I know I am BU but how do I shake it off?

[Sloejam]

My partner and I always went running together. We actually met training for a half marathon.

I’m pregnant now and have stopped running (doctor’s advice but I’m knackered anyway).

He’s just told me he’s been invited to go for a run this week with his mate and his mate’s tennis pals (men and women), and they’ll probably grab some dinner and drinks after.

I feel bloody jealous and cross. Granted I can’t join the run but the dinner’s local to me and I’m not an invalid, I can leave the house. I’ve not been invited though because I’m not joining the run.

I know I’m completely unreasonable but I’m cross and feeling rubbish.

I wont tell him that of course, but AIBU to point out I could’ve been invited for dinner? I get the impression this’ll be a weekly thing now.

I genuinely don’t begrudge him a social or fitness life. I’m thrilled he has both. But because it’s something I’m explicitly excluded from, I just feel a bit crap.

You're overthinking. It's your hormones. Just say you'd love to go and you'll meet them.

I mean this is the kindest way possible - you really just need to get over yourself and ask him if you can come for the meal. If he's anything like mine he just won't have even thought about it (or even worse, just assumed you knew you were invited). Even if he says he wants to keep it as a "him" thing, knowing that is no worse than where you are now.

Also it's probably not for everyone, but have you considered any antenatal exercise classes? Might be a good chance to keep fit and meet some people interested in exercise who are in the same boat.

You either mum up and talk to him about it, or you set up a really unhealthy dynamic that will affect your entire relationship.

@Sloejamif no one else’s partner is going and you don’t know then anyway , I wouldn’t ask to go.
Why don’t you go out with friends that night instead ?

Concerning you're having a baby with someone who you can't just say 'ill join you for dinner'

If they sweat, they'll smell. Sweat isn't fragrance free.