Do you miss snogging males?

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Remember being 14/15 or so onwards and just sooo much kissing, so much fancying of different boys, feeling excited if you’d see them that night and if you’d get to go with them 😂
I don’t think I’ve kissed like that since my mid twenties maybe…40’s now.

If you are this age and date again, do you kiss like this? I really have no idea

Heh the answers are making me laugh, and I realised I didn't answer the actual question.

No, I don't miss my early kissing sessions. Don't even really remember them. I don't think they involved nasty smells or slobber or grossness, thank goodness.

This makes me so sad! I loved snogging in my youth but now, no. Married almost 20 years and no longer physical in our relationship. Love him, but in a different way. Menopause has killed any physicality and I can’t see it returning!
Would love a Time Machine taking me back to my teenage years just for a cheeky 2am snog behind the town hall, just for one night!

Been with dh 36 years and snog, I'd think there was something very wrong if we didn't.

I'm 55 and DH and I still kiss properly day, been together 13 years.

I remember a lot of not very enjoyable snogging in my teens and wondering why on earth I was supposed to like it, until I was 18 and finally met someone who was good at it! Definitely feel nostalgia for how exciting it was to kiss someone passionately for the first time.

I never really liked snogging. It was always so sloppy and gross.

When you snogged someone in a club/party that wasn't your partner, what did you say once the snog ended. I once had a lad say "thank you. I really enjoyed that. That was my first kiss"

Yep me and DH kiss like that most days. Usually before sex but sometimes just randomly. Sometimes I will be making dinner / washing up and DH will come up behind me and start kissing my neck and then spin me round so we can have a snog 😍Absolutely love it!

I only said male’s because I was about to put boys (because I was remembering being 15) then thought that sounded a bit weird, so went with males, then couldn’t change it! I agree it isn’t right 😂

Those ones who still do it with their husbands after years and years, i’m so envious, never realised that was a thing

For those who used to with their long term partner, but now don’t, is it simply that you fell out of the habit? Or one of you doesn’t really like it? Or is it an invisible and unspoken acknowledgement on the state of your relationship? Or is it simply the same as ‘we used to have coffee in bed every Sunday, we can start doing it again and we both want to but we stopped because the tray we used broke and we never got around to buying a new one’ ie easily fixable?

@Boredeoboredbored would you feel okay snogging today or would it feel too weird, like the moment has passed?

We Australians of Gen X call it "pashing" or "pashing off" and reminisce about it with a cheeky smile. But as teenagers my friends and I had to keep that sort of activity under wraps or risk being gossiped about and thrown out of our private school -- which, alas, did happen to some.

I loved a good pash; I was good at it, and I miss it. These days I write erotic comedy so I can keep the pashing alive in my imagination 😚

So, for all you expert lip-lockers, here's Pash, Kate Ceberano's ode to being 15 and looking for lust at the local shopping centre. If you don't want to snog/pash/tickle tonsils to it, you can certainly dance to it.

I think when you reach perimenopausal status, if you snog, I think it's that "fear" that in his head it means "game on" for sex. And I don't always want to have sex. I really need to build myself up for it these days.

Also, it just feels a bit "cringe". It's not that I don't love him , I do. I can't really explain it.

Ask him for it. I love it. Sometimes DP just comes to my front door and when I open it that’s the first thing he does.

I am still with my teenage boyfriend and we never lost the habit of this. It’s been twenty five years. It’s a lovely way to relax and be affectionate.

Together 27 years, married for 25 and still kiss passionately every day. We still fancy each other and love being together. I think maybe some people are less tactile in general, but we are both affectionate people so we are very compatible that way. I would be devastated to never get kissed like that again but that's just how I am.

I've been seeing someone for just over 18 months.
He's a great snogger and we kiss a lot 💋
We're in our sixties 😀

Yes I miss the kissing of my youth. I often think fondly of kisses I shared when young. My first love. We sneaked into the park on a cold winter’s night. The snow was very deep. We fell into the snow. Then kissing each other and time stood still. All the while hundreds of stars sparkled above us in a blue black velvety sky. I will remember it to my dying day.

Me and DH still kiss like that, not everyday, but often. He still leaves my lips tingling for ages afterwards.

There’s very little in life that’s better than a full on, very long kiss.

Yes! Honestly being a teenager young enough that sex was not automatically expected was a time I really miss.

I loved snogging. I only found it too slobbery a handful of times. Most of the time I found it good. I loved the stubble scratchy feeling and just the excitement the first time you snogged someone.

it should have been awkward when it was strangers at a party but it was never awkward as far as I remember. I think because we were all publicly snogging everyone. It just wasn’t that big of a deal. There also wasn’t time for it to get awkward as you’d just do more snogging.

i still enjoyed a lot of snogging in night clubs in my late teens and early 20s but it got a bit annoying as often it involved a lot of fending off hands from men who thought you were going to start engaging in sexual activities on the dance floor.

I also really miss things like neck kisses and dryhumping that didn’t lead to sex. Since I’ve got to the sex-having age I honestly found myself quite disappointed with how many of these things turn into very brief activities to build up to sex or just stop completely.

I did continue snogging DH for a long time as I didn’t want that to happen. Now we only really do it for sex. He’s not bad at snogging but it’s sometimes a bit… not slobbery… but like the amount of pressure isn’t quite right and it feels like our faces don’t quite line up right.

It’s always been fine but just fine. If I could put my finger on what the issue is I could tell him but I don’t know. He’s always been very very good in bed so I think I kind of allowed the snogging to gradually decrease as it didn’t give me the exciting “could do this for hours” feeling.

It’s a bit of a shame really.

Nope.
Hate kissing. Always have. It's so intrusive. Thankfully I married an equally cold fish and our tongues have remained in our own mouths for nearly 30 years.

DH and I snog a lot. He is a great kisser. Been together 24 years.

This sort of comment and feeling is very common on Mumsnet I think, which is a real shame. When people split up and have different partners they often have a change of opinion about it.

So I guess the question next is ‘and why do so many women of a certain age start to dislike sex and avoid things they previously liked that might lead to sex?’.

Well I can only speak for myself, but its because menopause has killed my libido stone dead. I have no desire at all. Its what caused the ending of my last relationship. Ex claimed he understood and we talked a lot about how sex would have to be a slow burn that had to be worked up to slowly and that my dryness meant that even with treatment and lube, it could leave me sore so sex would have to be more gentle. But he didnt change anything and became worse if anything, always trying to jump on me and became nothing short of a sex pest. So I finished with him.