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Why have people tolerated the housing catastrophe of the last 30 years

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nomemono · 17/06/2025 20:47

I know it has been good for those geared up or alt the top of the ladder in the mid 90s, and to a declining degree, most years since then, but really, how has this been allowed to happen. Just as one illustration, houses in the frankly crime ridden North London estate I grew up now cost 4 times their real, inflation adjusted, 1997 price. £420,000 to live in one of the worst areas of London, in an old, poorly insulated house. Oxford, affordable when I was a student, now almost worse than London. Cambridge, Brighton, anywhere well linked and with good transport links or local jobs, the same. People casually posting on this website about having £900k to spend on a house. Single people shafted, ditto those without inheritances. How has it come to this?

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anotherside · 18/06/2025 14:34

@nomemono

the dreadful FPTP

Which is a cause of much of the rubbish policy of the country: there’s no incentive for the two big parties to change. They just need to shore up their little posse of voters and that’s that. As much as I hate Reform the one bright side is that at least they’re making the two parties have to actually work for once. But what we really need is PR.

GnomeDePlume · 18/06/2025 14:34

@p1nkp0ny I have lived in Northamptonshire for most of my adult life. It has always had poor health and education services, poor public transport. It has even probably always had dodgy chief constables. It isn't a slum, it's just too spread out.

Perhaps this is what has helped it to remain a place where people can still get on the housing ladder. It has never been fashionable. The terraced houses don't get gentrified. When renovating, kitchens are your bog standard Wickes not Smallbone & Wotsit. Nobody digs under their terraced house & garden to create a gym & swimming pool complex.

MargoLivebetter · 18/06/2025 14:36

Yes @CatHairEveryWhereNow it could do that too.

HoratioBellsOn · 18/06/2025 14:38

ERthree · 18/06/2025 13:33

At the start of the 90s women stayed at home with the children and mortgages were based on one wage. By the end of the 90s childcare centres were opening, so women went back to work, therefore there was 2 wages to base a mortgage on. If a house was up for sale at £79k a working couple could offer more than "traditional" couple where one stayed at home. also when a house was valued at £79k but was bought for £83 by a working couple the neighbours then believed (as did estate agents) they could get £88k for theirs and on and on it went. Valuations weren't and still aren't based on the actual worth but on what you can expect someone to pay for it. Add into the mix of high numbers of migration in the last 20 years and it is a nightmare.

It's simply not true to say that women stayed at home in the 90s. In 1991 more than 70% of women worked, and by 1992 60% of women with children worked, and almost 80% of women with children over 10 worked. I had my DC in the 90s and all my Mum friends were working.

I went to a 'childcare centre' ie a nursery, in the 1960s, they didn't start opening in the late 90s.

Goldenbear · 18/06/2025 14:40

Primrose86 · 18/06/2025 14:14

Dh and I bought our 2 bed flat in London in our 20s for 400k (period 1930s flat) in 2019. Cobbled together deposit after 3 years of work.

We weren't any different from his parents; his father lived at home until his early 30s before buying a 1 bed flat in London as a newly wed and they had 3 children there in 7 years. We lived with his mum for 3 years so we had a quicker timeline probably cos our wages were higher..They only bought their terraced with family help. We wouldn't be getting that so would be staying in our flat and investing in education instead. Dh got a vasectomy after I got pregnant to prevent the 3 kid situation.

Of course dh's grandpa (also in London) had a better time housing wise with his mortgage on a 3 bed semi from the council on a single garment worker's salary but that was in the 50s and they paid their mortgage with savings from a tin can. So I find it difficult to relate to that time.

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I don't think this was widespread as housing costs are nine times average earnings, such costs last seen in the Victorian era! My parents and their friends, peers came from working class backgrounds and all bought houses, 3- 4 bedroom in London. My parents bought a detached house in West London. My parents went to uni on full grants but the fact that they could buy their house with no family money, on professionals salaries as could their friends in similar circumstances is just something unattainable now. We are early to mid 40s but don't have anything near to that size house and even as an Architect and data professional we still needed help from family. It is undeniably a problem of foreign investment buying up homes as assets and wholly changes the environment of a place. I was born and grew up in London and 90s London was a world away from this global city which has its good parts but the down sides are nowhere for long term citizens to buy or rent at a reasonable rate.

I don't think we should be fatalistic about it, near me there was a u turn on the destruction of the leisure centre to be replaced with luxury apartments such was the outcry from the local residents who they listened to!

AlpineMuesli · 18/06/2025 14:42

nomemono · 18/06/2025 13:30

This is what I'd suggest people do:

  1. Join political pressure groups and parties that support decreasing housing costs a quickly and by as much as possible.
  2. Create and sign petitions on the subject demanding it be raised in Parliament
  3. Mass demonstrations & civil disobedience. Target the supposedly critical 10% of the population on the streets at the same time in different parts of the country. So 7 million people marching.
  4. Bombard sitting and prospective MPs demanding action

On an individual level, young non inheritors on <£100k p.a. might be advised to look for work that is remote, take language classes then relocate to parts of Europe with reliable broadband and affordable housing. Unless there is radical change within a reasonable time frame, much of the UK will be for the older property owners, their inheritees, and people who have migrated from countries with a worse quality of life. Nursing and teaching posts will go unfilled, including in fee paying schools. Worse health and education outcomes over a generation, possibly feeding into a declining economy and eventually declining house prices in 30or 40 years time.

I just need you to tell me what:

  1. Join political pressure groups and parties that support decreasing housing costs a quickly and by as much as possible.

would entail.

What are the exact market interferences you want the govt to make?

Steakbreake · 18/06/2025 14:49

amicisimma · 18/06/2025 13:59

I think a lot of attitudes have changed.

My dad was over 50 before he first bought. My early years were spent in a HMO. Nowadays people would be horrified at a family spending years living like that. When my parents eventually bought the place was a wreck, not quite in a nice part of London. I remember my mum stuffing newspaper into the cracks in the wall to stop the draughts.

I didn't buy until I was in my 30s. Before that I lived in various house-shares in varying degrees of squalor. For several years I worked three jobs: my main one, evenings in a pub, and three 12-hour shifts per fortnight at weekends. I didn't go out much - didn't have much time.

Nowadays no one seems to want to share for over a decade, or miss out on takeaways, or delay having a family until they are established. Yet all my friends were in shares in our 20s and have lots of good friends made that way.

My first buy was a tiny one-bed on the fourth floor in a rather run down building in an area of London no one had heard off. No tube close by. But at least one post says that s/he doesn't want to work up the housing ladder.

Added to the immigration numbers, numbers of people living in single-adult households, complicated planning/building regulations, difficulty and expense of finding builders and materials, so constraints on building, and housing becomes scarce. And like any scarce commodity, expensive.

I don't think attitudes have changed that much over the years you're probably just moving in different circles now, there's a whole long street in my town that is 90% house shares with people with young kids in.

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/06/2025 14:49

Drew79 · 18/06/2025 13:11

2009? I'm amazed you've lost money , prices had plunged ny then.

Most NW houses have doubled in value in the last 10-11 years (which is bad bad thing)

Yes. It was on for £550k and the vendor ummed and ahhed about our offer for a while. We had to mi d quickly for work so probably still paid too much.

Prices certainly haven’t doubled in our pleasant coastal town! We put our current place on at offers over 695 a year ago on the advice of the agent - we told them we needed to sell quickly they told us if we didn’t, they’d start at 715, much in line with similar properties.

Most have considerably reduced since then or are still sat on the market. We’ve recently accepted an offer some way under 600 and are glad to have it. Means we can all on with our lives.

Alwaystired94 · 18/06/2025 15:29

My parents bought a house in 1999 for 114k - 4 bed detached corner plot in a cul-de-sac of a very desirable area in the South. Sold it in 2003 for 195k... current estimate is £500k+.

I'm in my 30's and have come to terms with the fact unless i win the lottery or everyone i know dies and leaves me money i'll never own my own home. Who on earth can save for a deposit when my rent alone takes up £1200 a month of my pay? not to mention any other bill at all.

The real kicker is the disgusting behaviour of so many landlords. I've had my rent increased every year living in this particular property but the landlord has no outstanding mortgage and hasn't for over 20 years! and in 3 years they've spent at most £300 on our property....

ERthree · 18/06/2025 15:35

HoratioBellsOn · 18/06/2025 14:38

It's simply not true to say that women stayed at home in the 90s. In 1991 more than 70% of women worked, and by 1992 60% of women with children worked, and almost 80% of women with children over 10 worked. I had my DC in the 90s and all my Mum friends were working.

I went to a 'childcare centre' ie a nursery, in the 1960s, they didn't start opening in the late 90s.

You are right bad choice of words. Most women stayed at home and full daycare centres were few and far between. Many women that did work had family to look after their children. Yes many women did work but a lot worked evenings or part time. I had my children in he 80s and i only knew one woman with a child under school age that worked. Many went pt once their children went to secondary school.

GasPanic · 18/06/2025 15:59

I think to answer the OPs question the reason it has been tolerated is because a lot of people feel like they have "won" from the housing bubble whereas in reality all they have done is end up with a massive proportion of their money tied up in housing (which they could have spent on other things), paid the bankers ever increasing amounts in interest and priced their descendants out of the marketplace.

The housing bubble really is too big to fail. People are in it up to their eyeballs and if it pops there will be ruin for the majority. This is why successive governments basically throw money at the lenders, housebuilders to keep the bubble inflated because if it does go they are finished.

It will pop eventually, but it will be pretty much the last thing that goes down because when it does the government that presides over it will be finished. They would rather just carry on throwing 10s of billions at it and kicking the can down the road for someone else to deal with.

Primrose86 · 18/06/2025 16:10

Goldenbear · 18/06/2025 14:40

I don't think this was widespread as housing costs are nine times average earnings, such costs last seen in the Victorian era! My parents and their friends, peers came from working class backgrounds and all bought houses, 3- 4 bedroom in London. My parents bought a detached house in West London. My parents went to uni on full grants but the fact that they could buy their house with no family money, on professionals salaries as could their friends in similar circumstances is just something unattainable now. We are early to mid 40s but don't have anything near to that size house and even as an Architect and data professional we still needed help from family. It is undeniably a problem of foreign investment buying up homes as assets and wholly changes the environment of a place. I was born and grew up in London and 90s London was a world away from this global city which has its good parts but the down sides are nowhere for long term citizens to buy or rent at a reasonable rate.

I don't think we should be fatalistic about it, near me there was a u turn on the destruction of the leisure centre to be replaced with luxury apartments such was the outcry from the local residents who they listened to!

I suspect dh's parents employment history was more patchy than they made out while dh and I both went to rg universities and we bought the flat after dh got a job at a tier 1 investment bank.

Perhaps in our generation they wouldn't be able to buy anything and perhaps wouldn't even have been in a position to start a family. We are the only ones amongst dh's generation to buy anything..

treesfalling · 18/06/2025 16:20

Nowadays no one seems to want to share for over a decade, or miss out on takeaways, or delay having a family until they are established.

Loads of people do share & look at the birth rates! 😆

treesfalling · 18/06/2025 16:22

I think to answer the OPs question the reason it has been tolerated is because a lot of people feel like they have "won" from the housing bubble whereas in reality all they have done is end up with a massive proportion of their money tied up in housing (which they could have spent on other things), paid the bankers ever increasing amounts in interest and priced their descendants out of the marketplace.

Yep

Sabire9 · 18/06/2025 16:50

treesfalling · 18/06/2025 16:20

Nowadays no one seems to want to share for over a decade, or miss out on takeaways, or delay having a family until they are established.

Loads of people do share & look at the birth rates! 😆

The average age that people leave home has increased between 2010 and today, and more people than ever are living in rented shared housing.

The average age of first birth for women born in 1943 was 23. For women born in the past three decades it's 29. For girls born in 2025 it's projected to be 35.

LegleEagle · 18/06/2025 16:54

What have you done about it OP?

Cassieskinsismad · 18/06/2025 17:02

Theeternalrocksbeneath · 17/06/2025 21:23

We didn’t intend this to be our forever home - ironically, we got our house for a reduced price as it’s in the middle of nowhere, incredibly rural and in 2000 that didn’t seem to appeal to many people. Reading threads on here and seeing what people are saying in real life, it seems this is actually what many people are after nowadays!

But one thing I do have to slightly disagree with (sorry!) is that in my experience, many people in their 20s can’t even afford starter homes at the moment. Starter homes, when we were buying, were 3 bed terraced properties, priced at around £35-45,000. That was incredibly achievable only 25 years ago and now even those properties are selling for upwards of £250,000. I don’t know any youngsters who can afford that, especially if they’re single.

A starter home is a one bedroom flat or studio flat...

GnomeDePlume · 18/06/2025 17:15

Cassieskinsismad · 18/06/2025 17:02

A starter home is a one bedroom flat or studio flat...

Depends on where you are. Where I am 2/3 bed terraced house is the starter home. Flats are often in over 50s developments so appealing to different buyers.

ArtfulGoldWriter · 18/06/2025 17:23

AlpineMuesli · 18/06/2025 14:42

I just need you to tell me what:

  1. Join political pressure groups and parties that support decreasing housing costs a quickly and by as much as possible.

would entail.

What are the exact market interferences you want the govt to make?

I already said this up the thread. Ban buy to let mortgages and Air BNB. Build council houses. Heavily tax empty homes as in wales. Make second homes untenable. Restrict lending to 3x income- there’s probably more - but all of these things would immediately start to reset the housing market.

HoratioBellsOn · 18/06/2025 17:24

ERthree · 18/06/2025 15:35

You are right bad choice of words. Most women stayed at home and full daycare centres were few and far between. Many women that did work had family to look after their children. Yes many women did work but a lot worked evenings or part time. I had my children in he 80s and i only knew one woman with a child under school age that worked. Many went pt once their children went to secondary school.

Most women didn't stay at home though, most worked in the 90s. Most women with children worked too. Maybe the mothers in the 50s, 60s and 70s stayed home, but the stats are clear that by the 90s that just wasn't the case and the majority of women with children worked.

ArtfulGoldWriter · 18/06/2025 17:33

Also, and this is a key point- it’s a POLITICAL DECISION to let house prices remain at this level. There are plenty of actions that could be taken to reset the entire market- but politicians don’t want to do what is needed and so we are in a housing catastrophe. I will vote for any party that has the balls to do what needs to be done!

ArtfulGoldWriter · 18/06/2025 17:33

Also, and this is a key point- it’s a POLITICAL DECISION to let house prices remain at this level. There are plenty of actions that could be taken to reset the entire market- but politicians don’t want to do what is needed and so we are in a housing catastrophe. I will vote for any party that has the balls to do what needs to be done!

PalePinkPeony · 18/06/2025 17:34

Stolenyouth · 17/06/2025 21:33

I have three in their 20s and they have just decided not to play the ‘housing ladder’ game. They can’t join in and they can’t win.

Some bloke at work who has several buy to lets was banging on about 40 year mortgages and shared ownership and commuting 2 hours as options for them. They MUST buy something. It worked for him! No. They won’t be inflating this bubble any more. He didn’t like that I said flats were slowly deflating and it was a good thing that landlords were being squeezed. Like he was clever to have made money instead of just lucky with timing.

I’m sorry but this advice for your children is quite foolish longer term.

PalePinkPeony · 18/06/2025 17:38

HoratioBellsOn · 18/06/2025 14:38

It's simply not true to say that women stayed at home in the 90s. In 1991 more than 70% of women worked, and by 1992 60% of women with children worked, and almost 80% of women with children over 10 worked. I had my DC in the 90s and all my Mum friends were working.

I went to a 'childcare centre' ie a nursery, in the 1960s, they didn't start opening in the late 90s.

But ‘working’ for many looked very different to today. Women may have worked part time whilst kids were in school more, or evening work, or only several hours a week.
In the early 90’s it was very normal for a mum to be at home with kids for the majority of the time until they were older and lots never went back.
You can’t say mothers worked as much in the early 90’s as they do now surely? There has been a big shift in the past 30 years

Poynsettia · 18/06/2025 17:50

There wasn’t the childcare then or breakfast and after school cover