To not send my children to school because I need to fly ?

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I have to fly tonight and my kids have been left with my mum, she lives two hours away. Is it ok that they don’t go to school or am I a terrible parent for picking work over the kids?

No it's not ok. You need to take time of work and sort your kids out. And longer term, a job that isn't a flight away!

Or just read the thread, it’s two weeks.

you havent been hone for weeks andnow another 2? no they cant miss 2 weeks

get another job

All the people saying the other (burnt out) parent needs to step up have missed where the OP states they have only been around for one weekend in weeks.
OP needs to step up, ask his/her parent to come and stay if needed.

You need to review your life choices

I hate these kind of posts with no information and then a few one line responses.

will they be off the whole two weeks? What’s the situation with the other parent? Why are you away with work so frequently? Have they missed any other school? What will your mum be doing with them? Could someone more local have her them? MORE INFOrmation woman!

Burned out. Like we’re not all burned out. 🙄

Yeah that’s not acceptable. So if I read this right you have already been away from the kids for weeks. Other parent is suffering burnout and you are still not parenting them and palming them off to someone else meaning they will miss school for presumably a long period of time. Step up and take some responsibility.

So they'll be off school for 2 weeks? You've been away for weeks already? You're so absent your partner is suffering burnout?

This IS an emergency but a home emergency not a work one surely? You take a fortnight of dependants leave/compassionate leave/unpaid parental leave surely? To support your partner and children?

I think school is the red herring in all this actually. Yes, it may be difficult but at the moment your children need you.

Definitely not ok for that long. Clearly you value your career over education. Burn out or no burn out your partner needs to parent or your mum needs to move back to yours.

Children having to miss 2 solid weeks of school due to illness of the other parent IS and emergency. My husband has that kind of job he'd take the time off as would I and I have a role in healthcare with appts that are a nightmare for everyone to cancel

Surely this is some kind of reverse or piss take?!

If not then poor kids 😔

I work with kids and wish it could be.

This

Edit: just seen it’s for 2 weeks. That’s too long to miss.

True burnout can genuinely leave someone bed bound, I had 3 weeks at the end of the first COVID lockdown after parenting while working on healthcare while my husband was also an essential worker and I had a high needs toddler with an underlying health condition who needed to be shielded so we juggled him while working and never slept. I had to take 2 weeks off work when he went back to nursery and I honestly sat staring I to space unable to function at all the first 3 days.

Again, it’s two weeks.

One day ok, any more is not ok.

I work in a role that requires travel but I can only do it because I have a very strong support network including DH, DM, MIL etc. I also only spend 4 nights per month away. Anything more is really not tenable with children.

It doesn’t sound like you have the support system to allow for this kind of job.

Methinks someone should RTFT.

No, it's not ok in the slightest.

Consider a boarding school if this is going to happen again. That will at least provide some stability for the children.

It’s fine, they are with your mom safe and well. Summer term. Do what you need to do and don’t give it another thought x

It’s not acceptable really. Firstly, having someone else look after your children shouldn’t be an obstacle to them attending school. Their grandparent should have stayed at your house. You could then have booked them taxis to school and home if she can’t drive.

Their other parent suffering ‘burn out’ should not prevent them doing the school run. I was off work for mental health reasons due to burn out for 3 months AND THEN was diagnosed with a particularly aggressive cancer. Except for the 4 weeks post-op when I was banned from driving, I’ve done the school run nearly every day because I’m (unfortunately) the one who is not able to go to work. Some days I can barely walk, but I hobble them into the car and pitch them out in front of the gate, if I need to.

I don’t think a day with granny will do any harm, but I also don’t think burn out is a good enough excuse for not being able to drive or walk your own children to school. Nor is poorly managing your work obligations. If I’d been away for several weeks, unless I needed to perform lifesaving surgery, I’d prioritise my kids if my co-parent was really that unwell.

“Is your ex usually this unreliable?”

The OP has just spent weeks away, home for the weekend and is off for two weeks again…… Expecting the other parent to pick up all the slack for a month. I think it’s the OP who is an unreliable parent. Who spends one weekend per month with their kids? No wonder the other parent has burn out and is putting their foot down. Especially if this is a regular occurrence.

Is this a joke?

This.