Do you have the ‘One that got away’

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Or the one you wonder about occasionally?

I knew a boy at college age..we weren’t together ever, he was with other people, as was I

We got chatting over Fb maybe 9 years ago on and off for a few years. We’d send lengthy messages to one another and i’d say he was the funniest, most interesting person i’d ever connected with
We were due to meet up, but fate didn’t take that path..I was with someone (still am, but not happy) I had a child, he was not able to.
He married and lives abroad, I too live abroad but in a different country

He still just randomly pops into my head. The connection we had on every level was amazing and he thought the same

Yes. He disappeared from my life - we used to message regularly - without warning 😢

He pops into my head now and then. I miss him and wonder what happened to him.

My 'one that got away':
We were together for 4 years in our early 30s.
I loved him SO much and I know he loved me loads.
Long story short...it was actually me who ended the relationship, as I felt we were holding one another back (we had our own share of issues as individuals and I didn't feel I could work on the things I needed to whilst with him).
It broke my heart, walking away.
I went on to meet the father of my DC, so I never would have had them if I had stayed with him.
I've thought about him every day since we split up and I think a part of me will always love him.

Do you love your current partner?

Do you know what the one that got away is up to now?

Nah, I do have a 'fuck me he was properly fit as fuck' that I occasionally wonder about. We just fucked occasionally though so no real attachment.

😔 Do you know what he’s doing now

My teenage boyfriend whose mother made us split up as she said he was too young to go steady. I still hear about him as he is a multi millionaire .

Oh dear, gutted.

I did have one. The first Man to break my heart after a brief but intense relationship in our early 20s, simply because I wanted more than he was able to give. It took me probably twice as long as we were together to even start to get over him. We stayed vaguely in touch for years, usually reconnecting by flirty text when we both single, but never met up as we were always in different parts of the world. If he’d have turned up on my first wedding day and told me he wanted me I’d have gone with him.

He virtually held my hand through my (totally unconnected to him) divorce and I did see him once or twice at events over a few years.

It wasn’t until I met current DH that the candle I’d always held for him went out. I’ve actually had dinner with him since I got married again (by fluke we were in the same city at the same time for work). It served only to confirm that my feelings for him were gone and honestly it was a relief. I still think fondly of him because I’ve known him for 20 years now, but any idea of attraction or romance is long gone.

No, I have one I wished got away, my ex husband! 🤣

I dated someone from age 16 to 18 and really thought he was my one.

Then he got offered a job in Wales (we lived in East London). This was back in days before mobiles and the internet so our communication was via phone calls with my dad tapping his watch.
We couldn’t maintain a LDR and it fizzled out.

About 5 years later I was out with friends at a local club and he was there - on his stag night!! We had a long private chat and he actually said to me ‘if you say you still love me, I’ll call my wedding off’ - I told him it wasn’t fair to me or his fiancée and I walked away.

Sort of.

I had a massive heartbreak at University- I was very in love with this guy, and although at one stage we were together for about 9/10 months I actually ended it as I knew he wasn’t as into me/ wasn’t acting like he was. We then had an awful on/ off thing for another year or so.

It was a huge heartbreak for me - and worse of all there were reasons why I could romanticise it a lot and spin it into a whole “Romeo/ Juliet thing” in the words of Princess Anne in the Crown.

I’ve been married, had two kids and divorced since then but still think about this guy.

However, I’m pretty certain it’s not him that I miss/ failed to get over, but the idea of a very exciting relationship.

Yes, I was 19, he was 25,and from a different culture. A poly student in my city,but from a different area. A real gent and very pretty. I was horrible to him😳

Yeah I have one. I’ve never before and after felt love so intensely like it. I have been in love after but never found that intensity.
I was very early 20’s and we were only together about 8 months. He dumped me but due to the social circles I still saw him a lot and we would hook up sometimes which didn’t help me to get over him.
He’d also start dating a couple of my friends which was so painful but as soon as he or I were single we’d resume hooking up. I only did that because I was still so in love with him but of course I wanted more than that.
This went on for years.

it was my fault it took so long to get over because I didn’t have to still be in a situation where we would hang out or hooked up with him.
Id never do that now.

We are Facebook friends but haven’t spoken in a long time, hes married with kids and I have a kid. Occasionally I let my mind reminisce and I do sometimes still dream about him.

😂
me too!

Yes, a uni lecturer. He was fit and so charming. I almost went there but thought better of it despite the mutual interest and flirting. I wonder what he’s up to now.

Still have the occasional sex dream about him 🤣

Yes. Worst pain of my life. 16 years and nobody compares. He's a huge prick but you love who you love..

Maybe it's me but I have always been bloody glad to see the back of ex partners once we have finally split.

Omg well that majorly sucks

Yes. Not only someone I loved deeply but also really valued as a friend. We are from different countries and were always going to go out separate ways at a prearranged point (he was going home, I went travelling). The woman he married is absolutely his soul mate. They're wonderful together and I wish them every happiness. Makes me super sad she banned him from speaking with me so we're no longer in touch. Would love to be able to hear about his family and share stories of mine with him, but c'est la vie. They're living the life he used to describe as his ideal one, and when you care for someone surely that's about all you could ever wish for them?

Yes - my closest friend through uni! Now I look back I think he was maybe more than a friend the whole
time but I only realized when I was about to get married. Still married in an up and down marriage and sometimes I wonder what it’s have been like with my friend. He now lives in a different country and is married but married very late and no kids. Likely I’d have got fed up with him too, lol.

My "one that got away" still invades my thoughts. I even dream about him still, every so often. I haven't seen him in over 20+ years but he forever lurks in my thoughts.

Yes two! Think about them every other week…

Yes!

My best friend from the age of 15-20. We weren’t officially together but our connection was insane and we did sleep together a few times over the years. I think he knew me better than I knew myself.

We stopped talking when I got with my now husband. I’ve been with him 6 years and we have two children but I still find myself thinking about my best friend ever so often and wondering how life would be if we ever officially got together.

Yes, me too! We were together quite briefly, but were so much in love and great friends, we were just made for each other. But we were from different continents, and only together by sheer accident, both in the forces, posted together once, was never going to happen again, so we split up and promised to be in contact in 5 years to see if the situation was different.

I didn't hear from him, but then I didn't contact him either. I wondered about him frequently, and assumed he was married and happy, as I was by then.

Then last year (more than 25 years later) curiosity got the better of me and I googled him as he had an unusual name. I found out he had died quite soon after we split up. I had no idea grief could hit so hard, so long after someone had died.

I had one when I was about 16. I thought he was amazing, so intelligent, funny, etc. We dated a few times, nothing came out of it, but I was in love with him for years. Then about 8 years later we met at a party, he tried to kiss me, I didn't want to. More 5 years we were chatting, living in different parts of the world, both married, he said "you were my teenage love".

Fast forward about 10 years, I dreamt of him every night when I was pregnant with DS2. Now, we see each other every few years, with I'm back home, he's married to someone else. (We never had anything romantic ever again). I thought he was too selfish to be a good husband and father, but looks like he's matured.

The other one that got away was my proper first boyfriend, from 19 to 22. I was horrible to him, we're not friends now. As far as I know he's still a very kind guy, if a bit complicated.
Looks like of all my exes, I married the worst, most unkind one.