DH refuses to measure bottles

[CharmingDryad]

DH refuses to measure the water and formula scoops when making bottles for our baby. The bottles have measurement lines on there. You just pour to your desired line, and sometimes pour a little out if it’s too much. But he says that’s too difficult to do. He also refuses to use the built-in level in the formula can to make the scoops exact so you know how much you’re giving her. He says, “that’s not how cooking works.” And “I just eyeball it.” He tries to eyeball the measurement, but it’s really not difficult to go ahead and use the level. Yet he refuses.

AIBU to demand he measure properly? Or am I being too fastidious?

The baby was primarily breastfed for the first four months, with formula top ups. Now she’s formula fed. Thank you for all these comments.

He's a thick twat who is putting his child's health at serious risk
Baby can easily become dehydrated or end up seriously ill with electrolyte imbalance
Surely you realise you have had a child with an imbecile???
if this is real, Get your baby checked by a medical professional asap

@CharmingDryad

show him this, he's a 🤡

We got the machine, could that be an answer to his incompetence? You can also lremake bottles and refridgerate. Also the cartons are good.
We used them for other reasons other than one of us couldnt understand the measurements :(
I wonder if his eyesight is deteriorating and he isnt addressing it.
My huaband refused to get glasses until age 45 then had an eye test and turned out he needed really strong readers.
Its the only explanation that would make sense.
Request he gets an eye test as he is clearly unable to see a black line on a bottle.

This! Playing the male incompetence card at it’s bloody best!!

If he can't be bothered to make the bottles properly he can use ready made formula and he can pay for it (hoping your finances are separate)

What a fool. He is not "cooking" - what the fuck? Will he be throwing in a dash of turmeric for colour and salt for taste next?

He needs to make the formula as directed - otherwise it could be dangerous for your baby.

I'd lose a lot of respect for him if he said/did this.

He's a cunt. And he doesn't want to make the bottles.

It's not cooking!!

He needs to follow the instructions it's more a kin to working in a lab than in a kitchen

Do you have any accurate digital scales? I'd get him to "eyeball" measuring out the equivalent of 5oz of flour five times and see how varied they are then repeat with water!

@CharmingDryad sorry but is he actually able to read??? very suspicious!! maybe you should pre-make them and he just has to hear them up

Right?? Thank you.

Show him this. You’re a moron who shouldn’t have had children.

He’s clearly not mature enough to be responsible for another human.

Tell him I said strategic incompetence is a cunt’s trick really unattractive😇

I asked him about his eyesight now and he says that’s not the issue.

Fuckwit

So, what is the issue? What’s his justification for endangering your baby in this way? I assume you’ve asked? As ‘that’s not how cooking works’ isn’t really an explanation.

Thanks MN for all these scathing comments. He has been an idiot. Ironically he has three graduate degrees and teaches at a law school! I’ve read the comments to him, and he’s now admitted he was wrong and promised to measure properly from now on. Win!

Mind blowing arrogance and stupidity from him. Is he thick?

It’s your baby’s sole source of nourishment it needs to be correct. If she has d & v issues etc you won’t know if it’s a bug or due to slapdash formula making up.
Not being able to safely feed your child is a safeguarding issue.

It's shocking that he's being so careless with his child's health.
I'm glad you're showing him the comments OP, he really needs to take this seriously. Get him to read the serious issues that could possibly affect your baby if he just continues to take rough guesses.

And tell him to count the scoops out loud as he puts them in - it is easy to lose track. I do this with my coffee scoops too.

Still agape at comparing making formula to cooking. Like the clue is in the name formula.

He sounds like an insufferable twat. Is he this arrogant and obnoxious about everything?

It's not exactly difficult is it. Can he tie his own shoelaces? Wipe his backside? Or is that beyond him as well.

Let me guess... he's behaving like he's incapable of measuring a bottle because he believes it's not his job.

Glad he's seen sense

I think the issue is that he would rather be found incapable/incompetent of a womans job and get out of doing it than be a competent emotionally mature adult that is now a father.

He's a misogynistic piece of shit that doesn't deserve to have a child.

Pathetic, I don't know how you'll find any way to respect him after this op or the will to fuck him.