to put it in my mouth?? Are you insane? And then at the end all this stuff comes out the same place that your wee comes out of?

What the fuck? And if I don’t get that I’ll crave it and end up rubbing myself until the craving goes away?

It makes zero sense.

There’s no God, I tell you that!

Before I met DH I was in thrall to a man who was no good for me but OMG I felt the opposite of what OP describes. The shape of his body, the way he moved, the tone of his voice, the smell of his skin and fresh sweat - all these made me understand how junkies get hooked - I felt absolutely addicted to him.

Even now, after 30 years of marriage to DH, when he comes to bed after his shower, I look at his body, the soft hair on his chest, the shape of him and think, 'That's nice.' And as for toddlers - there is not a cuter, more beautiful creature on the planet than a human toddler who isn't throwing a tantrum. They are all so watchable, so adorable. I get a surge of oxytocin (or whatever the happiness hormone is) when I look at them playing or hear them chattering away about the world.

Big sweaty balls 🤣

My cat is a Russian hairless and I just told her what you said… she’s very, very sad now and needed four Dreamies just to feel ok. Four more made her happy again 😂 thank god she never gets fat! I love all her wrinkles btw!