What a helpful and supportive comment, I hope you never find yourself in a situation where you are struggling and looking for advice and someone says something so judgemental.
A surprising amount of parents regret or have periods of regretting having children, there is a lack of honesty at how difficult it really is. How are you supposed to embrace a situation where you have to neglect your own wants needs and happiness for someone else when you are feeling low already and going through a difficult time?
Young children are demanding and a lot of people overestimate how rewarding having kids is, they see the good sides of parenting but it’s quite rare people are open and honest about how much of your life you have to sacrifice.
OP clearly loves her daughter, she wouldn’t be posting if she didn’t and she wouldn’t be as drained by it all if she simply didn’t care. You can love your kids but still hate parenting, it’s too late once you’ve had your child to realise how much you’ll struggle.
Your comment was unnecessary and you are just making someone going through a difficult time feel worse, is that what you wanted to achieve?
OP was brave to post what she did and deserves some actual advice, helpful suggestions or support, I would expect most women to have empathy as a lot of parents will have had similar struggles.
I don’t have children, one of the main reasons is because I knew I’d find it difficult as I’m neurodivergent.
I have a lot of friends with kids and nieces and nephews, I asked everyone to be as honest with me as possible about parenthood.
Because they knew it wasn’t something I was just a bit unsure about and was looking for absolute honesty most people advised me not to have kids and were very open about how hard they had found it and although they loved their kids there were times they would have given them back if they could! For most people these stages passed and they found it easier as their kids got older. Unfortunately my own sister admitted she regretted having kids and although she has loved them, cared for them and they will likely never know this, her opinion hasn’t changed even though they are nearly adults. She believes her life would have been so much better if she had stayed childfree.
I think a lot of this is because she was very young when she had them and sacrificed her youth and although she had a huge amount of support that made it more difficult because she enjoyed the time she had without them more than being with them.
OP wasn’t whining, she sounds worn out and at the end of her tether, it’s not surprising if she isn’t even getting time to herself in the evenings.
I suggest you don’t comment if you are just going to be judgemental, people post on this site with PND and a comment like you made could stop someone seeking support when needed and feel worse about themselves.