Today I sent a venting msg about a work colleague to the colleague

[coffeegirl73]

Yep that’s what I did. Have a bit of a banter going with pal at work - the same person annoys us both. I actually hate myself for being drawn into venting I’ve been trying so hard to “rise above it all” but she was getting to me today. I sent a message to my pal but of course it went to this woman by mistake. She saw it before I could delete it. I messaged her saying that was a private msg and I’m sorry she saw it but it wasn’t about her - she just replied ok. I feel like such a shit. I really hope she isn’t hurt - I probably would be I know. Lesson learnt though. Anyone else done anything loke
this . Don’t be too hard on me I know it was immature and juvenile of me to even send a msg at all . Feel terrible

Done this in a team WhatsApp group. Woman on the team grips everyone’s shit. Called her a twat and posted it in the group

I did this when I was young and stupid. Got a (deserved) written warning, but I owned up and didn't make excuses and was clearly honestly sorry so it didn't have lasting impact.

Then it happened to me and I felt it from the other side, too. I learned a lot from both experiences.

Did the exact same thing in my first job on the internal messenger chat! I was only 17 to be fair though and it taught me a lesson. I still remember the awful moment of realisation 😱

I think it’s a common occurrence when you are riled up about a particular person; their name is in your head so you enter their name as the recipient. Easy mistake.

You posted in AIBU. If that is the case it wasn’t well written.
so what did you say in the message and what has she done to you?

Totally not the point of this thread, but what’s a WhatsApp story…? Seen them
on FB but didn’t know there was a WhatsApp equivalent

I didn’t know either until my mother added a very personal message to her Whatapp status that is like a public thing that everyone can see. My cousin messaged me to tell me and I had to talk her true getting it down. Bloody nightmare. She did it a few times🙈🙈🙈

Through!! Not true. I will have the grammar police on me 🙈

‘Banter’ is back and forth joking with another person between you. Talking behind people’s backs and exchanging messages about them isn’t ‘banter’, it’s mean spirited gossiping that reminds me of teenagers at school who think they can impres people by bitching about others. Time to grow up really. She can’t be that bad if you feel guilty and have apologised.

I sent a text to my friend complaining about my husband and asking why 'he insists on being such a total and utter prick' ... but obviously sent it to him and not her didn't I 👌

I've done similar that I'd like to confess.
One Christmas, I regifted something my DM had given me to my manager at work. One day my DM was coming to my work and I realised she might recognise the regifted item while at my work so I texted her “I regifted that xxx you got me to (my manager)for Christmas, so don't say anything to her about it if you see it please.”. Except in my haste I texted that to my manager and not my mum!
Now everytime I hear about someone doing similar I feel embarrassed all over again, now for them and myself.