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Perfume in the office

206 replies

Aninabertsi · 13/06/2025 11:01

Why???!! Why do people think I would want to smell them from 30 feet away!? Or have the same taste as them? If you must use perfume, why not just use a small amount so only if I stand directly next to you I can smell it not all the way across the office (open plan office at that)...I can't think or concentrate on what I'm doing because all I can think off is this effing smell. Sorry for the rant but I think it should be banned

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Jiski · 13/06/2025 18:43

I hate it too. I will keep sneezing if it’s strong as well. When I was pregnant the smells were unbearable.

HonoriaBulstrode · 13/06/2025 18:47

What if your Kenwigses make other people's eyeballs hurt?

Dr Jack takes care of that while you're lying unconscious.

But yes, Mary Lou should keep her clarion tones to herself too.

MsPug · 13/06/2025 18:48

It's not that I don't care about people of course I do but I'm not a mind reader and have never had anyone complain about my perfume so what do you want me to do?

i suppose you want me to stop brushing my hair at my desk or looking at my face in a compact as well?

MaturingCheeseball · 13/06/2025 18:49

Obviously very strong perfume/aftershave is headache-inducing. But bans?

I went to a hospital appointment and there was a card displayed saying that due to an allergy of a staff member could patients not wear perfume or deodorant. No, sorry. A) too late, I was there. And B) I’m wearing my (actually, scentless) deodorant because… well, because.

I have an extremely strong sense of smell. It’s my special power or in most cases what makes me feel sick. But I didn’t realise that I was missing a trick and I could demand that no one emits a scent in my presence !

researchers3 · 13/06/2025 18:53

OneLoudTiger · 13/06/2025 12:05

This sounds so outdated now but when I started my grad job in 2015(!) we had training from an etiquette lady as part of our onboarding days. She was very clear that perfume should be very minimal, ideally just a perfumed body lotion, and it should NOT be re-sprayed in the office.

She also spoke at length about jacket sleeve length.

Those are the two things that have stayed with me 🤣

Edited

What length should the jacket sleeves be?!!

Boreded · 13/06/2025 18:53

I think you should be banned

Ponderingwindow · 13/06/2025 18:59

MaturingCheeseball · 13/06/2025 18:49

Obviously very strong perfume/aftershave is headache-inducing. But bans?

I went to a hospital appointment and there was a card displayed saying that due to an allergy of a staff member could patients not wear perfume or deodorant. No, sorry. A) too late, I was there. And B) I’m wearing my (actually, scentless) deodorant because… well, because.

I have an extremely strong sense of smell. It’s my special power or in most cases what makes me feel sick. But I didn’t realise that I was missing a trick and I could demand that no one emits a scent in my presence !

They should contact you in advance.

i have to use medical facilities that have scent policies because otherwise it is dangerous for me. One of my specialists changed offices and it was a disaster.

you can use deodorant. The sign is poorly worded. You just need a fragrance-free variety. They are available, but most people lack the common sense to be able to select fragrance-free products. They legitimately seem to believe that without fragrance the product doesn’t do its job.

MsPug · 13/06/2025 19:41

so people who choose to smell of something rather than nothing @Ponderingwindow are thick? Nice

Frazzled83 · 13/06/2025 19:41

Eurgh I agree. I’ve got a really sensitive sense of smell being neurologically spicey and some smells are so bloody loud. When I was pregnant it was even worse! There was one woman in the office who’s perfume actually made me gag 🤮

Confuseddotcom88 · 13/06/2025 19:44

MIL leaves my house (and children) sinking of her perfume she must bathe in the stuff I hate it

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 13/06/2025 19:45

I've never really understood why people would willingly smother themselves in that much chemical.

Everything is 'chemical', including lots of things almost everyone puts on their skin - soap, shower gel, moisturiser, shampoo, conditioner, deodorant and things they put in their mouths.

Swanfeet · 13/06/2025 20:19

Aninabertsi · 13/06/2025 11:01

Why???!! Why do people think I would want to smell them from 30 feet away!? Or have the same taste as them? If you must use perfume, why not just use a small amount so only if I stand directly next to you I can smell it not all the way across the office (open plan office at that)...I can't think or concentrate on what I'm doing because all I can think off is this effing smell. Sorry for the rant but I think it should be banned

Because their life choices don’t revolve around you and your preferences 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Princessfluffy · 13/06/2025 20:40

Perfume can be a sensory nightmare for some people. I don’t think it’s good manners to wear anything other than the lightest of fragrance in the workplace.

JaninaDuszejko · 13/06/2025 20:47

Ponderingwindow · 13/06/2025 17:56

It’s pretty difficult to have an online conversation where we start discussing the individual chemical components of various perfumes and personal care products. People say chemicals instead of typing out Benzyl acetate or camphor, but those of us with allergies typically know which ingredients or classes of ingredients are causing our reactions.

Two of my favourite scents and both naturally occurring compounds that are found in food and medicines as well as perfume so thanks for giving us a classic example of the 'all chemicals are bad' nonsense.

Just because someone is allergic to something doesn't mean it should be banned. DS was allergic to casein and ovalbumin when he was an infant. Don't think I'd have got very far with his nursery if I'd insisted they ban those allergens do you, even though they are the top two allergens? I'm allergic to penicillin, as someone who works in the pharmaceutical industry I can't insist an employer stops making it, even though lots of people are allergic, the onus is on me to not work in locations where I'd be exposed to it.

Ponderingwindow · 13/06/2025 21:04

MsPug · 13/06/2025 19:41

so people who choose to smell of something rather than nothing @Ponderingwindow are thick? Nice

How many posts are on this thread saying that the choice is between someone smelling of perfume or body odor? That is what I am referencing.

Ponderingwindow · 13/06/2025 21:09

JaninaDuszejko · 13/06/2025 20:47

Two of my favourite scents and both naturally occurring compounds that are found in food and medicines as well as perfume so thanks for giving us a classic example of the 'all chemicals are bad' nonsense.

Just because someone is allergic to something doesn't mean it should be banned. DS was allergic to casein and ovalbumin when he was an infant. Don't think I'd have got very far with his nursery if I'd insisted they ban those allergens do you, even though they are the top two allergens? I'm allergic to penicillin, as someone who works in the pharmaceutical industry I can't insist an employer stops making it, even though lots of people are allergic, the onus is on me to not work in locations where I'd be exposed to it.

That is true within reason. I could not get a job at Lush or in a perfume store. I and others like me still have the right to be employed, despite having a fragrance allergy.

If I had a dog allergy I probably shouldn’t work at a vet.

most of the time though the only thing stopping someone from working with an allergy in a generic office space is hostility.

Pizza4Tea · 13/06/2025 21:28

AgnesX · 13/06/2025 13:02

In the summer I'd rather smell perfume rather than smelly bare feet in sandals.

People seem to forget that you have to wash your feet it seems

Feet Parker Jackson GIF by Studios 2016

Ya, nothing worse than the smell of smelly feet being wafted around the office especially when they cooling fans get switched on. I’d rather smell perfume than smelly feet in the office.

SinnerBoy · 13/06/2025 21:36

JaninaDuszejko · 13/06/2025 17:46

I have a PhD in biochemistry and I really don't know what people mean beyond 'I don't know what that word means and therefore I think it's bad'. As I said above there's nothing that makes something 'natural' benign or something 'artificial' bad. In fact, the most harmful substances all come from natural sources (and one of those is regularly injected into people's faces for vanity).

Oh come on! Botulinim toxin is organic, you know!

😃

Mh67 · 13/06/2025 21:44

AlmondCherries · 13/06/2025 11:54

Sometimes people haven't aplied that much you just don't like them or their scent and your body hates smelling them. I agree it would be best to have a no perfume policy at work but how would you enforce it is an HR nightmare.

Can we also add vapers and smokers to the list... and those who eat smelly food for lunch..

And some flavoured teas. One colleague drank flavoured tea and the staff room smelled like cat urine it was disgusting

ArtTheClown · 13/06/2025 21:53

I've mentioned this before but in Japan it's a faux pas to be strongly perfumed, and you might even be asked to leave high end sushi restaurants as you'd be considered to be interfering with the other diners' experience.

Illegally18 · 13/06/2025 22:05

Princessfluffy · 13/06/2025 20:40

Perfume can be a sensory nightmare for some people. I don’t think it’s good manners to wear anything other than the lightest of fragrance in the workplace.

agree.

XWKD · 13/06/2025 22:09

I wear perfume every day, but only a tiny amount, and nobody else can smell it -I've asked. I don't know why some people have a desire to fumigate every around them.

Helpmeplease2025 · 13/06/2025 22:11

Princessfluffy · 13/06/2025 20:40

Perfume can be a sensory nightmare for some people. I don’t think it’s good manners to wear anything other than the lightest of fragrance in the workplace.

Lots of things are sensory nightmares for some people. It’s not realistic to ban everything just in case

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