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AIBU to be annoyed by these people on my local Facebook page?

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FacebookLocals · 14/06/2025 00:15

Euguughhhh - they drive me nuts. I know I could leave but the group is 50% useful stuff (we have an A-road on our morning commute that is frequently closed due to accidents and the page always knows first, that kind of thing) and 50% utter shite. Does anyone else have these kinds of people or do I just live in a bonkers place?!

  1. One woman has set up her own cleaning company with her daughter (good for them - this is something I think is great). What irritates me is that, even though it's the two of them and no one else, they keep posting adverts that say people should use them because "unlike other cleaning companies", they pay their staff a "fair wage"... but they are their staff. I've never had a cleaner but my understanding is that you either go through an agency (where you pay a higher amount and the cleaner themselves get about minimum wage) and you get security that they'll find someone else if your usual cleaner is sick/holiday/maternity/whatever and they have solid insurance and that kind of thing, or you go direct to a self-employed person (you pay slightly less but the cleaner gets it all - after their costs) but there's less security (i.e. if they're sick then they're sick and won't be coming). This cleaner is trying to portray the best of both for herself... Just annoys me to try and claim some kind of moral highground when they don't have one.
  2. The people who post completely irrelevant, chain-mail jokes - usually pretty sexist ones about women being unable to drive... They aren't relevant to the group (and they aren't funny) - if you can't control yourself, just share them on your personal Facebook page.
  3. The people who see blatant vandalism or theft and go "oh, get a life" or "we were all young once", "I bet you ain't perfect". Like, you know, I'm a fully grown up adult and I've never once set an abandoned building on fire, egged anyone or left upturned trolleys all over a road. On top of that, as a grown fucking adult, I have the brain capacity to realise that setting things on fire and blocking emergency vehicles could do serious harm (even if that's not in the minds of those teens when they did it). On top of that, I know full well that when people my age (back when I was a teen) did anything like this, every decent adult would've obliterated them for being little shits... so, if teens are always going to do stupid things, when did adults stop doing their part of the routine?! Lo and behold, when the vandalising abandoned buildings turned into abandoning their business or when doing stupid thing turns into threatening them, they completely fail to recognise that they allowed that to progress by excusing the poor behaviour when it started.
  4. Parents bitching about the local school's "ridiculous" behaviour policy where their child was sent to the isolation room for politely asking if they're allowed to breathe or for raising their hand to point out a stray puppy was on fire. Like, no, your kid can't behave and it's embarrassing that you can't see you're being lied to.
  5. The people who refuse to answer questions that are asked. Things like one bloke asking if there are any recommendations for local garages and the first comment is "I don't have a car so I can't help, sorry"... like, why comment?! I once asked for recommendations for childcare - either a nursery or a childminder - and all but one comment was people saying to make sure the childminder has a DBS check. Like, ok, I'm not an idiot, that's not what I asked.
  6. Non-stop incorrect legal advice at every turn - "you can't do that, it's a violation of GDPR", "tell them to press charges", "I'll go over there and make a citizens arrest". I just can't take any more of it!
  7. People asking questions that are literally on Google - "does anyone know what time Tesco closes?" (not on Christmas or things where Google might not be accurate), "what's the phone number for the GP surgery?", "is it an inset day at the school today?" (cue 19847 different comments about the five potential schools that could be being asked about, none of which have an inset day and all of which have their calendars on their websites).

I just wonder if people were always like this and had different outlets (I don't really remember a time before Facebook) or are people getting weirder? Or is this just my local page and everyone is normal where you are?

I know it's gone midnight, this is slightly lighthearted...

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SummerEve · 14/06/2025 00:19

The chap who runs ours treats it like his own personal fiefdom so that causes quite a few issues!

FacebookLocals · 14/06/2025 00:25

SummerEve · 14/06/2025 00:19

The chap who runs ours treats it like his own personal fiefdom so that causes quite a few issues!

We have a bit of that too, but the posters are usually unreasonable - there are a few admin but they'll remove some things (usually offensive rants) and then you'll get the inevitable "why was my post removed?!" post pop up.

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frankie001 · 14/06/2025 00:27

The endless “is this cat lost” posts, including a photo of an obviously well looked after pet!

FacebookLocals · 14/06/2025 00:28

frankie001 · 14/06/2025 00:27

The endless “is this cat lost” posts, including a photo of an obviously well looked after pet!

Hahahah, yep. I always think it's "will I get away with stealing this cat or is the real owner on Facebook and likely to get me named-and-shamed as the cat-stealer I am inside?"

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Neodymium · 14/06/2025 00:32

Well in Australia we have posts about people letting their cats roam (which is illegal here) and there will literally be fights about whether or not people should just suck it up. Or we get grainy security camera footage of kids on scooters who are damaging property/stealing packages ect. And typically someone knows them and then a bunch of vigilante dads decide they will go ‘teach them a lesson’. The latest most bizarre one is the ‘struggling car detailers’ I don’t understand it but it always a long post that starts with ‘this post is really hard to write but for years my partner and I have poured our hearts into our car cleaning business…’ there is usually a business page linked and comments turned off so that no one can comment scammer.

OneFineDay13 · 14/06/2025 00:32

SummerEve · 14/06/2025 00:19

The chap who runs ours treats it like his own personal fiefdom so that causes quite a few issues!

This made me chuckle. Tell us more

HeddaGarbled · 14/06/2025 00:35

You can hide posts from individual posters. I do that for all the racists which mostly just leaves the road closures and (not) missing cats.

randomchap · 14/06/2025 00:35

Facebook is the mob

It's full of idiots full of their own self importance

Look at how stupid the average person is, and then remember that half the population is thicker than that.

FacebookLocals · 14/06/2025 00:36

Neodymium · 14/06/2025 00:32

Well in Australia we have posts about people letting their cats roam (which is illegal here) and there will literally be fights about whether or not people should just suck it up. Or we get grainy security camera footage of kids on scooters who are damaging property/stealing packages ect. And typically someone knows them and then a bunch of vigilante dads decide they will go ‘teach them a lesson’. The latest most bizarre one is the ‘struggling car detailers’ I don’t understand it but it always a long post that starts with ‘this post is really hard to write but for years my partner and I have poured our hearts into our car cleaning business…’ there is usually a business page linked and comments turned off so that no one can comment scammer.

I would so much rather have the vigilante dad comments that our version, the dickhead-dad comments acting like little shits on escooters nicking parcels, setting bins on fire, etc etc are just being lovable rogues in the prime of their youth.

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MixedBananas · 14/06/2025 00:36

Get off of FB and leave those groups.....

XenoBitch · 14/06/2025 00:37

I am blocked from my local one, and thank fuck! The admin were jumped up little Hitlers. Obviously on a power trip.
I remember some one posting on a the local rag FB page.... and the admin from the local FB group said her post broke the rules of the FB group, even though she was not posting on it! Total power trip. It was " you are a member of our group, so you represent us all over the internet" type shite. Unbelievable.

FacebookLocals · 14/06/2025 00:37

MixedBananas · 14/06/2025 00:36

Get off of FB and leave those groups.....

Sorry, did my post annoy you? Strange that you didn't take your own advice and just leave Mumsnet, eh?

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MixedBananas · 14/06/2025 00:39

Not annoyed at all. If everything on FB is irritating you there is not obligstion to stay. I haven't created a MN page with complaints have I, it is you remember...... 🙄

Uptoolateatnight · 14/06/2025 00:43

I am SOOO with you on all of these!

It also bugs me so much that you can’t post on one of these groups asking a simple question without some daft man answering with a stupid reply thinking they’re hilarious and that they’ve made you look like a knob. I searched ‘window cleaner’ in my local one and on almost every post where someone was looking for a window cleaner the same man had replied you can get Windowlene from the co-op.

Gattopardo · 14/06/2025 00:44

Neodymium · 14/06/2025 00:32

Well in Australia we have posts about people letting their cats roam (which is illegal here) and there will literally be fights about whether or not people should just suck it up. Or we get grainy security camera footage of kids on scooters who are damaging property/stealing packages ect. And typically someone knows them and then a bunch of vigilante dads decide they will go ‘teach them a lesson’. The latest most bizarre one is the ‘struggling car detailers’ I don’t understand it but it always a long post that starts with ‘this post is really hard to write but for years my partner and I have poured our hearts into our car cleaning business…’ there is usually a business page linked and comments turned off so that no one can comment scammer.

That’s so weird, this business about the car detailing/ valets has appeared on my own feed her in the UK in the last week.

so, I am guessing it is a front for some sort of scam.

XenoBitch · 14/06/2025 00:45

Uptoolateatnight · 14/06/2025 00:43

I am SOOO with you on all of these!

It also bugs me so much that you can’t post on one of these groups asking a simple question without some daft man answering with a stupid reply thinking they’re hilarious and that they’ve made you look like a knob. I searched ‘window cleaner’ in my local one and on almost every post where someone was looking for a window cleaner the same man had replied you can get Windowlene from the co-op.

I really hate it when someone posts and ask for something like the best fry up in the town. And you get replies saying "one you do at home".
FFS, if I could do a banging fried breakfast at home, I would not be asking where to get one elsewhere.

Uptoolateatnight · 14/06/2025 00:46

Gattopardo · 14/06/2025 00:44

That’s so weird, this business about the car detailing/ valets has appeared on my own feed her in the UK in the last week.

so, I am guessing it is a front for some sort of scam.

Edited

I’ve seen it about carpet cleaning businesses here recently

Kuromi86 · 14/06/2025 00:46

Sounds exactly like my local group 😂. You missed off the posts asking if anyone “knows what’s going on” when police/ambulance/fire engine is seen anywhere 🙄.

FacebookLocals · 14/06/2025 00:47

Uptoolateatnight · 14/06/2025 00:43

I am SOOO with you on all of these!

It also bugs me so much that you can’t post on one of these groups asking a simple question without some daft man answering with a stupid reply thinking they’re hilarious and that they’ve made you look like a knob. I searched ‘window cleaner’ in my local one and on almost every post where someone was looking for a window cleaner the same man had replied you can get Windowlene from the co-op.

Absolutely! It's always men, it's never funny and it's so annoying. You wonder how admin don't lose their patience and block the irritating bastards

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XenoBitch · 14/06/2025 00:51

Kuromi86 · 14/06/2025 00:46

Sounds exactly like my local group 😂. You missed off the posts asking if anyone “knows what’s going on” when police/ambulance/fire engine is seen anywhere 🙄.

Ha, "I saw the air ambulance land in my local park. Can someone get in touch with the patient and tell him I hope he is ok"... type shite.

The worst I saw, and it upset me as I have been in this position... was someone saying that their teen lad saw someone in distress on a bridge over the motorway. He stopped to chat to them, called emergency services... they were taken away etc.
His mum posted on a FB group detailing the above, and demanded the person her son helped get in touch to give him an update. She spent several hours arguing with people that it was wrong that the person did not get in touch (they may have been sectioned FFS), and how it was causing her son distress.

Belshels · 14/06/2025 00:52

If you think Facebook is bad, have you seen the posts on NextDoor? They are ridiculous, and more people on their without a clue of how to use social media!! Lots of lost cats, mysterious ring doorbell footage, topped off with a lot of moaning about things / life...

AmIthatSpringy · 14/06/2025 00:53

The absolute daily "I'm looking for a gardener" or "please recommmend a cleaner". Followed by posts from wives/girlfriends posting their partners' businesses.

and they're always "amazing"

Pinches · 14/06/2025 00:54

Ours is full of arguments about whether we should allow anonymous posts or not with people getting really quite irate about it, which makes me think I would probably post anonymously too considering how full of spite these people are!

XenoBitch · 14/06/2025 00:54

AmIthatSpringy · 14/06/2025 00:53

The absolute daily "I'm looking for a gardener" or "please recommmend a cleaner". Followed by posts from wives/girlfriends posting their partners' businesses.

and they're always "amazing"

And why can't they post their prices online? Why is it always "PM me hun".

RightOnTheEdge · 14/06/2025 00:54

The ones who say We were all kids once, and I bet you lot aren't perfect! drive me mad too OP.

My kids are probably sick of me moaning about lost dog posts. because someone will lose their dog and put a photo up and other people will comment.saying, Is it this one?
And then put a photo of a completely different dog that looks nothing like it, different breed and size, just the same colour.
I do know that they are trying to help, but I can't help it, it just really annoys me.