To ask boyfriend about FB picture

[mushkaa]

I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year, it’s all going well. This may seem like a non issue to some, however yesterday my boyfriend changed his profile picture to a photo of me and him for the first time. Thought it was a sweet thing to do. When I went to comment on it I realised he’d turn the ability to comment off. After a quick scroll through, it’s the only photo on there that you’re not able to comment on.

I don’t usually pay too much attention to social media but this has made me feel a little uneasy. AIBU if I ask him why? I really don’t want to come across as crazy!

The world is on fire and what somebody you don't know posts on mumsnet is what worries you enough to comment within a minute? Bloody hell.

I didn't even know you could turn comments off. Is it a relatively new thing? Perhaps he's only just discovered the feature.

Apparently so. I wonder what the one and only issue is that @Serpentstooth will allow us to worry about?

Sounds like a silly thing to worry about.

100% this

It will almost certainly be this. My publicly available info is as limited as possible so no one outside my "friends" can see my cover photo or comment on the profile photo. Restricting comments on profile photo is probably something he's had in place for years.

The fact that he has got a profile photo of the two of you shows that he's happy to publicly show his relationship with you. That should reassure you. Most people don't even do that. I've never had a profile photo with my husband in too nor he with me.

Just concentrate on the fact he's changed his profile pic, to include you. That speaks volumes. Why does it need commenting on?

I think the point is that it's the only photo he's done that with. So why are other people allowed to comment on other photos but not this photo which is the first time he's put OP on his page?

Is it about being “allowed to comment” on the other photos though? He probably doesn’t give a damn either way. Why would he go back and retrospectively turn off comments on all his old pictures? Who looks back through someone’s old profile pictures to comment on them months or years later?

Pretty sure everyone knows what their point was. But thank you for saying it again with different words.

Off to site stuff to request the forum name is changed to Theworldisonfireandnobodyisallowedtotalkaboutanythingelsenet.

This. He's done a nice thing, presumably off his own bat and not under pressure from you, so can't you be pleased with that instead of focusing over adding comments?

Ask him ??

Men are simple creatures, it’s more likely he doesn’t want people to comment on him having a girlfriend or making a statement. I take it he hasn’t posted you before or previous girlfriends?

Just ask him ffs

@mushkaa if you are over-thinking on such a tiny irrelevant thing, then I'd suggest deleting your social media accounts. It's really not good for mental health of those with any sort of anxiety.

Not that I use SocMed much, but if I change my profile photo then I don't want/need lots of comments. It's just a photo. So I'd probably opt for no comments.

He's probably turned the comments off, so he doesn't receive 50+ comments, all saying a variation of the same thing. I don't think you have anything to worry about, to be honest.

Has he got locked down privacy settings? He might have done it as profile pictures are visible to the public and he doesn't want randoms to be able to be able to find out information about him by browsing his friends who have commented, as their profiles may not be private!

Or he might dread comments like "what happened to the other girl" which is what my uncle put on brother's engagement pic.

If everyone could just put all their concerns on hold until we have Gaza sorted out that would be grand.

I do this as I can’t be arsed with comments, doesn’t mean anything bad.

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What is the big deal about asking him? I don't think it means anything, but what kind of relationship is it if you can't even ask him a simple question?

Could he have done it by accident?

You could just tel in him in person that you like the photo. Maybe he did not want the questions of who is she
Or Cute couple comments

It’s only social media

Oh ok, so we should all just sit in a cupboard in silence and have no life because global problems exist and are serious? 🙄