at 35 I want to retire

[Oranges836]

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35 and sick of working dont want to do it for another nearly 40 years.
Changed job and hate working in any job
dont want to do any job im happy doing nothing

thats it thats the thread

You need to do some soul searching and figure out something you care about and then look for a new job in that field. You may also be burned out. But sitting around and doing nothing for the next 40 years won't bring you happiness or fulfillment either.

I feel the same .I want to live in a tiny house and stay at home all day , husband tells me I would hate it

No, not in my view. Of course she's working because she has no choice, but she's whining about doing any kind of work in her mid 30s, because she says she doesn't like it and would rather do nothing. It seems that if someone would fund idleness for her that's what she'd do.

How does this work if you don't buy new shoes?

Honestly the only thing I really spend money on is food and experiences. All my clothes are old or dirt cheap from Vinted.

Yes I am yet to find a job I love. That I actually want to wake up and get ready for. It bogs me down and I look at other people in awe wondering how they do it day in and day out and they don't seem to have such a problem with it as I do!
Every time I've had a break from work, slowly the things I like doing dry up so I have to look at it as a means to getting what I want/having the lifestyle I like.
If you can, try and keep saving to take a gap out. Other than that, I'm with you that it can be one hard slog!

I don’t think many people would work if they didn’t have to (I certainly wouldn’t!), there’s a reason why people are paid to do it! Unfortunately that’s life. I don’t think it helps that young people aren’t given a realistic understanding of what working life entails. When I was at school, it was hammered into us that if we worked hard we could have a job we ‘loved’. I think it was massively missold, what they really meant was a job that’s relatively rewarding as far as work goes. It’s very rare that you’re going to enjoy your work as much as your hobbies or holidays. Too many of my peers took it literally, then made excuses not to work because it wasn’t the kind of work they wanted.

Totally get it, I'd never work again if I could. Some people really love working and find something they really enjoy. Unfortunately the things I enjoy don't pay so I'm doomed to a life of work making me miserable 😫

Something has to change that’s the reality of it.
You either need to learn more or save more
But you can’t go on like that.
and I definitely don’t think you should cut down on food or experiences because let’s face it. Any one of us could get hit by a bus tomorrow.
What can you do to strive to earn more money?

personally i want to be a billionaire, play the stock market, rub shoulders with the powerful and influential.

the reality working an average job

Marry a rich man and you will earn every penny

And impossible for the majority despite hard work and sacrifices.
Important that we are realistic

I get where you are coming from. I spent 30 years doing a job I hated and wishing away every week. At 55 I am now retraining in something totally different. If I hate that too then I will retire. It's only now that I can afford to do something different. I wish my life had been different to be honest. If I had my time again I would have found some way out.

Why was he doing nothing?
I’m retired. I’m definitely not doing nothing. I love it. People pushing the idea that retirement is boring/soul destroying are confusing to me. It’s saying they can’t think of things they want to do themselves, that they need someone to tell them what to do and perhaps that they have no self worth beyond a salary/job title.

It took you till 35!

I’m in a weird stuck position. I got a job and accidentally made a successful career in something I hate! Earn too much now and have a Mortgage etc etc to go back to the beginning, work wise.

But the thing is, I hate it. I’m miserable as sin for every second I’m there, the fact my colleagues are lovely doesn’t help. The idea of being there for years brings a depth of sadness to my soul than I just don’t have the words to express. And no, I won’t earn the same and certainly won’t get the same benefits somewhere else, it’s this or a massive lifestyle downgrade and an uncertain pension.

Im luckier than most, which on a good day helps and I try and pay it forward, but on a bad day horrifies me completely as I wonder how miserable we all really are, quietly.

@ForeverDelayedEpiphany Out of interest do any of the new AI type tools allow you to be read to or to write down your speech to assist you in this ? (Maybe there's a book in you?)

@anitarielleliphe I am a creator at work and a maintainer at home. Home is how I de-stress from a high stress job solving problems and motivating people.

Would you be able to reduce your hours as it sounds like you are exhausted. ?You might enjoy your job if you were doing it for less hours.

That’s a weird fear. There are other ways to keep your mind active…

Just to add that it’s good to look at things like getting new qualifications, having a career change, etc. That is all good advice. Saving is good too.

But it’s really disingenuous to suggest most people can retire really early just by working harder, saving more, etc.

I retired at 48. One of the best things I’ve done.

I've never done a job I didn't enjoy, nor applied for any jobs I've taken since 1984. Only started working in 1978! Always had people approach me and say 'think you'd like this' and I've had a varied career around the country and loads of responsibility, some with very high commission others with massive bonus.
Absolutely adore my current mundane but very hands on everything office manager-y type role I have now - was chatting to a mate who said 'I know someone looking for one of you, can I give him your number', the interview was more of a chat over a coffee than anything formal and it's pretty local so can drop home to let out the dog etc no problem. No two days ever the same, work with a lovely small crew of truly great people, so always fun fun fun and it's very flexitime too - so drop of the hat day off tomorrow because the sun is shining and I have a motorbike to ride (it's going to the mechanic's as has developed a little issue). Can see me carrying on till way past 70 despite pensions just because a) it's fun b) gets me out of the house and absolves me of a certain amount of household chores (DH now more-or-less retired) c) it's a good social life on the side too - do more things that I would otherwise.

However a teeny bit of me wishes I'd have had a more interesting perhaps an academic career, or perhaps something in science or medicine, or even something skilled and creative like leather worker/saddler or silversmith.

The people I know who've managed it have done things that most people won't do, such as:
Had lodgers, sometimes more than one, and used all the income from that to overpay their mortgage.
Taken second and even third jobs. We have a husband and wife floor tiling team locally, who only work weekends. They trained at the local FE college to learn hot to do it properly. They laid my slate kitchen-diner-utility-porch slate floor in a weekend and cleared £1000+. Do that 12 months a year and invest the money in your pension fund and the government effectively returns the tax you'll pay on it.
Have no-spend or minimum spend weeks and even months. No money for coffees or lunch out, no takeaways, no pub, no gigs. Live off the accumulated contents of your fridge, freezer and store cupboard.
Run a doggie homestay: £30-£50 a night for looking after someone's dog while they're on holiday.
Rented out their home on Air BNB and similar. Where I live (coastal area) lots of people vacate their homes for a week or two or longer during the summer. Some people live in camper vans while their house is being rented out, others house sit or move in short-term with friends or relatives.

FIRE is outlined here:
https://www.investopedia.com/terms/f/financial-independence-retire-early-fire.asp#:~:text=What%20Does%20FIRE%20Really%20Mean,or%20gaining%20more%20financial%20freedom.

thx all Im just having a moan

i live in crappy semi detached house where I can hear the neighbours tap

I get it.
I am 40 & have felt this way for a while.
What I have done is try and put as much in my pension / savings as possible to give me flexibility later on.
I doubt I will be able to retire mega early but I hope ASAP after 60.

You are me 😆 I feel exactly the same, the corporate bollocks, targets and performance reviews, all of it just does my head in. Unfortunately I don't have a trade or particular skills and there's already enough dog walkers in the world so I'm a bit stuck!