To be fed up of the house being trashed when DH has the kids?

[everyonestoohot]

It isn’t very often he has them and I hate it because whenever I go out somewhere I inevitably come back to a shitshow; toys strewn everywhere and food congealing in plates.

I don’t know if I’m being fussy. It worries me as DS is about to start school and twice a week DH will be collecting him and I feel like those days will just be a nightmare to clean up after.

Have you spoken to him about it?

So when you get back just say ok now I’m back you can clean up

No, that’s why I’m asking on here first. I had a horrible commute back today, it’s very hot and I had a screaming toddler in the car! So I’ll admit I’m possibly overreacting. But while I don’t want or need a show home it’s just stressful.

If you come back to a mess, refuse to clean it up.

My DH is the same!!!’ I hate it. I clean as I go and tidy and I go out and come back to mess … I say it’s annoying and it’s improved a bit but not to how it should be!

Talk to him. Say, when I look after DC I tidy as I go. I’m not going to tidy up after you as soon as I come home. It has to be fair.

It only really bothers me though - so that’s just not really helpful!