Secretly gutted that DH isn't going away for a fortnight 🤭

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DH was offered some short-term work abroad - two-weeks in the middle east.

It looked like a good offer - good money for easy work.

DH had all but decided to go, and I was secretly starting to look forward to a couple of weeks at home alone.

Yesterday he decided that he doesn't want to go.

I tried to gently persuade DH to reconsider but he's definitely staying put. I was surprised at how disappointed I am not to get my two-weeks home alone 😒

I know I am BU. It's totally DH's choice. But I needed to vent a little bit.

Ha!! My partner just moved in, I’ve not lived with a man in 15 years so I hear you 😆

Not unreasonable at all. I love a bit of time to myself , I also love him dearly 😂

I hear you. It’s nice to have that space sometimes, no compromise over what to have for dinner, starfish in the bed… I’d be disappointed too if I’d had the prospect and then it was taken back!

eta making a starfish shape in the bed. Spreading out… not having actual sea creatures in there 😆

Totally reasonable

Oh, I would have been disappointed too 🤣🤣.

I love my DH very much, would be devastated if anything happened to him, but I also like my own space and we both currently work from home. It's fine, we respect each others space and often we only see each other during the working day when one of us brings the other one a cup of tea.

Two weeks of peace and quiet and no Pawn Stars or Border Force on the telly 🤪.

My DH obviously feels the same, as a family friend suggested me and her go away, and he agreed before I had time to respond, then subsequently paid my flights and transferred some spending money into my account. Is he trying to tell me something 🤣🤣.

I understand. I love my husband dearly, and would miss him, but how I would love the quiet.

I have just had the house to myself for two weeks. I could do it again quite soon.

I'm pretty sure this is why a lot of couples have at least one holiday a year separately from each other 😅

As much as they love each other, time apart is good.

Thoughts and prayers op. I’d be gutted too.

Ohhhh, two weeks at home alone is the dream!!

ohh... That makes so much sense. I really love (and need!) some alone time every once in a while.

So does my fiancé btw.

The only drawback (for me) is that my sleep cycle tends to get a little messed up when he's away.

My husband is going away for 6 weeks next month...the perfect time to do all the home improvements I've been wanting to do.

DH and I always go on at least 1 or 2 weeks away a year, taking the kids with us, so the other one has at least 1 week home alone.

It's necessary 😂and 1 week a year is really not much.

I like the idea of alone time like that to be able to have the bed to myself etc (not that it'd happen cos I have a 3 year old and a young puppy so I get more alone time when DH is here) I actually can't sleep without him. He's very noisy (sinus issues) and though I like to whinge at him about it, he's like a white noise machine and it's too quiet when he's gone 🤣

I'm glad you get me.
Me and DP don't share a bed and we have pretty similar TV and food tastes. So its not that I was looking forward to having the bed to myself or getting my own way with TV or food.
I just really liked the idea of being home alone for a big chunk of time.

I've never lived alone so maybe that's it.

Me and DP work at home together a lot.
I miss him on days he's in the office and when he goes away for a few days with work. I think I miss him those times because I don't fully settle into being home alone - he's back pretty quickly.

I was looking forward to really easing into a solo routine for a good chunk of time.

I've reopened the conversation today in the hope he might come around to pissing off taking the opportunity. Not looking hopeful.

Was the extra money needed for a project? Seems a shame to turn that down for just 2 weeks away. 2 years - yes!

DH has stepped back from taking on so much travelling for work, so now he’s home a lot. Yay… 😭

We do lots of family stuff together but always have at least 1 trip each separate. He goes with friends, I generally travel alone

@socialdilemmawhattodo No, the money wasn't needed for anything in particular and wasn't earmarked for a particular project - it'd have just gone into savings and investments.

But it was just shy of a year's costs/expenses so would've been nice, especially for two weeks of pretty easy work😐😐

OH was meant to leave with all the children at 6:15 this morning. I was gutted as they didn't leave to 7:15. 2 weeks sounds like bliss.

Let me know how that goes 😊. I've been single for 10 years and spent the bank holiday weekend with a fella - poor soul did all sorts of wonderful thing, but I was still wishing the weekend would end so I could reclaim my space.

My DW family are from the opposite end of the country and she takes the kids to visit 2-3 times a year (we go as a family another 2-3 times). It is usually only 2-3 days but I love those little breaks so I totally get you.

I love them all wholeheartedly and usually by day 3 I am missing them like mad but it is a nice little reset and break.

Why doesn’t he want to go? Could you meet him somewhere at the end of the trip? Come up with opportunity cost options for the money. Don’t give up on talking him into going. Live my DH to bits but love having the house to myself for a few days .

YANBU - I hope he sees sense OP 😅

Yanbu. Two weeks alone sounds blissful.
DH went away for a long weekend recently...the house has never been so tidy and I've never been so productive...no idea why it's like that as he doesn't make much mess and tidies up after himself. I just get so much more done alone.