Help too old for concert

[ripon432]

my dh and I are in our 60,s and love live music ( all types)

we saw dis lipas set at Glastonbury on tv, thought she was good and dh got tickets for Wembley

He is keen to go , I think we are too old and will stand out.

I am sure it will be an amazing stadium show but I am getting stressed now about going

I am worried about being completely out of place and humiliated

Should I refuse to go , or go and have a good time regardless of what people think

Just Looking for advise please

I’m intrigued who were the band?!

Duran Duran.

Oh nice! They’re legendary! 😊

Of course you should go! You will only stand out if you’re not having a good time! It’s a gig not a club so everyone will be facing forwards anyway

I doubt you will be the only ones there in your sixties.

Yes. My parents banned me from any concerts when I was a teenager so my husband bought tickets and took me to make up for it. I think he's a keeper. :-)

There’s been a couple of threads recently where people seem to be peddling some ageist guff about being past it beyond 35. I’ve filed this one under similar bollocks.

I think the only time I have noticed the age of anyone at a gig is the other week at a very small (and dripping with sweat) venue where the main act was 62, and I was right at the front. I could see little pockets of 18-20 year olds as I was looking around - something I probably wouldn’t do normally, but was on my own- and they stood out against the 50+ crowd. And I thought ‘yay, glad younger people are enjoying his music too’. Still gave one of them my sharp elbows when they tried to push past me onto the barrier though….

We're in our late 50s, try to go to gigs every week and bigger concerts a few times a year. There are always people our age and older. Only one we've been to (abroad, niche band) were we the oldest and people were coming over telling us they wanted to be like us when they were 'proper grown ups'.
Honestly, no one cares. They're too busy hoping they've got a good seat, or some six odd foot bloke isn't going to stand in front of them. Go and enjoy yourselves.

So you “love live music (all types)” yet suddenly stressing about “being completely out of place and humiliated” at a dua lipa concert

YABU for posting drivel. Go away

we only have a short time in this life. Do you really want to lay on your death bed and be pleased you didn’t go as someone might think you’re too old?? What else don’t you do because of age?
I went to Summertime live last year and saw some older people dancing away to the Ibiza tunes. I thought it was great and I’ll be that person when I’m 60!!

How on earth is it wet to be independent enough to do what you want if nobody else fancies it?

You have misread. I am saying it is normal to do all those things in the real world. I travel alone, eat alone, go to all kinds of gigs. None of this is remarkable in the real world.
On MN, doing anything alone or in your 50s is comparable to climbing Everest.

Age is just a number. If you want to go - do it!

Ah, I see what you mean. I only really see that when someone is trying to encourage another MNer to try it.

Just go and enjoy yourself. I took my DP‘s DC10 to a concert on Wednesday. It was full of little kids but then I bumped into a work colleague who is almost 60 and she was there without kids. My previous partner used to come to concerts with me and my DC when he was in his 60s - Pink, Ed Sheeran, Ellie Golding.

I really wouldn't worry. When I'm at a gig I barely register anyone else, I'm focused on the band/singer I came to see! My older sister (mid 50s) is really into pop music and regularly goes to see current pop bands, either with her mid 60s husband or her early 20s son. It's fine!

I think the only time I noticed someone's age at a gig was in the mosh pit at a punk gig where everyone was deliberately (not aggressively!) bashing into each other, falling over and being pulled back up again - typical mosh pit. And one of the other moshers was a guy who was 80 at least! I did notice that because I was a bit worried for him 😬 but everyone took care not to bash him etc (punks are generally nice people despite the stereotypes) and he looked like he was having a blast so good on him.

Just go!

The only time I’ve ever noticed anyone at a concert was Wembley Stadium to see Take That… There was a guy in front of me who sat down, arms crossed, sulking for the entire show, I presumed his wife dragged him along, it was quite funny. To answer your question, nobody will care.

They are amazing, and I believe are in their seventies themselves. I saw them about five years ago.

I am late fifties and go to loads of gigs. My DP took his daughter to Sam Fender the other week.

Was it Robbie?

I'm going to give you a bit of life advice that a wise friend gave me.

"No one is thinking about you as much as you are."

In other words, you are just a passing body on the periphery of everyone elses worlds.
Everyone else at that concert will be busy making the most of whatever large sum they've also paid to be there, to be in the least bit concerned about 2 other people there. They'll be focused on watching and enjoying the show, not thinking about you. And even if they were thinking about you? Who cares? You won't know about it, and they're strangers. Who gives a fuck if they think in their own heads that you're weird?

Put it this way - I’ve been to an electronic music festival this weekend - the kind of music you’d assume would attract youngsters. But there are people there from 18 to about 70. All dancing and having a blast.

The festivals and gigs I go to always have a wide range of ages there. You won’t be judged, and even if you were they can just do one - music exists for everyone to enjoy.

Sorry seeing this a day late but I hope you went?! I went Friday and there was sooooo many different ages there!

The biggest and best piece of advice we can give children and young people at the moment is this. ITS NOT ABOUT YOU. NO ONE CARES ABOUT OR NOTICES YOU!!!

Its one of the biggest causes of anxiety and depression, the thought that everyones eyes are on you and that people are thinking about you, wondering about you, watching you, acting in response to you, doing things 'to' you.

Main character syndrome. Awful

Kids, you're not that special

And neither are you granny.

Totally agree.