Secretly gutted that DH isn't going away for a fortnight 🤭

[BleedingLikeABastard]

DH was offered some short-term work abroad - two-weeks in the middle east.

It looked like a good offer - good money for easy work.

DH had all but decided to go, and I was secretly starting to look forward to a couple of weeks at home alone.

Yesterday he decided that he doesn't want to go.

I tried to gently persuade DH to reconsider but he's definitely staying put. I was surprised at how disappointed I am not to get my two-weeks home alone 😒

I know I am BU. It's totally DH's choice. But I needed to vent a little bit.

I hear you!

Im a LP to my ds - have been since he was 13 months and is now 20!!!!

He competes abroad sometimes or goes on camps for his sport - everyone says how much I must miss him.

Im like ….. yeah 😏.

But as much as I miss his brilliant dry wit and him as a person I actually love the break. When anyone asks me what I have planned for his absense the answer is nothing!

I enjoy the time just being me. Not mum. Not carer. Just me.

I sometimes wonder how strongly I should communicate the truth 🫣😂

He has a physical disability and autism.

A work colleague was complaining her DP was working away for a week. DH and I have been together for 27 years. I’d fucking love him to work away for a week (or 3) 😂 I’m off to a festival for 3 days next week so he’ll get some alone time. He won’t go anywhere (boring git) so I never get home alone time.

I love my husband endlessly. But I do also love it when he works away and I just sit on the couch with the cat when the kids are in bed/upstairs and watch shit TV. He can work away for months on end and then only see him weekends. It really does not bother me having the kids myself. We follow the same routine.

No I eat what I want 😂🤷🏼‍♀️ I’ve seen posts like “I love when DH goes away as I can just eat beans on toast” FFS we are only here once, eat whatever the hell you like.

Exactly

As you can tell from my screen name, I don't live with a man 😄

I love it tbh - aside from the lack of sex and companionship, I love watching what I want on tv, not worrying about being dainty or sexy, eating in bed!

Yanbu to be a bit miffed

My DH & Oldest was away over Christmas to visit family overseas. Me and youngest had a ball. I did miss them, but also enjoyed 1 on 1 time with the youngest.

Yes it's great when they go away isn't it? Mine was away so much when my kids were little, and I wanted him to help with bed and bath times now they are older he's here ALL THE TIME.

OP, I would feel the same. I have a DH that rarely leaves the house.

My big regret is that I have never lived on my own and I think this is why I also would love to experience a week or two where DH is away somewhere. Even though we have DC and I work full-time, it would be fun to experience a different kind of routine where I have my own space.

One of my work colleagues talks about her DH being away for weeks at a time and she excitedly talks about when he returns and their plans to spend time together. She looks forward to this and I just can’t believe how jealous I am. I have no idea how this would feel as I see DH all the bloody time.

That would nark, I love it when Dh goes away. He's away for 4 days to Portugal later this month, can't wait.

We don't need the money but, yes, I agree.

I have pointe this out. Repeatedly.

@GreenOtter I've never lived alone either and that's partly why I enjoy DH being away - to slip into another kind of life temporarily.

Jesus - how rich are you that you can afford to turn down 30k?

30k! What does he do and how do I get that job?!?!

I love DH but I also love it when he works away. Being able to park in the middle of the car port, having the bed and en suite to myself, not having 2/3 of each washing load being his enormous shirts and pants ( he’s a big man) and having a glass of wine midweek without suffering his mildly disappointed teetotaller look.

He’s currently working from home a lot and not working away. I was home all day last week and mowed the acreage, put the palm fronds on the bonfire, mopped the kitchen and prepped dinner and ironed all school uniforms and the two times he emerged from his office were the two times I had just sat down with a cuppa and my iPad.

My DH has always gone on holiday for a week or 2 every year and I really look forward to it. I feel like I can be myself and have no one to bend round. Don't worry it's fairly normal!