Called Unsociable 10 year old a fat c*nt

[Herefortea2]

Ok, am I the worst person ever??
Last week I was at marks and spencers and there was this boy there, about 11 who was riding around on a electric scooter, whizzing past people and behaving in a passive aggressive way. When I past him he loudly made throwing up noises several times right in front of me, to scare/shock me and I said oh are you ok, maybe you need a doctor (because I don't like to be initimdated by youths). Anyway I do the shop and keep thinking about him, I was in a bad mood already and he really annoyed me, I'm fed up of little shits thinking they can terrorise people.
Anyway I saw him again on the way out and again he was whizzing past scaring people. He came past me again and then I said it.....I said 'fat cnt'!!! Now I actually do not use that word, I don't like it, I don't like it when it's used around me either but I was so pissed off that that's what I said!!!! Anyway he circled round and was like what did you say....I ignored him and he started insulting me and following me as I walked to my car, saying is this your car you fucking bitch, cnt, etc etc. I walked away saying I'm calling the police! Then this guy comes over who's his dad! He apologies and says he's trying to get him home (the kid had been in the car park for half an hour at least, maybe longer), the kid tells the dad what I called him and the dad says 'no she didn't' then the kid goes off at the dad for taking a strangers side. The dad is completely useless as the kid is still circling me where I actually have to push him away from me! Eventually he leaves after a lot of verbal abuse, from the kid. Now I'm thinking I shouldn't have done it and feeling guilty and also worried that I can't go back to M&S because he might be there and start abusing me and I have 2 young children. Thoughts? I am going to hell?

I know that. But do you mean you would physically assault the person? Or something else?

We never got clarification on this.

This is honestly hilarious 😂

You did nothing wrong.

I can't find it within myself to get bosom hoiky about your reaction to the awful child with the equally awful father.
And you should not feel guilty for the boy being accused of being a liar by his father.
I bet that "boy cries wolf" is but one of the dynamics of terror regularly employed by the awful child.
He got his that day.
I'm tired of shittily brought up kids with jelly back parents, especially those who have the gall to claim "it takes a village", but balk at a "villager" getting tired of their deliquents.

Thanks for giving me a laugh OP.
If kids still played out regularly, no doubt this boy's peers would have long ago reeled in his bully tactics with a "stop that, you fat c*nt!" or ten by now or he would have been beaten up or ostracised.

None of this coddling shit.

Great post.

And very good point about children not playing out anymore. They’re missing out on the natural pecking order/socialisation.

Sorry just read the thread and realise the mystery is yet to be solved.

😂😂😂😂

’kind hands’

You shouldn’t have called him that and hope you react differently should something like that happen again. You were clearly frustrated. You aren’t the worst person ever! Although I think you should have admitted to his dad what you called him. That kid could be a*used and not tell his dad cause he thinks he won’t believe him. I wouldn’t worry about seeing them again, how the kid was acting wasn’t right and he was left alone, someone else could have easily said or done something to him that made to hurt him. If you see him again ignore him and if he speaks to you more than once report to staff that you are concerned for a child left on their own.

I will go again, not because of someone being told "you're wrong". But OP said she called a "10 or possibly 11yrs old" a "fat cunt". That is the fact of the matter it has nothing to do with all the other recent sad stories shared. She was not intimidated enough to challenge the first bad behaviour and should have kept with her "vibe" of being challenging but no personal attacks.

I get it, his parents were shit and at one point you were able to get at least his and their attention and then that was shit again. You are obviously completely right to challenge the behaviour and situation.

But when you call a child a "fat cunt" in real time..hats off to you for calling a child on a bike that.

I can't get over it.

I yelled, Jesus Christ STOP IT! To a few kids last summer, about 7-8 years old at the spray park when they came over with water guns and sprayed my "unarmed" 2 y/o right in the face for the 2nd time aftef I said "No, that's mean. Havoc is only 2 and not playing" not a minute earlier. so, I get it @Herefortea2
(next time I'll grab the guns and break them, though)

I think it’s hilarious to be honest. Fed up of other peoples lack of parenting affecting the general public. Even funnier that the dad didn’t believe you said it, shows what kind of child his kid really is.

@Mumtobabyhavoctotally get this! Have had a few snappy moments with kids at soft play!

I secretly hope this thread goes on and on and on and everyone shares their moments where they’ve held shitty tween/teens to account for their crappy behaviour! The machete story is karma at its finest!

So many comments slating the OP’s behaviour but the voting is almost 50/50.

Interesting.

That is what everyone would have been thinking about him (not necessarily those exact words).

He was deliberately winding you up though and you gave him the satisfaction of losing control. He won’t have been genuinely upset by the comment. He probably enjoyed your reaction. After all, a reaction was what he was looking for.

I know lol, it seems its OK to call a child a cunt but not fat. it's seems the word fat has become the most offensive insult there is these days.
Tbh I hate kids like that and probably would have called him an equally awful name but only In my head and not out loud.

Why? Why wouldn’t they go to that shop again? What would happen if they did? How would you stop them?

Clearly you lost your shit with the kid op, otherwise you wouldn’t have said what you did. Given his behaviour and reaction, I doubt he was mortally wounded by it. Maybe he’ll think about his behaviour in the future, although I doubt it.

At a guess i think it means that she would physically attack op so badly that she wouldn’t be able to return? That’s what I read into it anyway.

I'm afraid I'm glad you called them this. I know exactly the kind of kid you're talking about and they get off on bullying and harassing.

You gave him a taste of his own medicine so YANBU.

Am I the only one who thinks this didn't happen 🤔

Purpose being a phishing exercise to flush out the meanies?

yeah we had some causing issues for local independent shop owners. I live in a nice area with lots of wealthy people. The kids were in designer gear being dropped off by parents in expensive cars or riding on expensive bikes.

They were just trying it on and trying to act up. Parents didn’t seem bothered until it came up on social media because the shop owners were at the end of their tether.

Not all kids that act up are abused, from bad homes, etc. I’ve worked with kids my whole 30 year career and behaviour and entitlement has gotten worse and worse. Parenting styles and technology/internet also play a part.

I’d be more embarrassed at my child’s behaviour. It’s parents like you who create these obnoxious little shits.

It good to hear this perspective. I get tired of excuses for entitlement.