To ask boyfriend about FB picture

[mushkaa]

I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year, it’s all going well. This may seem like a non issue to some, however yesterday my boyfriend changed his profile picture to a photo of me and him for the first time. Thought it was a sweet thing to do. When I went to comment on it I realised he’d turn the ability to comment off. After a quick scroll through, it’s the only photo on there that you’re not able to comment on.

I don’t usually pay too much attention to social media but this has made me feel a little uneasy. AIBU if I ask him why? I really don’t want to come across as crazy!

The World is on fire and this is what worries you? Bloody hell.

@SerpentstoothAm I only allowed to worry about one thing at a time? I thought this was an advice forum!

Just tell him you went to comment and you saw he turned the comments off, and ask why. No need to be accusatory about it, I don't think you have anything to worry about, but just to satiate your curiosity. I'd be curious too.

Oh wheest, that virtue signalling response is so boringly repetitive now...🙄

People are allowed to have their own lives and worries!!

I think their point was that in the greater scheme of things there are probably far larger things to worry about in the world right now. Like the prospect of being dragged into world war three and the odd one or two long range weapons slowly being aimed in the rough direction of the UK right now. But hey, your picture on Facebook....

He probably doesn’t want a tonne of notifications saying the same thing…

Could you comment on the photo ILR? Just tell him what you wanted to say about it to his face. Dp and I have found healthy communication really helps and what’s more healthy than looking at photos of you together and talking about shared memories

@OhCalmTheFuckDownMargaretYes there are some terrible things going on in the world right now but I didn’t realise that meant I wasn’t allowed to worry about anything else!

What concerns you about it? My first thought would be that he knows Uncle Jim might make an inappropriate remark, or that he’ll end up with several dozen “congratulations!” type comments from acquaintances who didn't know he had a girlfriend, or every single one of his aunts will end up commenting “so when’s the wedding??” It just all gets a bit tedious.

But why are you worried? How could there possibly be a negative to him changing his picture to one of both of you? People's comments about you worrying about this is because it's such a non-event.

Is it because the profile picture is “public” and the others on his profile aren’t? Quickest way to find out is just to ask him.

That said, I’m not sure I’d care.

But THIS is the OP's world right now and if it's worrying her,it's only right she speaks about it 🙄

How incredibly dismissive. People come here for advice on everything from the trivial to serious.

Who are you to judge what people can be bothered about?!

Oh jeez this place!!

You are allowed to have feelings about things going on in your life rather than worrying about things we have no control over.

As others have said, no need to be accusatory, just a, oh I went to comment but I wasn't able to..

Classic.

Just ask him, it's probably nothing and he hasn't noticed.

This is such a sociopathic response, I have always thought.

Belittling human beings for having human feelings about their own concerns.

I would think changing the profile pic to both of you is a really, really nice thing to do.
As for the comments, I absolutely get it. People do tend to leave comments under this type of image, and I think in particular for men, they just don’t want to reply to Aunty Mary and her famous ‘oh won’t you have lovely babies’ comment.
Ditto: people saying ‘you kept her hidden’ and ‘you are punching there, mate!’
Facebook caused me a lot of angst in the past. I deleted it in the end.
The main thing is how he treats you in real life.
And most importantly, if you want to know, ask him.

It somewhat ironic that with all that's going on in the world you've found some time to comment on a post that had absolutely no impact on you.

Just ask him!

Maybe it shouldn't have but your post made me LOL at the ridiculousness of it. Bloody hell 🙄😆😆😆

Tell him you love the photo, can you tag me in it so i can have it on my wall, your comments will be turned on, if there's anything to worry about someone commenting then it then they can comment on yours

don’t waste your time wondering about such things. Just ask him.

This.

My husband hates notifications. So my facebook is single instead of married. He likes it like that, ruddy weirdo

Could you change your photo to one of you two, and don’t allow comments and see what he says