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Why do people drive big cars they can’t manage?

192 replies

HulinSings · 01/06/2025 09:51

I’ve lost count of the number of (usually women in hubby’s RR) driving big cars that they simply cannot park or simply manoeuvre.

Is this just an issue by me or does anyone else encounter this on a daily basis?

Surely the need to be seen in a ‘brand’ isn’t worth the hassle driving one of these cars must bring..Insta has a lot to answer for

OP posts:
LadeOde · 01/06/2025 15:58

'Hubby's RR?' sexist much, can women not own a RR, it has to be hubby's?

TheyreLikeUsButRichAndThin · 01/06/2025 16:00

See a lot of RRs locally but rarely parked badly. Maybe they have a lot of kids? Like the high road position?

JenniferBooth · 01/06/2025 16:01

shuggles · 01/06/2025 15:22

@HulinSings I agree OP.

People who drive massive cars when their annual mileage is only 7k - 8k a year, and they only use their car for commuting to work, going to the supermarket, or doing the school run, reminds me of the novice golfers who show up to a golf course with a new £1000 set of golf clubs. Everyone sees those people, and they laugh. Just as they laugh at casual drivers who can't manoevure massive overpriced cars.

Buy a large car if your job involves moving a lot of heavy, bulky objects. Or if you're someone who drives for a living or commutes more than 20k miles a year, then perhaps it makes sense to have a comfortable car.

If your car is just a means to get to your job, go to the supermarket, or do the school run, then your place is in an A segment or B segment car.

If you're a casual driver who can't manoevure a massive SUV, then everyone is looking at you and they are laughing.

A school run mum was driving one of these and very nearly scraped my friends Suzuki Swift slowly trying to move out of a side road because she couldnt wait. We were on the main road and traffic was at a standstill.

LadeOde · 01/06/2025 16:01

shuggles · 01/06/2025 15:41

@Whenim63 You don't need a Range Rover for SUV for 3 kids. Obviously you will be aware that 30 years ago, very few people drove SUVs, and yet everyone was able to get around fine in moderate-sized sedans.

To answer your question in terms of being able to know who is who, OP already covered this in their original post; you can tell who is a novice driver from their driving style.

Signs of novice drivers (or poor driving) include:

  1. Difficulty manoevuring or parking a large vehicle.
  2. Poor lane discipline.
  3. Not adhering to road signs and road markings.
  4. Exceeding the speed limit.
  5. Driving aggressively, or road rage.
  6. Not showing consideration for other road users, particularly vulnerable road users.
  7. Engine idling.
  8. Using a phone while driving or while the engine is running.
Edited

I've seen 7 out of 8 of the things you listed, and none of them were novice drivers, just bad drivers.

shuggles · 01/06/2025 16:02

@Whenim63 No way anyone can tell that from how someone parks a car. Nor does how anyone parks a car tell you anything about your long (and frankly, slightly obsessive) list?

I presented a list of signs of a novice driver. If you are saying those are not signs of a novice driver, then you are incorrect.

You honestly believe that someone who drives an suv and is shit at parking also the exceeds the speed limit or uses the phone whilst driving?

All of the points are obviously independent. A novice driver can display all of those traits, or only some.

shuggles · 01/06/2025 16:03

@LadeOde I've seen 7 out of 8 of the things you listed, and none of them were novice drivers, just bad drivers.

I think it's fair to say that a bad driver is a novice driver who never progressed beyond being a novice.

DJSteves · 01/06/2025 16:26

i drive a big Mitsubishi and a tiny Skoda. The big car is easier to park as your peripheral vision is better. Plus the turning circle is more responsive. YABU

Whenim63 · 01/06/2025 16:32

shuggles · 01/06/2025 16:02

@Whenim63 No way anyone can tell that from how someone parks a car. Nor does how anyone parks a car tell you anything about your long (and frankly, slightly obsessive) list?

I presented a list of signs of a novice driver. If you are saying those are not signs of a novice driver, then you are incorrect.

You honestly believe that someone who drives an suv and is shit at parking also the exceeds the speed limit or uses the phone whilst driving?

All of the points are obviously independent. A novice driver can display all of those traits, or only some.

But they have literally nothing to do with how anyone parks a car, which this thread is actually about? And what does being a “novice” driver have to do with anything? As a novice driver, yes I’m sure I was shit at quite a few things. I wasn’t in an SUV though, most novice drivers aren’t?

latetothefisting · 01/06/2025 16:53

shuggles · 01/06/2025 15:22

@HulinSings I agree OP.

People who drive massive cars when their annual mileage is only 7k - 8k a year, and they only use their car for commuting to work, going to the supermarket, or doing the school run, reminds me of the novice golfers who show up to a golf course with a new £1000 set of golf clubs. Everyone sees those people, and they laugh. Just as they laugh at casual drivers who can't manoevure massive overpriced cars.

Buy a large car if your job involves moving a lot of heavy, bulky objects. Or if you're someone who drives for a living or commutes more than 20k miles a year, then perhaps it makes sense to have a comfortable car.

If your car is just a means to get to your job, go to the supermarket, or do the school run, then your place is in an A segment or B segment car.

If you're a casual driver who can't manoevure a massive SUV, then everyone is looking at you and they are laughing.

How does "everyone" know the exact yearly mileage of the driver though?

If I see someone driving an SUV how do I know whether they are a "casual" driver and thus deserve compulsory mockery or someone who lives in the countryside/commutes more than 2k miles a year/has a job moving big objects?

Please let me know, I want to know when I'm supposed to be laughing?
Wouldn't want to let the side down and make you have to amend your ridiculous generalisation!

Oh and I drive a C1 before you think I've got any skin in the game...

Boredlass · 01/06/2025 16:55

bridgetreilly · 01/06/2025 09:56

I still don’t get why manufacturers sell cars that are too big for UK roads and car parks.

They clearly aren’t too big for the road or they wouldn’t be allowed.

I hate the tiny cars that get up to 70mph in a week and a half. They are far more likely to cause accidents going so slow

beesandstrawberries · 01/06/2025 16:57

What my issue is with these people is that they get gigantic expensive cars and park in disabled spaces without a badge so they have the extra room to be able to get out and so no one scratches their precious car.

Helpmeplease2025 · 01/06/2025 17:01

Boredlass · 01/06/2025 16:55

They clearly aren’t too big for the road or they wouldn’t be allowed.

I hate the tiny cars that get up to 70mph in a week and a half. They are far more likely to cause accidents going so slow

And sit in the middle lane at 65…

Stellaris22 · 01/06/2025 17:07

IfNot · 01/06/2025 15:47

There’s never any real reason for having a giant SUV/RR. I grew up in a family of multiple kids and we had one of those long estate cars. It was great, could get loads in it. People like SUVs because they like being high up, but yeah, so many of them a) can’t manoeuvre them and b) think they can just barrel straight at you and you will have to give way no matter what.
It’s scary how massive cars are getting. My car was a mid size hatchback but it’s really old now so looks tiny next to newer versions. My car is so old it has a tape deck but at least I can park the fucker.

People always say they need the space for camping. Then get roof boxes for their SUVs! I camp regularly with large canvas tents (one a 6m emperor bell), no way could we fit our stuff in a SUV boot. We have an estate.

Get a people carrier for multiple kids. SUVs are rarely justified.

Iheartmysmart · 01/06/2025 17:13

I can fit all my camping gear in my Smart ForTwo, I just needed to be very mindful of what I bought and how much space it took up. Even when DS was little and we went camping as a family, we only had a Peugeot 206SW and that was tiny in comparison to cars now.

TY78910 · 01/06/2025 17:24

Would you say this about someone driving a Peugeot 3008 or just range rovers because of this stereotype you’re so hung up on? Both cars are about the same size but one is just a car, while the other is associated with a certain type of person.

stuntbubbles · 01/06/2025 17:31

Our school run is overrun with Land Rovers. One is particularly annoying: tricked out with bespoke design features and with a personalised number plate. At least it’s memorable when we all see her scrape the sides of cars as she tries to fit through too narrow a lane.

I live on a narrow road, just enough room for cars on two sides if everyone goes right up against the kerb; bin lorry fits down the middle only if we have all scraped the kerb and all the wing mirrors are tucked in, has to go SLOW. If you’re parking and adjusting position, a normal car can get past while you’re still wiggling to get as close to the kerb as pos for everyone else. Big SUVs can’t though, so they just squat there watching you like an exam invigilator. Just drive a normal car and you’d long be on your way, pal!

Stellaris22 · 01/06/2025 17:36

But why get a car that suits your lifestyle when you can get an impractical car instead?

user1476613140 · 01/06/2025 17:39

Often wonder this myself...

EasierToWalkAway · 01/06/2025 17:47

Octavia64 · 01/06/2025 09:57

It fits my wheelchair in

Yes, but this would be an exception. The roads are full of these massive cars but few of them would have wheelchair users/passengers.

Thebaldprimadonna · 01/06/2025 17:53

We were forced to change from a Mini to an SUV to a accommodate my daughter's new wheelchair. I was always ranting about 'stupidly big cars' and now I have to drive one😫

LadeOde · 01/06/2025 17:56

shuggles · 01/06/2025 16:03

@LadeOde I've seen 7 out of 8 of the things you listed, and none of them were novice drivers, just bad drivers.

I think it's fair to say that a bad driver is a novice driver who never progressed beyond being a novice.

A novice driver (just got their licence) is someone who is 'new or inexperienced' in driving. That doesn't automatically equate to being a bad driver. A bad driver is someone, regardless of how many yrs of driving, drives badly. A lot picked up bad driving habits as they became more 'experienced' at driving and some just never grasped the basic principles. So, no, your assertion is incorrect.

greencartbluecart · 01/06/2025 18:02

Tiny cars don’t necesssarily go slowly - it’s the driver that makes the speed ( a very slow acceleration usually means lazy with gears - an underpowered car needs to be in a lower gear for longer )

if the slow acceleration of a car is a problem for you, how do you cope with lorry’s on the road ?

there is a lack of driving skill and a lack of tolerance for others and cars are getting bigger - along with the occupants

( can’t get the incorrect ‘ to go without spell correct going loopy )

330ml · 01/06/2025 18:04

You don't need a Range Rover for SUV for 3 kids. Obviously you will be aware that 30 years ago, very few people drove SUVs, and yet everyone was able to get around fine in moderate-sized sedans.

That’s because 30 years ago a moderate sized sedan, or saloon in UK parlance, was the same size inside as a present day large saloon or SUV. Cars have bloated.

LuvACustardCream · 01/06/2025 18:10

I really don't like the sexist tone of the original post. However, I also think that unless you live in the countryside, you don't need a 4x4.
I loved mine, and despite being a mere female had no problem driving it down narrow tracks. I could even reverse it and park it without it having any cameras or sensors. Mine was a muddy 4x4 with dogs in the back. Maybe that's the difference.

JohnofWessex · 01/06/2025 18:36

Surveys of people who drive SUV's strongly suggest that they are twats

Clearly there are people like farmers who use them to tow trailers or people who need them for wheelchairs but the vast majority dont.

What is clear is that

  1. They are more likley to roll over
  2. 2They are significantly more dangerous to other road users