To be angry at DH for ruining Father’s Day lunch out

[Chelle882]

Myself, DH and our two teenage DC went out for lunch today to celebrate Father’s Day at a local restaurant.

When the food arrived, there was an issue with DH’s meal and he alerted the waitress to this. The waitress told him she’d arrange for this to be re-cooked and it would take 15-20 minutes.

DH asked that they also take the other three meals away so that we’d all be eating at the same time.

The waitress said she’d need to check this with a manager. The manager came over and apologised, said that they wouldn’t be able to re-do the three meals which were fine but they’d deduct the cost of DH’s meal from our bill and also give us a free round of drinks.

DH challenged this and the manager stood firm. Without consulting me, DH said that we would leave and find somewhere else to eat. So we didn’t touch our food and DH settled the bill for the drinks we’d had and we all walked out (much to our hungry DC’s bemusement).

Obviously being Father’s Day, the two other restaurants in close proximity were fully booked until this evening, so we grabbed a KFC drive through on the way home (which doesn’t agree with me so I’ve had stomach cramps for the past three hours!)

DH maintains he was correct to leave the meal and that restaurant’s should not get away with this - we’d ordered to eat together and they failed to deliver this.

For the sake of our DC’s I think he should have just sucked it up and not ruined the lunch.

Do you agree with what he did or would you have just accepted the free meal and got on with it?

Oh my god he’s pathetic. Is this the first time he’s been a selfish arse and ruined an event?

What was the issue? It may change my mind, but on the face of it, he was being massively unreasonable.

He had a steak and it wasn’t cooked as per his instructions (which the restaurant did acknowledge).

What was the issue with his meal?
He sounds unbearable.

He's right, the manager should have been happy to serve you all the correct meal, per initial instructions, at the same time.

Why should he have to sit and wait twenty minutes for everyone else to finish?

YANBU I cannot fathom someone demanding that the other meals should be eaten away too?? Utterly batshit, nevermind wasteful.

I get that its not ideal for him to inevitably be eating separately to the rest of you but its certainly not worth that level of fuss. What an absolute weapon.

He’s being U, but why eat something that didn’t agree with you?

I get it’s incredibly annoying there was an issue, but it’s Father’s Day, likely very busy and not the end of the world

What's the issue with wanting to eat together? I had a similar experience recently where my starter wasn't edible (chicken liver still had the gall bladders attached!). They offered to make a new starter, but everyone else was half way through theirs so I declined. I just sat and waited whilst everyone else finished theirs, I wasn't bothered in the slightest that they were eating and I wasn't.

He should have just sucked it up and started his meal a bit later when it arrived, especially as his meal was free AND they were offering to take the drinks off the bill.

Is this the first time something like this has happened OP? Or does he have form for this?

Well I kind of agree with him. 3 of you would have sat eating your meal and he would be sat twiddling his thumbs, then eating on his own because you’d have finished yours. Personally, I hate that.

Surely he could have eaten it when they said it would be free? I get it wasn’t to his incredibly high standards but surely for the sake of having to leave and causing such a fuss

Why should they ALL have to wait another 20 minutes instead of eating the perfectly good food in front of them?

I'm probably missing the point but how on earth does it take them up to 20 mins to cook a new steak?! Does he want it as charcoal?!

So his wife and children went hungry because he didn't get his way.

And that's not selfish because........?

They offered a refund and a round of drinks and he still wasn’t happy. He sounds entitled and a bit of a moron to make such a fuss over his steak.

What were you proposing that your husband was going to do whilst the rest of you ate just sit twiddling his thumbs ? If you go out for a meal then you all eat together , we don’t start eating at home until everybody is ready so I wouldn’t do it in a restaurant.

I could not live with a man like this.

Even if the cow was still mooing, I'd have rather eaten it and said yum than inconvenience so many people.

Sounds like dick swinging and I bet it's not the only thing.

I would be unhappy about the situation -- I would resent paying £££ for a meal that didn't deliver what it should have done (the family eating together at the same time) ... and it sounds like there would not have been a happy outcome here for everyone. The acceptability of the meal was lost ... so then the question is spend money on it and not enjoy it, or walk away. Agree you shouldn't have eaten the KFC though, if that helps.

That’s harsh. Not getting his way? He wanted to eat as a family - hardly a big ask. It’s very expensive to eat out now.

I’d be mortified. I couldn’t imagine making everyone (especially my kids) wait 15 minutes for my food to be re-cooked. I don’t think this will be an isolated event either, but I’d just give the ungrateful sod a card next time and say crack on.

I think your DH was right.

All the chef had to do was cook the meals as ordered. Thats all. Thats his job. He should have bloody well cooked the steak properly to start with - thats what your paying him for. It doesn't cost the restaurant more money to give the customer a steak the way they like it!

I've started complaining more and sending stuff back too.

Just fucking give me what I asked for!

Why was it going to take them 20 minutes to redo a steak? That’s the part that would have annoyed me the most

He does seem to have made a huge drama out of it. He couldn’t have just sucked up the steak not being cooked to his requirements for the sake of a harmonious lunch together? If you now tell us it was Wetherspoons, he was being a complete arse. If it was a £100 steak somewhere fancy, I could understand his annoyance but walking everyone out there hungry is completely OTT.

I’m confused. He ruined Father’s Day - for who? It was for him. And why eat food you know disagrees with you?

it's a ego clash...happens...DH wanted to look strong in front of family but manager did not budge. You don't have to wait for father's day for a nice family meal go out another day...let it pass, practice to let go

What a fuss pot. I don't think he must be a very welcome customer