Our neighbours can be quite loud when in the bedroom - both houses are detached, but with warmer evenings they often have their two bedroom windows open. This means we can hear all sorts - we’ve always assumed they are aware of this and it’s part of their enjoyment. They are both confident young professionals and to be fair are polite whenever we see them on the drive.
We have turned a blind eye to it, but now our DC is old enough to be playing in the garden regularly, two days ago next door were having a very vocal session at about 4pm whilst he was in our garden.
Both DH and I agreed this was a line crossed and that we’d say something but try to make it light hearted and not confrontational. They usually both commute together on a Wednesday and leave at a similar time, so DH was on look out in our front room and he’d disguise going out to his car as a way to speak to them.
Anyway, the woman appeared first and DH went out, assuming her partner would follow.
DH jokingly said to her something about it being a good seeing to yesterday, and she looked shocked.
Basically - they weren’t aware we could hear anything!!
Here is the issue - her partner wasn’t there yesterday morning but knocked after his work and took offence at how DH approached it and his terminology. DH apologised on the spot but it’s clear they are not happy with him.
Do you think we should have approached this differently, a note through the door? We thought we’d address head on and humour would be the best bet.