Father in law asked why we didn’t use protection.

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My husband and I have an almost one year old and we have recently told our families that we are expecting after confirmation at our first scan.
My husband has been over his parents’ house today and seen them face to face for the first time since. I did not attend but my husband came home and told me that his father had asked why we didn’t use protection.
I wasn’t present so I don’t know the full context or tone of the conversation but I am quite hurt by the comment. Unsure if hormones are making me unreasonable.

(Just for context, yes baby was unplanned but we did want another eventually and are happy about the situation.)

If your husband has been complaining about house size and money issues (or anything else family related) for the last how long that might have had something to do it?

As PP have said the conversation between father and son is everything.

Your husband obviously said it was unplanned, so his father has asked him why he didn't use protection? Seems logical to me. I wouldn't read anything into it.

YABU Because your DH told him it was unplanned. He didn't have to. He's the one you should be annoyed with.

@Dearg I’ll help you out with a scenario.
Husband - bloody hell we’re having another baby. Total nightmare, absolutely not what we wanted just yet, we’re struggling financially and baby 1 still not sleeping through the night. But I suppose that’s what happens when you don’t use contraception.
FIL - why didn’t you use protection?

Obviously FIL shouldn't have said anything and DH shouldn't have repeated it. Do you have much help fro the inlaws? Financial or practical? Will is affect your inlaws too?How will this affect your career? My MIL had her boys 14 months apart and said she found it tough. Do you think DH may have expressed feelings of stress etc to them? I would be quite concerned if you were my DD as its so much to cope with in lots of ways.

Well thanks. Thats a big help.

It was a weird and intrusive thing to say. Not to mention the fact that sometimes protection fails.

I'd probably think, and if I wasn't careful actually say something similar if my son said we're pregnant again but seemed worried about it or as though it was unplanned

You’re overthinking it. People say stupid things all the time when it comes to pregnancy ‘Was it planned?’ ‘I bet you wish it was a boy/girl’ ‘ooh you’re massive, is it twins?’
All stupid comments I had. Yeah a bit rude but it think sometimes people lack a filter, especially when you drop something unexpected on them.
Your husband shouldn’t have repeated it really.

My ‘father’ nastily said ‘I would have thought you would have worked out what’s causing it by now’