To not understand people who don't love food

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We had left over jersey royals from our tea tonight. And I overcooked (significantly) the marmalade ham I was making but it's created an amazing shredded ham thing when I've gone to try and slice it.

As I shredded the ham into an enamel tin to put in the fridge alongside the Jersey royals I was imagining all the delicious lunches I could make with them if I was WFH tomorrow.

We've got coleslaw, spicy beetroot salad, boiled eggs, lots of nice pickled stuff, a wide variety of salad stuff, houmous, all the cheeses etc and a massive herb garden. My mouth is drooling thinking about the possibilities.

Suggested to to DP who is at home tomorrow that he could have it if he wanted but if not I had plans for it for tea.

He looked at me like I was mad and said 'I'll probably just have a cheese sandwich and a packet of crisps like always'.

He is a food is fuel person and I just don't get it. I'm going to be going to sleep tonight dreaming of pulled ham hock with rosemary and garlic fried potatoes with a peashoot salad, a scattering of spicy beetroot and dollops of whipped feta covered in fresh chives , cherry tomatoes and cucumber with a sprinkling of seasalt and a nice zesty lemon based dressing of some sort.

I look in the fridge and I see endless possibilities, he looks in the fridge and finds the quickest and simplest route to being fed - enjoyment optional.

Exactly the same here

I've got kids!!

One is like me the other is like DP. Me and the foodie kid (age 7) quite often sit in the kitchen discussing food.

100% understand this. I am you completely. And drooling over your description of some of my favourite things. I also recognise your description of your partner and mine is exactly the same! So hard when cooking for someone is also my way of showing love and it's like 'yes it's fine' or 'I'll just have mine plain' etc and he's very much food = fuel. It does drive me crazy but I've learnt to just deal with it!

Yes a pill to fill you up all day and nourish you would be amazing. Imagine how much more time you would have. I’d still like to go out for nice meals but not to have to do the hum drum every day food stuff would be bliss.

Try mounjaro, food turns your stomach when you're on it. I have to force myself to eat anything. It's weird.

I’m with you OP. I love food!
I love growing it, cooking it, eating it 😆
I have Pinterest boards full of ideas and shelves of cookbooks 😍

I’m jealous! I wish I had the (mainly) time, knowledge imagination to think up yummy recipes like you do. It’s a skill! 👏

I don’t love food, I eat because I have or out out of boredom. I’m not really bothered by food in the house, or snacks.

i don’t understand when people say they’re dreaming of dinner or they have a favourite meal. I know I’m weird. One child is like me, the other like her dad, who loves food. Bizarrely, I’m the fattest in the house!! Go figure!

I've done 7 months on Mounjaro. As I'm sure is no surprise I was slightly overweight previously.

Lost a load of weight but also realised how much genuine joy I got from food.

Mounjaro made me miserable but longer term as a result from taking it I now eat smaller portions of tasty healthy food and I bloody enjoy every mouthful. Been off three months now and put on a little bit of weight again (1kg) but look well from it.

It not only fuels the body, it nourishes and nurtures body and soul and engages the senses. I always think people who don't like food probably don't enjoy sex as much as they could.

But cooking and especially eating is what I like to do with my time

I'm with your bloke. Which is a shame as husband is a proper foody. Loves to cook, watches cooking stuff online for pleasure. Wants me to savour every mouthful and talk about it while it's happening. All the different layers of flavour. It's mind numbing for a food is fuel person.

Suggested to to DP who is at home tomorrow that he could have it if he wanted but if not I had plans for it for tea

This to me would be a siren. It's an offer but not really and it could mean I get talked at about food again.

Exactly this. I couldn’t be with someone food obsessed, it would piss me off no end

My partner is like you. It's wondering about what to cook for tea before we've even had breakfast. He's a great cook and I'm very lucky. Definitely had a "you must clear your plate" upbringing. I'm not quite your husband and I'm a decent cook but I just find thinking about food and dinners relentless.

I enjoy eating all sorts of food - but until it’s right in front of me I just don’t want to have to spend even an iota of my time and energy thinking about it, and I cannot stand it when people want to talk about food all the time.

I grew up in a family where everyone was totally batshit about food in different ways - anorexics, orthorexics, compulsive overeaters, domineering feeder types, unbearably supercilious food snobs. Everyone was constantly obsessing about food. I think I am the only person in my extended family who has a non-disordered approach to eating, and I just want to keep it as neutral a thing as I possibly can in my life.

Taking a magic food pill wouldn't be compulsory 😂

Not gonna lie, the phrase “as I shredded the ham” made me a little bit sick in my mouth

Hubby all the way

I'd look towards Countries like Spain, France, Italy where food is considered an experience and their health. Us Brits aren't great at enjoying food, it is very much gulp whatever down and on to whatever we need to do.

I'm like you OP, I enjoy food and love experimenting with ingredients and flavours. I also much prefer to spend time enjoying and savouring what I am eating, much to the annoyance of some people.

It’s this sort of smugness that makes foodie chat so insufferable. All the guff about really savouring life’s sensual pleasures, being healthier and more wholesome and a bit sexy and continental and generally a better quality of person than all the dreary plebs who don’t have orgasms over whipped feta.

The older I get the less interest I have in food. Today I had a ham and cheese roll about 3 o’clock, can’t be bothered about anything else. Annoyingly I cannot shift the excess weight…

I’m somewhere in the middle. Love talking about and cooking food. Though the other month I had a massive burger for lunch and a load of fries and I didn’t need to eat for the rest of the day and I found it quite liberating as one less thing to sort out

I’m somewhere between you and your DH. Food is primarily fuel, but I LOVE eating out and trying new food, and when I travel, sampling local delicacies is a must.

When I lived in Portugal I had two separate Portuguese people say to me that Portuguese cuisine was the most varied and delicious of all the world's cuisines. Now don't get me wrong, bacalhau, bifanas and chicken piripiri are lush. But varied? No. Plus one of the aforementioned people was eating a pig's ear whilst lecturing me about the supremacy of Portuguese cuisine 🤢

This. I travel around for work and really resent having to have crap food.

I don't like fridge cold food and would never eat sandwiches by choice so hate it when circumstances dictate that I have to have some crappy garage sandwich or fast food for lunch.

I try to take my own food some of the time or find the nice options eg an M&S salad but they're tiny and expensive and still fridge cold if I don't have time to buy it an hour before I eat it.

I had one the other day and even though it boasted about all the protein it had in and was actually lovely, it wasn't enough for lunch so I ended up in Greggs at 4 pm where I bought some crap that I didn't enjoy but didn't have much choice if I didn't want to go hungry.

But to answer the OPs question, yes, I don't understand people who don't like or enjoy food, are unable to think of meals to make and can't see what to me are obvious ways to use up leftovers.

I’m always thinking of food and love your suggestions much more than a cheese sandwich! That said, now I don’t have to cook for family anymore (only 1 DC of 3 left and she likes to cook her own food, very self sufficient) I eat the same thing most days. Lunch is always harissa chicken and spinach pasta that I cook on a Sunday! So lazy. But I love food so much, and also don’t understand people who don’t. As a result, i’m always on a diet, as I gain so easily being 5ft nothing means weight goes on so easily.