To not send my children to school because I need to fly ?

[Paticake]

I have to fly tonight and my kids have been left with my mum, she lives two hours away. Is it ok that they don’t go to school or am I a terrible parent for picking work over the kids?

You cannot keep your kids off school for TWO WEEKS! Good lord.

If they’re misting two weeks YABU

Burn out is no reason to not get children to school

Both parents need to step up and parent.

Burn out? Like a mental breakdown, or tired and depressed?

Who was due to have the kids this week? If you’ve been away for weeks I’m thinking maybe it’s you?

I’d of thought an unexplained two week school absence would result in school contacting social services.

You’re not giving enough information.

How long will your children be off school.
How old are they?
How has this all come about?
Are you driving them to their grandparent now?
Will the other parent be able to collect them any sooner?

This is nonsense. Schools provided work so nobody needed to do nothing in covid.
however, it’s also nonsense to worry about a one off situation even if it’s a week.

Wait, they're not going to school for 2 weeks?! That is unreasonable. One day, fine if you have to. If it's two weeks then you need another plan.

Are you together with their other parent? It sounds as though you should not have prioritised work especially if you have just come back from being away and only home for the weekend.

They should not miss 2 weeks of school, you need to be home with your kids and supporting their other parent.

Unless you are about to drip feed that you would lose your job if you didn't attend these 2 weeks away.

The children are going to be out for 2 weeks 😱
You should have organised this better, maybe Mum at your house, so they can go to school.

Will you pick up fines for unauthorised absence?
How old are the children?

I think you are being highly unreasonable to have them miss school for 2 weeks. You needed to cancel your trip.

if your ex partner has burn out and your mum lives 2 hours away it seems you need a new job, closer to home and being away all week and only back at weekends isn’t fair on your children and neither is missing 2 weeks of school. Everyone seems to be accommodating you, and you aren’t accommodating anyone else’s needs

Some of those who are suggesting that OP tells her employer she is unable to travel probably don’t realise how senior project- and client-related jobs work. I used to have that kind of job, and short of very serious illness or death of a very close relative, there is no way I could have bailed out so late in the day.

Who normally parents your children?

This is madness. Is your ex usually this unreliable?
Is there any possibility your mum can now stay at yours so that she can take children to school?
This doesn't sound like a good arrangement going forward if you often have to travel for work and your ex can't be arsed to parent. He needs to sort out whatever is going on (see a GP, medication/counselling could help) and you need to consider what arrangements you can make with family should he not be capable (also does he share custody of the children to avoid paying maintenance? If so remind him that if he is not capable of looking after them he will need to help out more financially)

So you've been away weeks already and are going away for 2 weeks again?

Are you planning on being a parent at some point?

You can't just swan off for two weeks and leave your children without a functional parent or an education! What are you thinking?!

I am sorry but this is shocking and you are likely to activate a social services investigation.

Unless your mum has work why can’t she stay at your house with the children? If you have to travel so much for work could you afford to employ a nanny?

Rubbish. I’m a partner in a Big 4 firm. I would absolutely authorise staff absence in this situation.

2 days, ok in an emergency.
2 weeks, definitely not!
That's awful

This has got to be a piss take!!! Although I suspect its a reverse

You need to cancel your work trip

Your kids cannot just not go to school for two weeks. Don’t be surprised if this generates a safeguarding referral.

In an emergency a day off school wouldn’t be the end of world. But you can’t have them off for two weeks. The other parent is just going to have to step up. I’ve experienced burn out. It’s awful. But I still got my kid to school. Part of parenting is sometimes prioritising the child’s needs over your own.

You need to cancel your trip

Lots of school teachers mee thinks on here! Getting upset over missing 1 day of schooling! Breaking up soon anyway for summer holidays end of this month (although private)