Hell is a terraced house with a hot tub, bar and outdoor tv.

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Or more accurately, hell is what I'm going through living next door to this abominable set up.

Family from hell moved in not that long ago. Drunken pot smoking father who attended a house party in the mid 90's and apparently never left, a wife who to be fair seems like she's lost the will to live or smile, and an assortment of teenagers who like to invite all their mates round and shout about dildos and cumming in people's eyes.

The garden has slowly morphed into something resembling a butlins, which is fairly impressive as we all only have narrow postage stamp gardens. It started with a hot tub, progressed to an outdoor bar, and has culminated this weekend in some sort of wooden shack thing made of fences with a tin roof, housing an outdoor television.

The second the sun comes out it is thumping tunes ALL day, which to be fair sometimes gets turned down a little at 11 pm. Unfortunately tonight it has now been replaced by some shitty action movie being loudly played in the garden, as the family members converse in their usual dulcet yells. Must have affected their hearing with all that drum and bass.

Yes, we have tried talking to them. The father seemed to indicate through grunts that he had understood my attempt at communication with a primitive life form, however we were then treated to angle grinding in the street regularly for a few nights, as he loudly complained about the 'stuck up bitch next door' and proclaimed that I'd be 'having that'.

No, I currently can't move. I'm working on it but realistically not going to be any time soon. I'd imagine the house would be a hard sell at the moment too, most prospective owners would run a mile.

I guess I just wanted to rant, I'm so tired. I've actually found myself on the brink of tears a few times tonight, mainly from frustration. They went away last week and it was wonderful. The entire estate was practically silent, just the usual buzz of every day life going on made me really appreciate just what loud obnoxious bastards they are.

The only way to get them to stop without it affecting a house move (complaint to council) is fighting fire with fire. Any time the TV is on, you put a Bluetooth speaker outside loudly playing something that will make their film impossible to watch. If they have a football match on, you play a different football match on catch up so the cheering and commentary is off. Run a sprinkler near their fence.

Why is stuff like this becoming the norm? It's just antisocial. It shouldn't be acceptable where there are close neighbours.

It's just so depressing 😞

I think you need to be strategic. In the long term you possibly need to move out.
In the shorter term, you need to use appropriate means to try to control this: find out who they rent from and provide at least a 2 week dirty of behaviour. Contact the council and do the same.
There will be a way to find the landlord, you just need to find it.

It’s really easy and cheap to find out who owns it via the land registry. A search will cost a few pounds.
It’s much better news for you OP that they rent rather than own. Their behaviour will be classed as anti social behaviour under the terms of their lease which gives the landlord grounds to evict them.
once you know who owns the property write a letter to them and send by recorded delivery setting out everything you have had to put up with. Try and enlist support from your other neighbours who are also suffering.
If you get no response then I’m afraid you need to take this to a solicitor.
Very best of luck OP!

get a universal remote and turn off their TV

God, I feel for you.

Maybe once they get their electricity bill and realise just how much the hot tub costs to run they might stop it. plus the hot weather is bound to end v soon so fingers crossed

He barked at you? Oh my god. Some people are truly insane. My beloved neighbour to our semi detached is selling and I am dreading it. These stories are adding to the worry!

You can also look at zoopla etc and put your street in. Then tick show let or let agreedand it might pop out which agent handled it. They would be able to contact landlord usually ven if they don't manage it

I had neighbours who stayed up late making noise/letting their kids make noise.
The key is to wake up really early and disturb their sleep let your kid kick a ball against the fence at 6am.

Different houses have different schedules and if they can't respect yours don't respect theirs

Can you imagine the insect bites though

Apparently Barry Manilow works in dispensing teenagers. May work for these clowns too.

Good on the neighbours up with power tools etc.

I feel for you and if you look on your council asb page it might have advice, sorry if you have done this. Definitely keep a diary it will hopefully help. I hope they bugger off quickly

Just rmemeber if you file noise complaints it’ll come up when(if) you go to sell your house. It’s the only thing that stopped us as ours has just sold

I share your pain OP. We live in a lovely rural area on a small lane. The closest houses are us and our opposite neighbours, so our gardens are divided by a single track road. Used to be lived in by the Vicar and his wife, so you can imagine how quiet it was. Then the new owners moved in 5 years ago. During lockdown, they built a bar. In the front garden. Complete with lighting, heating, and sound system. Only they don't need the sound system as he's ex army and his voice booms for miles.... I can't tell you how depressed I now am living near them. Every weekend is a horror fest of drinking, noise and 80s music until the early hours. They're in their early 60s as well - but it's like an Inbetweener party. We put the house on the market (our home of 30 + years) but everyone that came to view saw the bar and that was that. I've reported to the council repeatedly, but even though it's in breach of planning, the owner was simply invited to apply for restrospective planning. I'm keeping a noise log, videos and sound recordings but know full well that reporting them will only go against us if we're brave enough to try selling again.

Hi OP, I don't have any advice, just solidarity. I also can't stand noise, and this sounds like obnoxious noise.

My country, South Africa, is a very noisy place. I love the people here; we are a warm, happy and friendly bunch, despite our problems. But 'inside voices' don't exist. Ordinary conversations are shouted at the top of one's lungs. There is always renovating and construction going on everywhere. In the suburbs, nearly every house has at least one barking dog. Taxi drivers lean on their car hooters in order to attract passengers, the traffic noise is unreal.

I play rain sounds, fans and white noise in ever room to stay sane.

Noise pollution and constant exposure to high noise levels is known to cause physical and psychological stress and even illness. And some of us are especially sensitive to noise and it affects us even more.

Apparently there is a town in Switzerland where noise is seen in this way, as an environmental hazard, so it is strictly regulated, and it's the quietest town in the world. I often dream of moving there.

Sounds like a family I used to love next to and they drove us mad when they were 4 houses away. They talked so loudly that we could hear every outside conversation. Every single interaction sounded argumentative because of the way they spoke. Music would start around 4 and go on to 11/12. Regularly heard the kids who were high school age out at 2/3am.

I wish I had some advice other than report disruptive incidents. We did start using white noise to block them out when sleeping. As the next door neighbor I would say show as little regard for their quiet time as they have shown you.

Learn the bagpipes 😉
Poor you I’d have to move house .
Our neighbours are quiet one side and a bit of noisy outdoor play on one side so it’s fine .
The youngest neighbour child is slowly learning how to speak at an acceptable volume

@NaeRolls Can I come with you to that town in Switzerland?! Noise is so intrusive and can be almost impossible to get away from. Some people have no consideration for others.

It’s never a good idea to complain directly to people like this, if they were reasonable they wouldn’t do it in the first place. We had it from both sides in our last house, weed smoking loud music on one side and constant power tools on the other, there was not one single nice weather day that we could just sit in our garden and enjoy it.

Is there a way you can sneak in the garden and remove the fuse out of the telly plug? Rather than cut the pLug off as then they’d be on to you and escalate.They sound like idiots that would just buy a new tv than check the fuse and I’d delight in costing them money.

This ^

You can also buy infrasound/ultrasound devices which they won't be able to hear, but which will cause them to feel uncomfortable. Dh rigged one up aimed over the fence at loud hot tub man and they'd go inside after 10 minutes. He eventually moved.

You have to join together with the other neighbours and start up lawnmowers, chainsaws, leafblowers etc all at once.

I don't suppose you have a link for that wondrous device@smallglassbottle?

They have emerged, as was inevitable.

The bass is thumping. The tub is thrumming. The dad is yelling.

I would love a ticket to the town in Switzerland with @Naerolls and @Lillypj please.

The first comment nailed it haha.
I have similar neighbours to yours, loud sex, weed, balloons, antisocial behaviour.

why does anybody end up with an abusive partner?