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Perfume in the office

206 replies

Aninabertsi · 13/06/2025 11:01

Why???!! Why do people think I would want to smell them from 30 feet away!? Or have the same taste as them? If you must use perfume, why not just use a small amount so only if I stand directly next to you I can smell it not all the way across the office (open plan office at that)...I can't think or concentrate on what I'm doing because all I can think off is this effing smell. Sorry for the rant but I think it should be banned

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Travellingpants · 13/06/2025 13:17

I've got genetic lung problems. Strong smells, chemicals, dust, smoke all make it worse. In the workplace, I think it should be minimised. The one I have a real problem with is those poo disguising sprays. They are eye wateringly strong. I have to use the disabled toilet as I can't breathe it in.

TheTecknician · 13/06/2025 13:18

Excessive fragrance, especially one that isn't very nice to begin with, can be overwhelming. I once was sitting on a bus behind a woman whom I guess had been bathing in Eau de Garbage that morning. It was that strong I felt very sick. Luckily she got off the bus before me but the pong lingered for a while.

Verv · 13/06/2025 13:19

Everything I don't like should be banned, and other stories.

PondGhost · 13/06/2025 13:21

Avocando · 13/06/2025 13:13

I feel you - I get really bad migraines and certain smells (especially certain perfumes) set them off. I don’t want to be that person but why are you wasting your fancy perfume on us in the office anyway 😂

I have a friend like this — not just perfumes. He once had to live elsewhere for several weeks when there was a pipe issue in his new house causing a smell that was barely detectable to me and which my husband couldn’t smell at all, but which gave him a violent migraine within minutes.

We were once going to a gig together and picked up another friend who’d forgotten and was wearing spray deodorant. The friend scrubbed himself with bottled water and wipes, but the scent-averse friend was pretty much incapacitated within ten minutes in the car, was throwing up in a lay-by, and had to let us go on without him. He has his own company, and there’s a total scent ban in the office.

stayinganonymousishardwork · 13/06/2025 13:21

I’d welcome perfume right now as my office smells of fart. Not from me might I add.

ThinWomansBrain · 13/06/2025 13:22

AlmondCherries · 13/06/2025 11:54

Sometimes people haven't aplied that much you just don't like them or their scent and your body hates smelling them. I agree it would be best to have a no perfume policy at work but how would you enforce it is an HR nightmare.

Can we also add vapers and smokers to the list... and those who eat smelly food for lunch..

and people that think it's fine to spray their unwashed armpits with deodorant in the middle of the office.

ExtraOnions · 13/06/2025 13:23

I wear my Chanel number 5 every day.

I have an allergy to Cats and Dogs, they affect my breathing … but I can’t ban people in the office from owning one, in case they come in with hairs on them, which will set me off

Electricbananaboat · 13/06/2025 13:29

I really struggle with strong smells (I have chronic headaches and it makes them worse). I also seem to have an annoyingly sensitive sense of smell. I had to ask my brother not to use his aftershave when he moved in for a few weeks. I'd never dare do that in the office though! 😂

I actually find the kind of stale perfume smell from coats and things the worst sometimes. They're probably pretty faint to everyone else.

Travellingpants · 13/06/2025 13:29

LittleWhiteFlowers · 13/06/2025 12:56

What about enclosed shops, cafés, restaurants, hotels and the myriad of other public places an asthma sufferer could come into contact with someone wearing perfume? Why just ban it in the workplace? I think the asthma argument is to make it look like a legitimate reason to ban something a few mnetters don't like!
FWIW I use scented washing powder/conditioner, scented body wash,scented shampoo and hair products and scented deodorant/perfume. I have no intention of stopping using any of them.

Because you have a choice with cafes. You have no choice about sitting in work for 8 hours.

Sighthound · 13/06/2025 13:30

I work with woman, who I can always tell where she has been just by the smell of her perfume. Meeting rooms, corridors, in the lift, etc.
If you are wearing so much perfume that someone can tell where you have been, even when there is no sign of you anymore, then that is just far too much. Likewise if you can smell someone from across the room, too much!! Perfume should be something you only smell if you are close to someone, sitting right next to them or hugging them.

That being said there is also a dude who must have issues doing his laundry as he leaves a dreadful musty aroma wherever he goes, which is gross. Again it lingers long after he has vacated the area. Probably on balance this is worse than the strong perfume, but only marginally!

Thankfully all the people who I share an office with don't give off any aroma, either gross or perfume-y.

Personally that's what I am looking for in a colleague, no obvious smell either way.

FlightCommanderPRJohnson · 13/06/2025 13:31

I wear it so I can smell it on myself, to mask other dodgy smells around me. Hopefully it's not overpowering - I don't aim for that. Sans perfume I probably smell of cats and cigarettes.

Swannsee · 13/06/2025 13:39

So people think if you have unclean clothes or dont wash yourself covering it up with perfume is a great idea?

Same as people who want to cover bad smelling rooms trying to cover it up with air freshener instead of opening a window

BashfulClam · 13/06/2025 13:39

hairbearbunches · 13/06/2025 11:41

I've never really understood why people would willingly smother themselves in that much chemical. If those same people were told to douse themselves in actual chemicals, that they knew to be chemicals, they would be up in arms and likely refuse to do it.

Dior Poison was bad enough back in the day. Now it seems every damn perfume uses that scent as its benchmark to smell stronger. Gross.

I douse myself with the chemical H2O everyday the whole world is made of chemical elements. We even drink chemicals and eat them.

PointsSouth · 13/06/2025 13:41

Aninabertsi · 13/06/2025 13:06

How is it remotely the same? You don't have to look at someone, but you have no escape if the whole room smells like a cheap drug store.

@Swiftie1878 @Aninabertsi

Oh, but you do have to look at them, like in a meeting, for instance. Whereas your issue can be solved with a clothes peg or a bulldog clip requisitioned from Stationery.

I think you're being quite unreasonable about the orange clothes thing. Show some empathy - @Swiftie1878 is suffering too.

Datafan55 · 13/06/2025 13:41

CactusUmbrella · 13/06/2025 11:51

How odd to think someone is wearing perfume because they think you want to smell them or because they have the same taste as you 😭

They’re probably not wearing it for you

Her point is that if it is that strong, they are imposing it on everyone else!

Swiftie1878 · 13/06/2025 13:42

PointsSouth · 13/06/2025 13:41

@Swiftie1878 @Aninabertsi

Oh, but you do have to look at them, like in a meeting, for instance. Whereas your issue can be solved with a clothes peg or a bulldog clip requisitioned from Stationery.

I think you're being quite unreasonable about the orange clothes thing. Show some empathy - @Swiftie1878 is suffering too.

😂😂😂😂

Themagicfarawaytreeismyfav · 13/06/2025 13:43

I work in close proximity to people in an enclosed environment and i would much rather smell strong perfume ( even if it was one I don’t particularly like) than bodily odours.

MoominMai · 13/06/2025 13:46

@Aninabertsi in the same way it’s office etiquette to not eat stinky foods in an enclosed space it should be the same for perfumes. Too frequently they give me headaches 😑

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 13/06/2025 13:48

The13thFairy · 13/06/2025 12:46

When I was 16, aeons ago, I read in whatever magazine was all the go that your perfume should precede you into a room, and remain after you have left.

Aye, but it shouldn’t have squatters rights for the rest of the day!

Andoutcomethewolves · 13/06/2025 13:48

I used to work in the same two person office as my (then) manager, who'd 'disguise' (it really didn't) his BO with copious amounts of Lynx Africa 🤢. He'd sit there and spray it while I was in our shared office. I thought Lynx Africa was a teenage boy thing - this was a professional in his 40s!

Still traumatised by the BO/Lynx stench 🤣 sympathies OP.

DontTouchRoach · 13/06/2025 13:52

Furious hypersensitivity to perfume is one of those things I’ve only ever actually encountered on Mumsnet and never in real life. See also: getting angry at the mere sight of a dog in a cafe, ending marriages because their husband once looked at porn, refusing to give children fruit because it’s ’full of sugar’, enforcing screen time limits for 16-17-year-olds and refusing to allow people to sit on a bed in their ‘outside clothes’.

Icanttakethisanymore · 13/06/2025 13:56

OneLoudTiger · 13/06/2025 12:05

This sounds so outdated now but when I started my grad job in 2015(!) we had training from an etiquette lady as part of our onboarding days. She was very clear that perfume should be very minimal, ideally just a perfumed body lotion, and it should NOT be re-sprayed in the office.

She also spoke at length about jacket sleeve length.

Those are the two things that have stayed with me 🤣

Edited

What did she tell you about jacket sleeve length??

Andoutcomethewolves · 13/06/2025 13:57

Oh you'd love King's Day in Holland!

Andoutcomethewolves · 13/06/2025 13:59

Sorry, photo didn't post. Imagine this times several thousand 🤣

Perfume in the office
DarcyProudman · 13/06/2025 14:01

DontTouchRoach · 13/06/2025 13:52

Furious hypersensitivity to perfume is one of those things I’ve only ever actually encountered on Mumsnet and never in real life. See also: getting angry at the mere sight of a dog in a cafe, ending marriages because their husband once looked at porn, refusing to give children fruit because it’s ’full of sugar’, enforcing screen time limits for 16-17-year-olds and refusing to allow people to sit on a bed in their ‘outside clothes’.

Just walking through the perfume section in John Lewis or Debenhams is enough to make me feel sick. I avoid them like the plague. And don’t get me started on Lush…

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