To think DS should park further away?

[Totallynootella]

Honestly I know this is minor but AIBU isn't just for the big stuff.

We live in a semi detached with a drive we can't use.

There's plenty of unrestricted parking on our street and the adjoining street. The only time it gets busy in our area is glorious sunny days and Park Run time.

There is enough space outside our house and next door's house for 3 cars to easily park between the two dropped kerbs. Next door has a large drive that they park one or two cars on.

There's a convention that they park one of their cars outside their house leaving 2 spaces for 2 of our cars.

So DH and I prefer to leave our cars there, visible from sitting room window.

DS has tended to park into one of these gaps if they're empty when he pulls up, but I think he should park a smidge further away and leave the old folk to have a shorter walk to the front door.

I've had a minor word with him but I think he's thoughtless on occasion and soon goes back to pulling into the nearest parking space.

Aibu to think he should defer to us?

Everyone is entitled to park on a public road?

Problem solved, you’ve answered your own question

I don't see why you think you should get priority of the space. If your DS gets home first, why shouldn't he be able to park there?

Everyone is entitled to park on a public road?

As you said. You sound very entitled.

This is possibly one of the most pointless posts I've ever read. Speak to your son about it if you're really bothered.

I think the biggest question people are puzzling over is why this matters at all. Unless you are 80 the argument of you needing your car to be closer just isn’t relevant

You are being unreasonable telling your son where to park. You are also being unreasonable with your replies to people with queries on your post; questions are expected there’s no need to be evasive

If you are using the car more frequently and coming and going and he is only really parking overnight, then yes, I think you can ask.

however, if no one uses the garages requiring vehicular access have an agreement with the neighbours that it is used for parking. Overnight.

Yes, he should park further away. If he doesn’t, he is being an inconsiderate dick. Has he given a reason for not doing as you have asked?

This 👆

My mum is a 3 car household, and then my sister and I make another 2 when we visit.

Sunday lunches as a family mean 5 cars, 2 of them belong to my parents in their 60’s and both mine and my sisters have kids in.

I wouldn’t dream of taking up a space either her or my stepdad could use that’s close to the house. We both park round the corner when required.

Who pays for your son’s car and tax. If he pays, as a driver he is entitled to park where he wishes as it is legal space on a highway. If you pay, then it’s your vehicle and it should be left where you prefer.

Literally anyone can park outside your house. If you don’t choose to use your drive/garage that’s up to you. But you can’t tell your son not to park on the public highway.

It’s first come first served at our house for parking. Neither myself nor DH has ever thought of ourselves as more worthy of the closest spaces than DS 🤷‍♀️.

As you say you’re only asking DS to park a “smidge” farther away, it seems to be a bit of a non issue. It’s not like any of you will have to walk a long way home if not able to park directly outside your house?

If the garages are anything like the ones in our road with the same arrangement, you can barely get a modern car down the access between the houses, let alone in the garage! They don't have space to park in front of them, the arrangement is house/side gate/garage/garage/side gate/house, with the side gates at an angle. They were built for 1930s cars, and they're used for storage or bikes nowadays.

Do you have any mobility issues or are you 90 and unsteady on your feet?

If neither of these are the case I don’t see an issue from your son here.

@Totallynootella

Why can’t you park one of your cars in your garage?

Totallynootella · Today 13:37

"The drive is a shared drive with next door. It's in the deeds it's access only to our garages at rear of properties."

Totallynootella · Today 13:43
"Everyone is entitled to park on a public road?
Neighbour have 3 or 4 cars depending on whether adult child is staying or not.
They park 2 cars on their drive and one car in from of their front garden".

Sorry but those two comments make no sense.

You can't park on your drive because it's a shared drive with your neighbours and it's only for access to your respective garages behind your houses.

But your neighbours do park on the drive(?). Why are they allowed to park on it but you aren't?

And yes, unless the local authority has put in place parking restrictions, anyone is entitled to park anywhere on a public road. You don't own "parking rights" to the bit of public road outside your front window.

It's not unreasonable to expect priority parking at your own home that you pay/paid for. I'd keep reminding him. Have him go move his car whenever he parks in 'your' spot. The inconvenience will probably help the lesson sink in a little faster.

It's illegal to park in front of a dropped kerb even if it's your dropped kerb that you paid the council for.

How old and doddery are you that this is actually an issue?

I have 2 neighbours. As I think most people do?

Other half of semi-detached own their own drive.

Neighbours on other side of us have half ownership and rights of the access road between the 2 properties.

I'm 50ish and swim thrice a week, gym a couple of times a week. Walk the dogs 7 times a week.

Still consider myself Old Folk compared with my son.

YANBU - If my DM asked me to do that for her, I would.

Park over the non accessible drive?

So there isn’t a drive as such just access to a garage
which they could there use but don’t

actually for elderly people it’s best if they keep physically challenging themselves so your son is doing you a favor

I'm.not saying I own parking rights outside my house.

Just think it'd be grand if DS would remember to let me park nearer to a my front door for ease of carrying stuff, manoeuvring dogs. And I think it's less likely that DH and my cars are broken into if they're visible from the house.