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QurikySparrowHatrack · 07/06/2025 01:48

TempestTost · 07/06/2025 01:23

The principle that it is fine and even a good thing to refuse service to those you disagree with is dangerous.

It's the exact same logic that had a group of women turfed from a pub for holding the view that men can't be women and shouldn't be able to acquire women's rights to things like sex specific spaces.

I'm not familiar with that story, but having gender critical beliefs is one of the relatively few political beliefs that has been deemed protected.

That likely doesn't mean that you couldn't be declined service (you could, for example, have an Asher-like scenario where cake decorator lawfully refuses to ice a cake with gender-critical slogans) but you couldn't lawfully refuse to serve someone just because you know them to be gender critical.

Velmy · 07/06/2025 01:51

ARealitycheck · 07/06/2025 01:26

Did he do any of those things while in the restaurant? Unless he did, then other peoples opinions and prejudices were the reason he was asked to leave.

If you owned a steakhouse and Gary Glitter popped in, sat at your top table and went live on Insta announcing the fact, what would you do?

Would you insist your staff served him? What would you say to the customers with kids sat at the tables next to his when they complained?

Nothing, right, because he hadn't abused and children in your restaurant? Just other people's opinions and prejudices?

Dangermoo · 07/06/2025 01:52

spoonbillstretford · 07/06/2025 01:46

Oh, what protected characteristic does Robinson have?

A clue: being a racist criminal isn't one.

It's groundhog day.

spoonbillstretford · 07/06/2025 01:55

TempestTost · 07/06/2025 01:37

Because it's a way of functioning that will lead to social and political breakdown. It's also very likely to backfire when trends change. One day you are kicking out TR and women's rights activists, - the next it's refusing to serve Zionists, or maybe Marxists.

Hey - why not have a kind of panel that investigates subversive opinions and blackballs them from social life? That seems like a great idea...

It's also massively overblown, all of these places serve people everyday that are outright criminals without even a modicum of concern about it.

What absolute utter fucking nonsense.

The outcome of your argument restaurants would be forced to served anyone who comes through the door.

They must have discretion, subject to the law.

Particularly to refuse service to racists and criminals.

It's really not that difficult to understand.

spoonbillstretford · 07/06/2025 01:59

Dangermoo · 07/06/2025 01:52

It's groundhog day.

What a shame. If people got it 600 posts ago then we wouldn't have to keep explaining it.

Dangermoo · 07/06/2025 02:01

spoonbillstretford · 07/06/2025 01:59

What a shame. If people got it 600 posts ago then we wouldn't have to keep explaining it.

There's nothing to get. It's just your opinion. Goodnight.

TempestTost · 07/06/2025 02:02

QurikySparrowHatrack · 07/06/2025 01:48

I'm not familiar with that story, but having gender critical beliefs is one of the relatively few political beliefs that has been deemed protected.

That likely doesn't mean that you couldn't be declined service (you could, for example, have an Asher-like scenario where cake decorator lawfully refuses to ice a cake with gender-critical slogans) but you couldn't lawfully refuse to serve someone just because you know them to be gender critical.

It wasn't always clear legally that it was a "protected" belief.

But that's not really the point. The point is that while we can choose who we associate with socially, it's important in a liberal democracy that people with unpopular opinions are able to function fairly normally, for example being served in shops.

Many opinions that are now commonplace and considered deeply important at one time were considered immoral. By your logic people who held these views should have been shut out from even the commercial elements of public life.

cryptide · 07/06/2025 02:02

Dangermoo · 07/06/2025 02:01

There's nothing to get. It's just your opinion. Goodnight.

But it's not "just" anyone's opinion, is it - it's the law which imposes the relevant boundaries.

TempestTost · 07/06/2025 02:03

spoonbillstretford · 07/06/2025 01:55

What absolute utter fucking nonsense.

The outcome of your argument restaurants would be forced to served anyone who comes through the door.

They must have discretion, subject to the law.

Particularly to refuse service to racists and criminals.

It's really not that difficult to understand.

Edited

Any restaurant serves criminals everyday. Many of them also employ plenty.

spoonbillstretford · 07/06/2025 02:08

TempestTost · 07/06/2025 02:03

Any restaurant serves criminals everyday. Many of them also employ plenty.

Exactly. It's called discretion. And obviously, you don't know the background of everyone coming into your restaurant. But when someone is a notorious criminal, known troublemaker and all round twat you can refuse service if you want to, as is your right.

QurikySparrowHatrack · 07/06/2025 02:23

TempestTost · 07/06/2025 02:02

It wasn't always clear legally that it was a "protected" belief.

But that's not really the point. The point is that while we can choose who we associate with socially, it's important in a liberal democracy that people with unpopular opinions are able to function fairly normally, for example being served in shops.

Many opinions that are now commonplace and considered deeply important at one time were considered immoral. By your logic people who held these views should have been shut out from even the commercial elements of public life.

I've not been giving "my logic", I've been explaining the law (particularly in the face of people repeatedly getting it wrong).

Though I will say that I'm not particularly concerned about a law as it is.

For example, if in a situation like the TR one, if the servers in the restaurant were Muslim, I'd be far more concerned about the employers duty of care towards their staff than I would TR's "right" to be served by them.

I'd also be more concerned about a business owner's right to refuse service to, say, a paedophile advocacy group, if their repeated presence deterred other customers.

If it got to the stage where someone like Robinson was so routinely denied service that he was meaningfully impeded in functioning in society, perhaps I would start to feel differently (whilst wondering what exactly could be done to balance everyone's interests/needs), but we're a million miles from there.

Hoardasurass · 07/06/2025 02:41

BIossomtoes · 06/06/2025 22:01

I really wish people would actually read the law and understand that no matter how odious, hurtful or offensive someone's beliefs are to you, you can't discriminate against them for holding those beliefs.

This is correct in an employment context. In a privately owned restaurant you can be refused service for any reason at all, in fact the owner doesn’t need to give a reason - they might not like your face or the way you smell or your lisp - they can lawfully refuse to serve you and there’s fuck all you can do about it.

Not quite, whilst service providers can refuse service for the reasons that you've listed they are unable to refuse service for his beliefs

QurikySparrowHatrack · 07/06/2025 02:45

Hoardasurass · 07/06/2025 02:41

Not quite, whilst service providers can refuse service for the reasons that you've listed they are unable to refuse service for his beliefs

FFS...

Hoardasurass · 07/06/2025 02:48

QurikySparrowHatrack · 06/06/2025 22:14

You are wrong on the law.

Some philosophical beliefs are protected if they can meet a (high) threshold. Many of Robinson's publicly-stated beliefs will not reach that threshold (for example, that "Islam is a disease").

You are, obviously, completely wrong to say that you cannot discriminate against someone based on "odious, hurtful or offensive" beliefs. Otherwise the Equality Act would, contrary to its whole purpose, protect racism, ageism, homophobia and alike.

You should probably take a moment to understand the law yourself, before patronizing others.

Your wrong sorry but you are there's a very high threshold in deeming beliefs to be not WORIDS and I think you might be quite surprised by what is considered WORIDS in law

Velmy · 07/06/2025 03:01

Hoardasurass · 07/06/2025 02:41

Not quite, whilst service providers can refuse service for the reasons that you've listed they are unable to refuse service for his beliefs

TR was not refused service because of his beliefs, so this is a moot point.

Hoardasurass · 07/06/2025 03:04

HeadDeskHeadDesk · 06/06/2025 22:57

So if a forty year old white, straight male who identifies as male wants to join a pony club for girls of 10-14 and he's told no, on account of being a forty year old man, that's two of his 5 protected characteristics (race, age, sex, sexuality, gender identity) used as a reason to exclude him. (Race and age.)

You are saying anyone can be excluded or refused service from any private business or establishment for any reason at all, except if they are being excluded specifically because of a protected characteristic.

If all protected characteristics are equal in law as you say, and the only difference is that some demographics with certain characteristics are more likely to be discriminated against than others, then I guess he's joining the pony club if he wants to and he'll go to court to fight anyone who says otherwise and he'll win.

Gender identity is not a protected characteristic.
It is perfectly legal to discriminate against sex where it's reasonable and for a legitimate aim which is why men can be barred from working in a woman's rape crisis center or in your example

QurikySparrowHatrack · 07/06/2025 03:17

Hoardasurass · 07/06/2025 02:48

Your wrong sorry but you are there's a very high threshold in deeming beliefs to be not WORIDS and I think you might be quite surprised by what is considered WORIDS in law

Edited

The threshold for what constitutes a protected belief is a high one - whether or not it is WORIDS (worthy of respect in a democratic society) is only one of the five arms of the test to be met.

I agree that the threshold for which beliefs are WORIDS is, in itself, not that high. However, an Employmet Appeal Tribunal decision, as recently as last year, determined that Islamaphobia, combined with English Nationalism, is not WORIDS.

Tommy Robinson, of course, is a prominent Islamaphobe, former member of the British Nationalist Party and co-founder of the (also nationalist) English Defence League...

travellinglighter · 07/06/2025 04:33

Womblingmerrily · 06/06/2025 17:45

So, can a nurse or doctor refuse to treat someone?

Who can they refuse to treat or is it part of their job to treat without prejudice.

I don't think we get to choose which clients/patients/customers that we carry out our job duties fo

Obviously not because they are providing a service that is vital for continuing existence. A pricey steak isn’t vital to continuing existence and private companies can choose who they do business with.

travellinglighter · 07/06/2025 04:43

JamieCannister · 06/06/2025 18:00

It would not surprise me if he sues and wins, dependent on the precise circumstances and precisely the reason given for refusing to serve him.

You are completely right right on your other point, though. This is great news for him and his supporters, and will only cause more and more people who believe in free speech and freedom of belief to turn against labour and the tories and vote reform instead. Note - I am not saying they will get more free speech and freedom of belief from reform

It would surprise me if any court would take away a private companies right to refuse to do business with disreputable individuals who can cause reputational damage.

If Tommee ten names posts on social media in front of a Hawksmoor sign, decent human beings could rightly assume that Hawksmoor supports him and avoids the place.

whatisthegoddamnholdup · 07/06/2025 04:55

Ha! Brilliant, good for them, wish he was treated like that everywhere he goes.

travellinglighter · 07/06/2025 06:55

Someone refused ro serve Keir starmer. No court case.

MiniPantherOwner · 07/06/2025 07:12

Hoardasurass · 07/06/2025 00:04

As someone who managed several successful restaurants over the decades I can tell you that you're wrong political beliefs fall under the protected characteristic of belief/religion and if you refused to serve a customer because of their beliefs you'd be sacked on the spot for gross misconduct (discriminating against a person because of their protected characteristic (good luck trying to sue for unlawful sacking)).
The protected characteristic of belief/religion covers everything from the belief that men can never be women right through to women are nothing but a feeling in a man's head, from immigration is the best thing in the history of the world to its the end of western civilisation, from God created the world in 6 days to Darwinian theory and everything in between. As such you don't get to refuse someone service just because you find their beliefs offensive and/or wrong

Edited

I double checked and you're right. I stand corrected. You can still refuse to serve someone for being a racist arsehole though, so Tommy Robinson and his defenders don't have a leg to stand on.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 07/06/2025 07:16

MiniPantherOwner · 07/06/2025 07:12

I double checked and you're right. I stand corrected. You can still refuse to serve someone for being a racist arsehole though, so Tommy Robinson and his defenders don't have a leg to stand on.

They're not right. Racism is not a protected characteristic and nor is being a thug.

Creativetype · 07/06/2025 07:21

The alternative to Tommy anyone? Hahahaha.

https://x.com/Boldyboy1975/status/1930744393142583400

https://x.com/Boldyboy1975/status/1930744393142583400

MiniPantherOwner · 07/06/2025 07:23

MiloMinderbinder925 · 07/06/2025 07:16

They're not right. Racism is not a protected characteristic and nor is being a thug.

No racism is not a protected characteristic at all, you can absolutely refuse to serve someone in your business because of that.

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