To create a fuss about my son not having access to water today in school

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Hello .
My 8 year old son is a bit of a fidgeter, and has difficulty with keeping still . He has a replacement teacher for the past 6 weeks and he has struggled with various issues relating to her " shouting at him all the time " and him feeling picked on everyday no matter what he does .. won't get into the detail but meeting was held and she reassured me that this wasn't the case and she works on praise as well .. .. he told me after the meeting the teacher said in front of the class " why you telling your mum that I'm picking on you "?... Decided to leave things and move on... However today he comes home from school and tells me he had no water the whole day as the teacher said he was fidgeting too much with his bottle and told him to put it away from the table . All the other kids had their bottles on their table . He has said he had a few sips at lunch time and then nothing until after school club at 4 pm 😳
Am I being unreasonable to email the head teacher ?

An 8 year old afternoon class on a sunny day, does not consist of kids sitting at desks, it’s more independent - he could have got up and got a drink at any point. He could have asked for a drink, there are water fountains he could have used -

He did have access to water at lunchtime. Also if he wanted water he could have got it sounds like it's just not on his table which makes sense. My dd class, year 4, puts their water bottles in a tray at the front of the class. Access allowed whenever needed. Yabu here

You don’t know any of that. You don’t know that there are water fountains and you don’t know the style of teaching in the school.

Just lunch time for us!
I agree children should probably be better hydrated than we were, but no need for water bottles on desks.
Do you think you have a case for your son to have a small fiddle toy OP?

What are you on about? 👀

This. This is the thing I’d be focusing on!

She was out of order to say what she did in front of the class. I would not be happy about that. But the water bottle thing is just silly. He had an opportunity to drink at lunchtime and break - that’s fine.

My memories of summer in the 1980s mainly include being thirsty. My first school had a water fountain but my second primary school didn't. Thank goodness for water bottle culture!

I see your point but equally your son wouldn’t have perished between lunchtime and being collected at 3pm because he was unable to ask for a drink.

I didn't have a water bottle at school.

But equally, it wasn't this blisteringly hot. I've felt really ill over the last few days, and that's with access to water.

Kidney stones just entered the chat 👀

I wonder who decided kids need access to a water bottle at all times and when. I went to school in the 90s and we didn't have them either. Was there some sort of organised campaign?
I dont remember being thirsty, we did have fountains but I never used them. I'm pretty sure i went all day at school on just a carton of juice in my lunch box.

I started school that year and no we didn't have water bottles. There was a fountain in the playground we drank from

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Lots of people have survived less than ideal circumstances. Your experience is utterly irrelevant.

We know more and more about how to keep ourselves healthy, both adults and children. Good hydration is a part of that.

The fact that a child wouldn't actually die from a given action doesn't make it ok.

So entire generations of people are not healthy because they didn't have continual access to water!! You are talking rubbish. It is possible to be hydrated without guzzling water all day long.

As a parent of children with ADHD /autism yes I would complain. They fidget and demanding they don’t / punishing them for it is completely unreasonable. They have little control over it. however it’s because of this diagnosis that I know my complaint would be met well, unfortunately without that they’d have the same expectations as neurotypical children.

We know that good hydration is good for children and adults.

Doesn't mean that people died from not having sips of water all day long. Nobody is saying that. But the ideal is just to be able to have a drink as and when you want it.

Why would you argue that NOT having access to water is better than having access?

That's just stupid and part of the whole 'well it was better in my day and we were all tougher and stronger back then' mentality.

He would have also been able to have a drink at break time and would have drank more at lunch if he was thirsty. If he was messing around with his bottle he clearly wasn’t concentrating so I’m not surprised
she removed it from him.

What a strange comment! Children have been taking water bottles to school since at least the 90s, if not the 80’s, and it’s in no way ridiculous. I sit and sip on my water throughout the day to stay hydrated, children should be able to do the same.

Yes, I mean lets all deny climate change as well why we are at it, we didn't have climate change in my day- oh actually I'm not that old so we did!

Honestly, what is going on with these people?! Absurd to think that children shouldn’t have access to water on demand because they didn’t.

They do now! This obsession with having water bottles everywhere. Then there's all the threads complaining about not be able to.use the toilet at school.
A drink before school, one at break, then lunch, and then at the end of school should be sufficient.

Your son did have access to water if he only had a few sips at lunch it doesn’t sound as if he needed any.

was he thirsty?

That’s not what I said and you know it! There is a middle ground between not drinking anything for 3 hours in 30° heat and “a continuous stream of water all day”
Why is everything always so binary with people on Mumsnet?!