To think DS should park further away?

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Honestly I know this is minor but AIBU isn't just for the big stuff.

We live in a semi detached with a drive we can't use.

There's plenty of unrestricted parking on our street and the adjoining street. The only time it gets busy in our area is glorious sunny days and Park Run time.

There is enough space outside our house and next door's house for 3 cars to easily park between the two dropped kerbs. Next door has a large drive that they park one or two cars on.

There's a convention that they park one of their cars outside their house leaving 2 spaces for 2 of our cars.

So DH and I prefer to leave our cars there, visible from sitting room window.

DS has tended to park into one of these gaps if they're empty when he pulls up, but I think he should park a smidge further away and leave the old folk to have a shorter walk to the front door.

I've had a minor word with him but I think he's thoughtless on occasion and soon goes back to pulling into the nearest parking space.

Aibu to think he should defer to us?

What if the neighbours would like to drive up to their garage? That'd be a bit thoughtless.

Then what the actual is this entire thread about?

Old Folk at 50 🤣. You are mere youngsters.

Maybe draw a diagram, OP.but how can you use it for access to your garage as a shared access road if they’re parked on it?

So you have a garage ? I think your son should park whererver he wants first come and all that.

My mum is 65 and still works 12hr shifts in a factory, she’s absolutely fit and well.

But - it’s not about that. It’s my parents house, that they have paid for; and should be able to park in front of. I also think it’s basic generational respect.

I get it, OP, I can't imagine any of our adult kids not leaving the most convenient spots for me and my husband. If something came up where they had a need to be closer, we, of course, would make that happen.

In that case I don't see why you expect him to defer to you.

Sorry I don't understand this? They don't park on the access road, but use it occasionally to transport stuff up to the garage, clean the car with jet wash etc. Like we do.

It'd be impolite to park across the access road so they couldn't have free access to go up when they'd like.

My son's lack of courtesy.

To make my life a teeny bit easier?

But your making his life a teensy bit harder in return. Why is that fair?

He should defer to you because it’s your house. You might point out to him that the obvious solution to there not being enough parking available outside because the houses have too many drivers living there is to lower the number of drivers living in the house…

To quote my son "you raised him"

So your DS lives with you?
Is he working, at college?
Does he pay rent?

Not on a shared drive he can’t because he’d he blocking neighbours access

I don't think you're going to persuade your DS with the argument that you and DH want your cars where you can see them because of security. Presumably he doesn't want his car stolen or broken into either?

Nobody owns a parking space on the road. It's literally a public highway. Get a grip

If it wasn’t your son parking there it could be anyone else.

Should he want to make his mums life easier?sure.

But realistically anyone could park there, if you need to park at your actually house you need a house with dedicated parking/a drive.

I was waiting for the drip feed about you and your dh having considerable mobility issues, and was going to suggest you lay a parking space in front of your house.
BUT you've actually stated you are '50ish' and fit and healthy, not 88 and having difficulty walking. So YABVVVU.
If there is a space there, when any of the 3 people living in the house get home, it makes sense to park in it.

You trying to ay it is better if yours and your dh's cars are parked in front of the house because of break ins, is absolute nonsense for so many reasons

• Your son's insurance is likely to be much higher and he is likely to have much less NCD, so if it were actually a 'thing' the one parked away is likely to be broken in to, then, on those grounds, it should be yours or your dh's
• Cars tend to be stolen once people have gone to bed, so, unless your dh is sitting up through the night, looking out the window, and is then likely to rush out and challenge anyone breaking in, it being parked in view of your living room window isn't relevant.
• Most cars are no longer broken into by breaking windows or picking locks, the car thieves have electronic devices that they pick up a signal from your keys hanging inside your home, so actually, all cars being parked a way away from where the keys are kept would be safer than in front of your house.

However, if you have space for 3 cars between you and your neighbour's driveway, you clearly have a lot of space in front of your house, so if this bothers you so much, then create parking space on your land.

I still don't see any reason why he should, if he arrives to park first. It seems to me that you're just pulling some kind of age and hierarchy card.

I can’t understand people with this view. If my kids live with me, it is also their house. They are just as entitled as I am to park outside the house.

If you have disabilities then you could make it a blue badge space. I'm really confused why someone "50ish" can't walk a few metres from their car, yet can walk dogs, obviously I'm missing something about this story.

As you say, you don't own the parking rights outside your house on a public road. DS can park where he likes. Have you asked him not to? What does he say?

Perhaps DS would like to keep an eye on his car from the house too

You said it was a shared drive. Then you said it was an access road to your garages at the back. But you also say your neighbours park on their drive. Which is, according to you, the shared access road.

Hence asking for a diagram.