So today DD was playing with the neighbours kids (a 7 year old boy and 8 year old girl). DD is 9. She was playing nicely I don’t leave her alone tbh I’m always watching them. It’s a cul-de-sac type street and kids play in the bit of field opposite the houses. I had my 6 year old with me too, I left them alone for 5 minutes at the most to take my little one to the toilet. I came back to screaming and shouting and was told my DD hit another boy who’s 5 years old (he joined when I left). I feel really annoyed that a) I left them alone and b) most importantly she hit him.
we’ve only moved here a year ago and she has started playing with these kids for a month. There been no issues. I often wonder why the parents leave them as it is quite busy with cars and bikes zooming past on one side of the road but it’s fine as I’m always with them.
she’s been told off and she went to bed crying this evening. I’ve explained to her she can’t go around hitting people. Her party is next month and I’m really tempted to just cancel it but I know I won’t.
I’m just really lost on how to handle this tomorrow morning. I’ve spoken to the boys parents and apologised. We also went around and she apologised to the boy,
she’s refusing to play with any of the kids from now on which is a shame as I was finally feeling part of this community. It’s been really lonely for me being on my own with my kids and I feel it’s all spoilt now.
this is not the first time she’s hit people. Last year I took her along to a play date with my son’s friends and she hit both the little boys. Yes they were provoking her I suppose but they were just being little boys by shouting “you can’t get me” they were playing tag and she hit one really hard on the head. Needless to say we were never invited again and this has had an impact on my son’s friendships as it’s a small village school. I just don’t know what to do. I know she hates little boys and finds them annoying. I’ve come up with a checklist for when she gets annoyed but she seems to forget everything when she’s angry.
the neighbours will stop talking up us now won’t they? also I’m not sure why this little boy is always left on his own to play with the older kids - his parents should be there like I am with my son whose same age. I’m annoyed I left her alone with them I should have brought her home with me and then went back,