DH and I don’t have the best sleeping routine. Both wake up multiple times in the past, sometimes able to go back to sleep sometimes not.
Last night DH woke up to go to the toilet and I got woken up by the cat. He then said he had to tell me something but for me not to be embarrassed. He was skirting around the issue, not saying anything proper so I just asked him to come out with it.
He asked me to stop touching myself in bed as the movement wakes him up. I literally had no idea what he meant and I again asked for more detail. He said I masturbate in the night, I even moan softly when I finish and then I fall asleep. He assumed I was doing it to relax myself but didn’t want to mention it in case I felt embarrassed.
My first reaction was to laugh, as I don’t masturbate when he is asleep next to me. He said he assumed I was awake but could I have been doing it when I was asleep? I was laughing as I thought it was really funny, I told him this has never happened while I’m awake, perhaps I do it in my sleep but I asked for more details on how he is woken up and what noises.
He told me movement and a moan. This is where it changed for me. I wear joggers to bed and also have a vest with poppers on (like a baby fro). He said I put my poppers back on and fall asleep. Now, I physically find it impossible to put my poppers on when I am lying down. I know if I had taken them off I would never have bothered putting them back on. I would have left them unbuttoned. And they are never unbuttoned. And I always have my bottoms on when I wake up.
This is where I started getting defensive and angry and he said my reaction was everything he expected and that’s why he was wary of bringing it up for the last few months, that’s when he says he started noticing. I was getting angry, the poppers part makes me think he is lying but why would he lie. TMI but I even said to him if I had touched myself, my hands would smell and they quite clearly didn’t.
To clarify, I’ve never masturbated while he has been asleep next to me, I have no recollection of any time whatsoever. I also have a low sex drive so would have no interest in mastrubating by myself when I could just have sex with him as he is next to me!
sorry this is probably really weird but I have no one IRL I could discuss this with. Where could he be coming from with this, or could I actually be doing this in my sleep?